“没有任何一个人从小的梦想是从事色情行业。”演讲者说当他认识到这一点的时候，其实在看色情片的同时也在为色情产业提供帮助。演讲者也阐述了A片的最大伤害以及色情片和卖淫产业的运作又是怎样的。
I stopped watching porn for two reasons basically.porn brought so much anger and violence into my private fantasies.And these were anger and violence that were not there originally to begin with.And I did not want it for me anymore.This was not me and, I decided to just put an end to it.Easier said than done… I got it later, but…The second reason was that I became to realize…I came to realize that only by watching pornI take part in creating a demand for filmed prostitutionbecause that’s what porn really is: filmed prostitution.“Pornē” stands for prostitute, “graphia” stands for documentation.Prostitution was nobody’s childhood dream,it is always a result of trouble and distress.Now, I became aware of that gradually, when I was volunteeringwith men and women in prostitution, some of them victims of human traffic,serving aid in brothels, under the bridge and street corners.But you don’t really need to do all that in order to understandhow this mechanism of porn and prostitution works.因为小黄片自成一格 它不是传统意义上的色情作品或者健康的性交流Because porn is a genre – it’s not about erotica or healthy sexual communication.It’s all about male domination of women, subordinance of women.Not only the sexual practice, but as a way of being,as a genderial hierarchy in this world.how does it define something as sexual?What qualifies, what defines something as sexual?Porn would laugh in our face.What defines sexual? Whatever men find arousing…Men find it arousing to choke a woman?To have a brutal sex without one touch, hug, kiss, tender caress?It arouses men to see a woman or child cry?It arouses men to rape a woman, well, then it is sexual.In every mainstream porn gallery on the web,we can find the rape category side by side with the humiliation category,abuse category, crime category and so on.And this is all as if this regular porn is not already filled with these motives.Even in its mildest version, the mildest version of porn,what porn is showing us like, I know, 80%, maybe 90% of the timeis actually sex with no hands involved. This is not how we authentically desire…不好意思 我看到你们的表情了 我再重复一下 不用手Sorry, I’ll repeat that, I see your look. Sex with no hands involved… okay.If you and I are not going to give up watching pornthe next thing you do watch just you just notice thatporn cameras have no interest in capturingany normal sensual activities such as petting, caressing,making out, touching, hugging, kissing… No…What porn cameras are into is the penetration.So normally the composition will be a man and a woman,hopefully just one, okay… so, one man and one woman…It doesn’t matter where inside. Somewhere inside.His penis is somewhere inside her, okay?And in order not to block the camerafor doing this extreme close up on the penetration,he’s standing with his hands behind his back most of the time.And the woman is in this… uncomfortable positionand she needs to handle the penis inside herwithout damaging the hair or make up or look down on herbecause that’s money invested and time invested in her.Without disturbing his aggressive movement and mainly without blocking the cameras.So the result is that we got two people having sexdifferent shapes and acrobatics or something… but they’re having sexwhen the only body parts that actually touch each otherare the penis and the part being penetrated.我跟士兵 学生及小学生们讨论这些 一年大概有250到300次I talked, I don’t know, 250-300 times a year, soldiers, students, pupils…No one has ever come up to me and say“Ran, you know that part with sex with no hands thingthat was my authentic desire, like when I was 11 or 12I never wanted to kiss or touch anybody.I was not curious about that. It was all the penetration to begin with.”No one has ever said that… — before porn.In my private fantasies before watching porn,there was always a very strong narrativeand the narrative was of sensuality and mutuality.Which means that I always imagined what I would say to her?What would she possibly answer?What options do I have to respond?In real life it never worked like I planned,but it was super important in my mind in term of arousalthe build up, the location, the setting, where will it be?What are the circumstances of me and her being all alone all of a sudden.How will this bodily inflaming between us will emerge step by step?It was super important …before porn.After making a habit out of porn…it conquers your mind and it invades your brain.And I lost my ability to imagine.Which mean I found myself… and I won’t be too explicit,but trying to masturbate, just closing my eyestrying to fantasize desperately about something humanand not making it because my head was bombardedwith all of those images of women being violated and subordinatedand forced into pretending they enjoyed diabolic sperm rituals.So, this is pretty much the result.We are all vulnerable to pornography. It’s not just young people…We should be very careful.Not only what we put into our bodiesin term of food and nutritionBut with the nutrition of our mindEverything we watch invades us.I’ll give you a short example from non-sexual areas.I came the other night, I came back homeand my beloved one was watching some cultural junk.She was watching a karaoke show audition, the one with chairs spinning.We don’t have a TV set back home,but only because it allows us to falsely present ourselvesas deep and profound people. (laughter)I’ve never heard of that.谁做了乳腺切除手术？安吉丽娜？我们家没电视机（所以我不知道）Mastectomy who? Angelina? No, we don’t have a TV.We watch every cultural junk possible, okay?Not me, not her, We don’t contemplate about existence.We download stuff. And we download all cultural junk.I am watching this 20 minutes karaoke show.And it was so boring and tedious.Two minutes talking, four minutes blabbering.I lost patience after 20 minutes and I went off to take a showerand the most interesting part was in the shower.Because what I found out there was myself in most pathetic state ever…I’m going to share it with you.I want to feel that you accept and love me,so I will share my most pathetic moment and you have to accept it now.