培养女儿的目标到底是什么？女孩父母都该思考 ...
橘子：前几天遇到一个90后的小妹妹，快要大学毕业了，我问她，你想做什么？她说自己也不是很清楚，不过她父母对她的未来倒是蛮有想法的，希望她进一个比较稳定不错的体制内的单位，安安稳稳工作，然后 ......
我还遇到一个公司老板，女儿一直读很好的学校，现在国外留学。谈及他对女儿的期待，感觉这位老板爸爸的期待也是女儿能嫁个门当户对的人家，然后 ......
难道，这么些优秀的女孩，未来仅仅是这样的么？最近美国一个著名媒体评选出了一张全球“女性人物”名单，这些女性不光成就斐然，而且都有个性强烈的主张，非常自我，和我们传统中温顺乖巧的“好女孩”形象差得很远。
这些女性，你会介绍给自己的女儿，成为她的 Role Model （榜样）么？
今天，橘子从这张有五六十个人的单子里选出其中33位中国人比较熟悉的给大家看下，从她们的Quotes里我们也许能产生一些思考：
我培养女儿的目标到底是什么？我希望女儿成为什么样的人？一个女孩或女人，我希望她的人生走多远？
这里的意思，并不是说我们鼓励女孩、女人都成为事业第一的女强人，而是说，女孩、女人，都应该成为完整的自己，不应该让对女性的传统定义、世俗看法束缚人生的各种可能。橘子想说一句，不管是男人，还是女人，人生在世，能成就一些自己想做的事情，不管是什么，都是很不错的。女孩，女人，请都不要轻言放弃 ...
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1、Beyoncé
超级歌星、企业家
“I truly believe that women should be financially independent from their men. And let’s face it, money gives men the power to run the show. It gives men the power to define value. They define what’s sexy. And men define what’s feminine. It’s ridiculous.”
我认为女性应该争取财务自由，正是金钱给了男人定义世间一切的权力，我们要改变这种游戏规则 ...
2、Gloria Steinem
世界著名女权主义者
“Any woman who chooses to behave like a full human being should be warned that the armies of the status quo will treat her as something of a dirty joke… She will need her sisterhood.”
一个女人如果要成为一个全方位的人，就会遇到巨大阻力，我们应该团结起来，打破这种现状 ...
3、 Emma Watson
英国新生代著名演员，女权主义者
“Becoming yourself is really hard and confusing, and it’s a process. It’s often not cool to be the person who puts themselves out there.”
成为你自己有时候会非常艰难和让人困惑，这是一个过程 ... 不要放弃
4、Aung San Suu Kyi
昂山素季，诺贝尔和平奖获得者、有世界影响力的政治家
“If you’re feeling helpless, help someone.”
如果你感觉无助，就去帮助别人
5、Christiane Amanpour
美国著名战地记者
“Because if we the storytellers don’t do this, then the bad people will win.”
如果我们不去报道真相，坏人就将胜利
6、Tina Fey
美国著名喜剧作家、制片人、演员
“Do your thing and don’t care if they like it.”
做你自己的事，不要管别人是否喜欢。
7、Ruth Bader Ginsburg
美国最高法院法官
“Women will only have true equality when men share with them the responsibility of bringing up the next generation"
男女平等只有当男人也同样担负起育儿责任后才能真正实现。
8、Tavi Gevinson
96年出生的前卫杂志主编、演员
“I wanted to start a website for teenaged girls that was not kind of this one-dimensional strong character empowerment thing, because one thing that can be very alienating about a misconception of feminism is that girls then think that to be feminists, they have to live up to being perfectly consistent in their beliefs, never being insecure, never having doubts, having all the answers…and this is not true and actually, recognizing all the contradictions I was feeling became easier once I realized that feminism was not a rule book but a discussion, a conversation, a process.”
我想为十几岁的女孩做一个网站，让她们知道强大并不意味着没有软弱、动摇、困惑，女权主义不是一套行事规则，而是一场讨论、一次对话、一个过程 ...
