新教材 | 2019 北师大版 高中英语 B2-U4-L3 The Internet VS Friendships

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The Problem with Online Friendship

BY JEFF GOINS INFLUENCE

The problem with online friendship is that when things go wrong, we split. When I say something that makes you uncomfortable, or when you offend me, we’ll go our separate ways more often than not. And this flies in the face of how people actually become friends.

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True friendship only happens when people honestly share their lives with one another. Inevitably, one person will upset the other. This is what happens when you put flawed humans in a room together: they start breaking things. Usually each other.

But something beautiful happens when we push through that initial discomfort and offense and learn to forgive each other. Intimacy is formed. Trust is established. And this, incidentally, is why the Internet makes for a pretty lousy matchmaker between friends.

A decade or so ago, we started doing something we’ve never done before.

We started making friends with people we had never met. Sure, we used to do pen pals and long-distance relationships, but we’ve never had a 24/7 shared connection as is now available to us, thanks to the web.

Something odd happens with this heightened level of intimacy without commitment. People get sensitive. Some turn into jerks.

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Because I know what you ate for breakfast or what TV show you watched last night, I feel like I know you. We are connected to each other — and sometimes not always superficially. We may share legitimate, real-life interactions.

As a result, we feel like we really understand each other. And maybe we do, in some way.

But the problem comes when one of us says something to get on the other’s nerves.

And trust me: it’s going to happen. Then, we are in a pickle. Because it’s easy to ignore people online, to play passive-aggressive and give the cold shoulder. And the worst part is they have no idea.

It’s easier to write off online relationships than offline ones. And this scares me. Because I have a few of these web-based friendships. And I want them to count. I want this connection to matter — as much as it can.

What if we didn’t walk away when things got hard?

What if we pressed into the mess of relationship and got to know each other, warts and all? Is that too much to ask?

I’m not talking about another ridiculous network or campaign. I’m just talking about buy-in. What if we were really committed? What if I cared enough to stick it out, even after that dumb tweet or stupid status update you wrote?

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Well, then we might actually be friends.

附2：Internet Friends

Internet has become not only become a vital necessity but also a virtual world for people. Not only people use it for business liaisons and work, it has also become a popular medium for social networking. With increasing internet usage, the trend of internet friendship has also become popular. Online friends are those people who have known each other through the Internet. Making internet friends is similar to making pen pals. There are many well known sites that offer decent internet friendship. One can find numerous people on these sites who share similar interests and mind sets. When a person logs on to such a site and starts to talk to people, he / she may find a friend for life. There are certain precautions to be kept in mind while making internet friends.

How To Make Internet Friends?

It is not very easy to nurture a friendship with someone you cannot see or feel. This is the main issue that internet friendship faces. Without the physical presence of the person, it is very difficult to form a friendship that would last forever. Yet some people argue that not being able to see each other is an advantage. Some people are not quite confident about their looks and some are afraid to speak up in public or a group. Online friendship is very helpful for such people.

However, the chances of deception are very high in an internet friendship. Any anonymous person with a computer can log onto such a site and make friends with wrong intentions. Thus, while making friends over the internet, one has to be extremely careful and follow certain precautions. There are certain guidelines that are to be religiously followed if you are going for online friendship. Also, remember that online friendship can't remain online forever, because after some time it becomes mandatory to meet a person to take the relationship to the next level.

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Tips For Online Friendship

• Do not divulge personal information like your telephone number, address, location, school / college name, professional details of your parents, etc. with unknown people on the internet.

• Disconnect the line if you feel the person is probing in too much detail about your personal life.

• Do not disclose anything about friends or relatives or other family members.

• Do not exchange personal photographs of yours or any family member with people you meet over the internet.

• Don't go to meet a person you have just met over the internet. Consult elder people or someone who is experienced and if you have to go, take someone trustworthy with you.

• Do not disclose information such as your email password, credit card numbers, ATM password, etc to someone you have just met over the internet.

• If you feel someone is not genuine, do not accept his / her friend's request. Do not forward emails to unknown people nor read unknown mails.

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The Internet Harms Friendships

互联网对友谊有害

While the Internet can bring people closer together, it can also harm friendships.

