男女婚配,相差几岁最好?
男大当婚,女大当嫁,到底两人相差多少岁能够保障婚姻美满?
—— 禅语君
和同龄人在一起真的就是最好的选择吗?老少配为什么就不行?
年龄差距
从命理上来看,男女婚配并无年龄上的限制。
中国的干支纪年,一般都把12年当作一个小轮回。
所以在12岁以内的都算是同龄人,在这个范畴内极易产生感情。
中国的绝大多数夫妻都在这个年龄范畴以内,这是第一婚配区域。
如果相差12岁以上24岁以下,虽然是两个小轮回,但也在容易产生情感的范畴以内。
这种夫妻也不少见,这是第二婚配区域。
如果相差24岁以上,那就属于两辈人了,产生感情的机率就比较低了。
如果有,也是忘年交、老少恋,或是有些客观因素而导致的,这是第三婚配区域。
这三个大的婚配区域,各有自己的婚配特点。
即便是相差12岁以内的第一区域,也不是所有的年龄都是合适的婚配,也有婚姻不幸的事实。
传统观念,门当户对
从传统观念上来看,在中国古代并不十分在乎夫妻的年龄差距,那时主要看是否门当户对。
所谓的门当户对一般是指物质基础而言,我们都知道,旧社会有很多夫妻年龄差距都是比较大的。
一般是男大女小,男女在第二个婚配区域的为多数。
这是因为受传统观念与命理的影响,现代社会之所以婚龄差距缩小了。
从一定意义上看,是由于破除迷信,提倡新婚姻观念,和讲究男女平等所致。
五行配合,天合地合
其实在传统婚配上,古人早就突破了这种年龄平等观念的束缚。
命理上的天合地合与六合三合,就没有把年龄差距考虑在内,而是顺其自然,随缘而遇。
根据古人的概念,天合地合的婚配是上上等婚配,但他们的年龄差距却都很大。
比如1974甲寅年的虎女,要配1959己亥年的猪男。
构成天干甲己合、地支亥寅合,两者相差15岁,属于婚配中的第二个区域。
现实中第二个区域的夫妻婚配也不在少数,比如金庸与林乐怡,相差27岁;李敖和王小屯,相差29岁。
至于年龄差距多大才是最合适的婚配,概括来看还是第二个婚配区域最为合适,这种婚配最为稳固长久。
在第一个区域内,也讲究合适的岁数,习惯上分别以三岁、五岁和七岁为比较合适。
如何看是否相合?
运用的方法是,以出生的年干支来查看,比如生于76丙辰年的男生,如配81辛酉年的女生,这就是天合地合,俗称龙凤配。
87丁卯年女,如配82壬戌年男,86丙寅年女,如配71辛亥年男,也都是天合地合,都是命理中的上上等婚配。
有些年干虽说不合,有可能相生或相克,但地支只要相合的也可,比如85乙丑年女,可配72壬子年男。
当然,这只是概括地从年上来看。
如果能结合双方八字整体状况,或至少结合双方日柱状态来看,那就更准确具体了。
世间的事也没有完全绝对的,你说呢。
BEIJING, Nov. 6 (Xinhua) -- China will firmly adhere to opening-up and the principle of multilateralism to push for the in-depth development of globalization, Chinese Premier Li Keqiang said on Tuesday.
Li made the remarks when holding the third "1+6" Roundtable with leaders of major international economic and financial institutions in Beijing.
When talking about the current global economic situation, Premier Li said the world has come at a cross road and faces a historical choice.
"We believe multilateralism is the only way to achieve prosperity and inclusive growth, and the trend of globalization should not be reversed," he said.
He also said that China is willing to strengthen communication and consultation with all parties to accommodate the interests of countries of different development stages and groups of different income levels.
China firmly supports multilateralism and opposes unilateralism and protectionism, and will work with other countries to promote economic globalization toward a more open, inclusive, universally beneficial, balanced and win-win direction, and jointly build an open world economy, Li said.
Full Text: Joint Press Release of the Third "1+6" Roundtable
BEIJING, Nov. 6 (Xinhua) -- China will firmly adhere to opening-up and the principle of multilateralism to push for the in-depth development of globalization, Chinese Premier Li Keqiang said on Tuesday.
Li made the remarks when holding the third "1+6" Roundtable with leaders of major international economic and financial institutions in Beijing.
When talking about the current global economic situation, Premier Li said the world has come at a cross road and faces a historical choice.
"We believe multilateralism is the only way to achieve prosperity and inclusive growth, and the trend of globalization should not be reversed," he said.
He also said that China is willing to strengthen communication and consultation with all parties to accommodate the interests of countries of different development stages and groups of different income levels.
China firmly supports multilateralism and opposes unilateralism and protectionism, and will work with other countries to promote economic globalization toward a more open, inclusive, universally beneficial, balanced and win-win direction, and jointly build an open world economy, Li said.
Full Text: Joint Press Release of the Third "1+6" Roundtable