9、 Melissa McCarthy
演员、制片人
“Hollywood wants to make women so perfect. Perfect hair. Perfect job. Perfect manners… I know some of the most beautiful women, and they are so weird. That’s what makes them funny and captivating.”
好莱坞让女性看上去很完美，而我认识这样的女人，她们很“古怪”，而正是这种不同寻常的特性让她们变得很有趣很性感。
10、 Angela Merkel
德国总理
“I never underestimated myself. And I never saw anything wrong with ambition.”
我从来不低估自己，我从来不觉得雄心勃勃有什么不妥。
11、Veronica Roth
作家，22岁写出大热科幻三部曲 Divergent Trillogy
“I want people to come away from my book with questions. Questions about virtue and goodness. Not answers.”
我希望人们读完我的书后去思考一些问题，关于品德、善行，而不是获得答案。
12、Emma Thompson
英国著名演员、作家
“Maybe I don’t take myself so seriously any more. And I don’t care how I’m judged. I’m past all that.”
我现在不怎么把自己太当回事，也不再关心人们怎么看我，我已经过了这个阶段了。
13、Oprah Winfrey
美国家喻户晓的访谈秀主持人、企业家
“The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams.”
你的人生所能经历的最大冒险就是过上你梦想的生活。
14. J.K. Rowling
《哈利波特》作者
“I was set free because my greatest fear had been realized, and I still had a daughter who I adored, and I had an old typewriter and a big idea. And so rock bottom became a solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.”
（当时）我最怕的事情发生了，这反而让我感到自由。我还有一个女儿，有一部老式打字机，有一个伟大的主意。所以我可以从最底部开始重启我的生活。
15、Emma Stone
美国新生代著名演员
“Confidence is the only key. I know a lot of people who aren’t traditionally ‘beautiful’ — not symmetrical or perfect-bodied or perfect-skinned. But none of that matters because all that shines through is their confidence, humor, and comfort with themselves. I can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone who is unafraid to be herself.”
自信是一切，我遇到很多人并不具有传统意义上的美貌，但这一点都不重要，他们自信、富有幽默感、神态自如、对自己感觉舒服，这让我感觉他们非常漂亮。
16、Angelina Jolie
演员、制片人、导演、社会活动家
“I realized that very young — that a life where you don’t live to your full potential, or you don’t experiment, or you’re afraid, or you hesitate, or there are things you know you should do but you just don’t get around to them, is a life that I’d be miserable living, and the only way to feel that I’m on the right path is just to be true to myself, whatever that may be, and that tends to come with stepping out of something that’s maybe safe or traditional.”
我很年轻的时候就意识到，如果你不活出自己全部的潜力、不去实验和冒险，如果你害怕、犹豫、躲避，该做的事情没有去做，这样的生活会很糟糕；当我忠于自己的时候，我会知道我在做正确的事情。
17、 Marissa Mayer
雅虎CEO
“I love technology, and I don’t think it’s something that should divide along gender lines.”
我热爱技术，我不觉得这一点上男女有别。
18、 Jennifer Lawrence
美国新生代著名演员
“Teenagers only have to focus on themselves - its not until we get older that we realize that other people exist.”
十几岁的孩子就该很自我，等他们长大一些再去关注别人的存在吧
19、Barbara Walters
美国顶尖女记者、电视人
“This is what I tell, especially young women, fight the big fights. Don’t fight the little fight… Be the first one in, be the last one out. Do your homework, choose your battles. Don’t whine, and don’t be the one who complains about everything. Fight the big fight.”
我告诉年轻的女性，挑大的战役去打，第一个进去，最后一个出来，做好准备，选好战场，永不抱怨 ...
20、Margaret Cho
美国亚裔喜剧演员
“Ugly is irrelevant. It is an immeasurable insult to a woman, and then supposedly the worst crime you can commit as a woman. But ugly, as beautiful, is an illusion.”
说一个女人丑陋，是对她最大的侮辱；而长得不漂亮，作为女人你也许会觉得这是自己犯下的最大罪过；不过让我告诉你，丑陋，和美丽一样，都只是我们的幻觉 ...