虽然互联网可以让人们更亲近，但它也会损害友谊。

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Firstly, talking online is no replacement for face-to-face Robert contact—images really cannot replace a real-life smile or hug. According to a parenting expert, Denise Daniels, communicating through a screen makes it more difficult for children to concentrate or show kindness to others. As we know, important social skills are developed through direct contact with other people. It is these skills that enable us to develop lifelong friendships.

首先，在网上聊天并不能代替面对面的交流——图片当然无法代替现实生活中的微笑或拥抱。根据育儿专家丹尼斯·丹尼尔斯的说法，通过屏幕交流会使儿童更难集中注意力或对他人表示善意。众所周知，重要的社交技能是通过直接与他人接触培养的，正是这些技能使我们发展终生的友谊。

Secondly, the Internet can make people self-centred—not thinking of anyone or anything but themselves. For example, instead of having proper conversations with their friends, some people are only concerned with their online popularity—How many “likes” did I get? How many followers do I have?—though we know that the number of “likes” or followers cannot compare to having long-term and rewarding friendships. In addition, a lot of the content posted on social media is shallow or trivial. Posts about funny cat images do not necessarily help form meaningful relationships. 

其次，互联网使人们以自我为中心，不去想除自己之外的任何人或任何事。例如，一些人不再和朋友好好地交谈了，他们只关心自己网上的人气——我得了多少个“赞”？多少人关注了我？——尽管我们知道有多少“赞”或关注者无法与拥有长期和有益的友谊相比。此外，很多发布在社交媒体上的内容都很肤浅或琐碎。在网上发布搞笑猫咪的图片并不一定会帮助我们发展有意义的关系。

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Thirdly, online relationships may not be what they appear to be. Friendships are built on the basis of trust, and with online communication you can never be 100 percent sure that the people you are chatting to is being honest about who they are. Because of this, going online can be particularly dangerous for people who are easily influenced or too trusting.

第三，网络关系可能并不是它们看起来的样子。友谊建立在信任的基础上，通过线上交流，你永远不能百分之百地确信与你交谈的人是否以诚相待。因此，对于那些容易受影响或过于信任他人的人来说，上网尤其危险。

In my opinion, friends should focus more on face-to-face communication, and less on online communication. This is the best way to maintain healthy relationships.

在我看来，朋友们应该多关注面对面的交流，少进行线上交流。这是保持健康关系的最佳方式。

The Internet Helps Friendships

互联网对友谊有益

The Internet can help develop friendships in many ways.

互联网在很多方面都有助于友谊发展。

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Firstly, the Internet makes communication much more convenient. You can stay in touch with friends no matter where you are or what you are doing. Using a smartphone, a tablet or a computer, you can be in contact at home and also when you are on the move.

首先，互联网使交流更加便捷。无论你在哪里，在做什么，都可以和朋友保持联系。通过使用智能手机、平板电脑或电脑，无论你在家里还是在外面都能与他人联络。

Secondly, the Internet has also made communication more fun. Traditional ways of communicating, like letters and phone calls, can be limiting and take time. However, you can share photos, videos, news stories and websites with your friends online. You can give a brief response to a message with an emoji or a picture. There are so many online tools you can use to be creative!

其次，互联网也使交流变得更加有趣。传统的沟通方式，如信件和电话，限制条件较多，而且比较耗时。而通过互联网，你可以在线与朋友共享照片、视频、新闻故事和网站。你可以用一个表情符号或一张图片简短地回复信息。你可以使用这么多的在线工具，让交流变得有创意！

Thirdly, online communication can actually bring people closer to each other. Nowadays, your friends are just a click away. Whenever someone needs help, friends from all over the world can immediately provide useful suggestions or information. This makes friends feel loved and cared for. To me, this is a very thought-provoking argument, as it points out the benefits of online friendships. As Eileen Kennedy-Moore, an authority on the subject, points out, online friends “fill holes real-life friends can’t”.

第三，在线交流实际上可以让人们更亲近。现在，只要点一下鼠标，就能找到你的朋友。无论何时有人需要帮助，来自世界各地的朋友可以立即提供有用的建议或信息。这能让朋友们感到被爱和被关心。对我来说，这非常发人深省，因为它指出了线上友谊的好处。正如艾琳·肯尼迪·摩尔所指出的，网络朋友“填补了现实生活中朋友无法填补的空白”。

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Finally, I believe the Internet brings people closer together and makes communication with friends more convenient and interesting.

最后，我相信互联网能使人们更紧密地联系在一起，让与朋友的交流更加方便和有趣。