Photograph: Yang Xiaozhe
Phil and Weiwei met at a dinner party in 2007. While it wasn't exactly love at first sight, they've been married since 2011 and are proud parents as of 2018.
Phil: We met at a dinner party. My friend hosting said he was bringing three guys and his girlfriend was bringing three girls.
Weiwei: I remember Phil arrived quite late.
Phil: I was in Guangzhou for work the day before, went out on an all-nighter and jumped on my flight to Shanghai – still in my suit from the evening before – and went straight from the airport to the party. Everyone else was looking so glammed up and really cool.
Weiwei: When he arrived, I couldn't see anything else but the red wine stain on his white shirt. I left that dinner without much of an impression, but the following Friday we were invited to another party at the same house: Mexican night.
Phil: I think these people were swingers.
Weiwei: I was an office broker at the time and Phil asked me about office spaces.
Weiwei: I was excited by the prospect of a potential new client. The next night we were both meant to go to Glamour Bar, so we talked business there for a bit. He was his funny self – and, you know, the funny guy wins the girl.
Phil: Then nothing happened. This was before WeChat, so we were probably faxing each other, sending notes via carrier pigeons, but the next weekend we met again at the bar that's now Hollywood.
Weiwei: That was the night he asked me out on an 'official date'. Actually, though, I went to the bathroom and when I came out there was no sign of Phil – a friend told me that he'd taken a very drunk girl home.
Phil: A friend of ours who was super drunk and couldn't stand – I took her home and then came back to the bar, showing how caring I was.
Weiwei: That was Friday. Saturday, no message. Sunday, nothing. So I figured he wasn't serious about the date, but in the evening he messaged asking if I was interested in dinner on Monday.
Phil: It was a tactic… If she said yes to Monday, she was obviously keen, because no one really wants to go out on a Monday. Now, we've been together 11 years and had a baby three months ago. Couldn't be happier – right, Wei?