21、Nora Ephron
《西雅图无眠》等经典爱情电影的剧作者
“Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”
比一切都重要的是，成为你自己生活里的英雄，而不是受害者
22、Lorde
1996年出生的风靡世界的新西兰新生代歌手、歌曲作者
“I’ve totally learned in this process that 99% of the time, your gut is right, and you know what’s right for you. I know exactly what’s right for my career and for my art, and sometimes, even if the whole room is saying, ‘Don’t do that, don’t do that,’ you know that doing that is going to be good for you, in the long run.”
我相信我的直觉，我知道在我的事业和艺术上该怎么做才对，有时候即使满屋子的人都反对，我都会知道什么是正确的选择 ...
23、Diane Von Furstenberg
美国著名服装设计师，Wrap Dress（包裹裙）的发明人
“I wanted to be an independent woman, a woman who could pay for her bills, a woman who could run her own life — and I became that woman.”
我早就下定决心成为一个独立的女人，自己付账，自己掌控生活 － 我现在成为了我想成为的这种女人。
24、Ellen DeGeneres
美国著名喜剧演员、访谈节目主持人
“I'm not an activist; I don't look for controversy. I'm not a political person, but I'm a person with compassion. I care passionately about equal rights. I care about human rights. I care about animal rights”
我不是一个有特别社会主张的人，我不寻找争议，不关心政治。但我是一个有同情心的人，我非常关心权利平等：我关心人权平等，我也关心动物的基本权利得到保障。
25、Meryl Streep
美国著名演员
“You just have to keep on doing what you do. It’s the lesson I get from my husband. He just says, ‘Keep going. Start by starting.’”
你只需一直努力去做。我丈夫让我领会了这一点，他做事说：继续努力，要用“开始”去开始。
26、Michelle Obama
米歇尔奥巴马，美国总统夫人
“One of the lessons that I grew up with was to always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody else says distract you from your goals. And so when I hear about negative and false attacks, I really don’t invest any energy in them, because I know who I am.”
从小长大，我记住一点，盯住你的目标，忠于自己，不要被别人的负面和虚假的攻击所影响，忽略它们 ...
27、Sheryl Sandberg
脸书（Facebook) 首席运营官、畅销书作者
“In the future, there will be no female leaders. There will just be leaders.”
未来，将没有女性领袖这一说，领袖，就是领袖
28、Barbra Streisand
芭芭拉史翠珊，美国著名歌手、演员
“Men are allowed to have passion and commitment for their work… a woman is allowed that feeling for a man, but not her work？”
对男人来说，对自己的工作投入热情和专注，理所应当，对女人来说，难道她应该投入热情和专注的对象居然只能是男人（和家庭）？
29、Adele
英国新生代著名歌手
“It’s never been an issue for me - I don’t want to go on a diet, I don’t want to eat a Caesar salad with no dressing, why would I do that? I ain’t got time for this, just be happy and don’t be stupid.”
我从不刻意减肥，为什么我要那样去做？
30、Kristen Wiig
著名喜剧作者
“If you’re creating anything at all, it’s really dangerous to care about what people think.”
如果你要创造什么新的东西，去关心别人的想法是很危险的。
31、Taylor Swift
美国著名新生代歌手
“I have this really high priority on happiness and finding something to be happy about.”
我认为快乐比什么都重要，我努力寻找生活中的点滴快乐
32、Diane Sawyer
美国著名记者、主持人
“Whatever you want in life, other people are going to want it too. Believe in yourself enough to accept the idea that you have an equal right to it.“
生活中你想要的东西别人也都想要。你要相信自己，你有和别人一样的权利去获得你想要的任何东西。
33、Hillary Clinton
希拉里克林顿，前美国第一夫人、参议员、国务卿、现总统候选人
“I believe that the rights of women and girls is the unfinished business of the 21st century.”
我相信在21世纪，女孩以及女性的权利平等还是一场未尽的斗争。
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