我不知道大概是过了5分钟 7分钟还是10分钟 我才回过神来I don’t know until I got over myself if it took me five, seven, ten minutesto realize that I am standing under the water in the showerpondering severely what would’ve been my song for the auditions?Deep and profound, mind you!I won’t be doing this Rihanna or Lady Gaga’s.I will be doing Mercedes Sosa’s Como Un Pájaro Libre.I’ll be doing a cover for Bob Dylan’s Blind Willie McTell.Ain’t that deep and profound?I had to realize that I’m an idiot because I have no talent for music.More than that, I never wanted to beneither a musician nor a singer or songwriter.This was never a part of my inner world of wishes, okay?But I’m a human being. What can I do?I was watching that for 20 minutes It entered my brain for a while.So if we take this example we can try to measure or estimatethe impact of 20 minutes of watching no matter what,how it invades our mind and conquers our wantings and desires.Let’s just try to imagine or I can share it with you orallywhat is the impact of 20 minutes of watching pornonce or twice a week, nothing unmoderated.And porn is in our household, whether we want it or notand I believe that it does not agree with our well being.in the western world all over the place almost in every cellular phone nowwe’ve got 90% of 12 year-olds watching porn on a regular basis.And it has both an addictive effect and a paralyzing effect.It’s addictive, because it develops somewhat of a dependency on porn.And paralyzing because, mainly for young boys and men,小黄片告诉他们 有着大尺寸的生殖器和保持长时间的勃起porn is teaching us that as a man you are solely valued in sexby having a large penis and an eternal erection.According to porn, being a valuable sexual partnerdoes not relate with being sensual, passionate, attentive,generous, well-coordinated. None of the above.It is all about large penis and eternal sunshine,So boys become paralyzed.And if they don’t become paralyzed by watching pornvery often they turn into imitators of what they saw,which then means they become aggressors.Aggressors, even when emotion is involved.There is so much sexual abuse going on nowadayswithin the confines of what we perceive from the outsideas beautiful teenage love stories, or healthy adult relationships.Because we don’t really talk about sexwe just see it all over, we don’t really talk about it.So, what goes on in the confines of a certain roombut these are all sexual mutations that happen.If we talk about women, it’s not only that,but young girls even get the message not only from hardcore pornbut from a porn influenced main stream culture.你看过麦莉.赛勒斯 LadyGaga的视频或者广告吗？Have you seen any Miley Cirus, Lady Gaga video clips or commercials?That’s porn with clothes on.So girls get this notion that if you want to be worthy of lovefirst and foremost you have to be worthy of sexual desire.And now, the definition of sexual desire almost equals: be like a porn star.So I work in dozens and dozens of high schools and junior highs.In every single one of these schools I find girlsthat at a certain point agreed to be documented in an intimate situationbecause they wanted to please some guy that they had feelings for.And this guy misappropriated their trust. Always the same story.于是他把视频或照片挂在WhatsApp应用程序或者网站上卖So he sells it on WhatsApp application or on the web, on the internet.And normally nobody even addresses him in terms of moral.But it is always girls that suffer from shaming and mortification.They can change the school… they drop out normally.They can move to another city and still be haunted on social networks.They develop clinical depressions, severe eating disorders,as if we don’t have enough reasons in our culture to develop eating disorders.They become so isolated socially.其中有些人 像阿曼达·托德（因色情视频泄露而）自杀了So some of them – like Amanda Todd, rest in peace… –some of them actually commit suicide.Because they find no more value in life or in themselves.所以小黄片不只是家里的视频 它会导致一些女孩的自杀So, porn is not only in our house. It is a capital case.It is not a minor phenomenon in our society.It is a question of life and death sometimes.It is mainly a question of life and death for the people who participate in porn,because porn is not an embodiment of freedom of speech,freedom of occupation, blah-blah… No. It’s an embodiment of sex-exploitation,working side-by-side with human traffic raping, pimping, solicitation.For every one porn start with a book contractwe’ve got hundreds of thousands of women and girlswho do not survive out there. Literally, they just don’t make it.The sex industry just chews them up and spits them backinto brothels, into hooking in the street,escorting, massage parlors with happy or unhappy endingdepends who you ask. And I am not joking.This is the whole spectrum of prostitution.So many of them do not even make it to the age of 50.I am talking about countries that the life expectancyThey don’t make it to the age of 50. 4 reasons mainly.Drugs, STD – Sexually Transmitted Diseasesbeing murdered by a john, a pimp, a boyfriendand the fourth reason is suicide once again.Because if you are a prostitute, on camera or off camera,you are in the situation that we can refer to as social death.We have all sat on the dinner tablewith people who probably consumed prostitutionthat have been to a brothel once, twice at least.We never sit down to the table with a prostitute.Not with a declared one. So that’s social death.It is not glamorous. Not at all.And when I sit in the privacy of my room and watch porn, even without paying…No need to pay, it’s free.I hope you know that, if you’re still consuming…Whatever I am watching is creating a demand.And wherever there is a demand, there will be a supply.If I watch pornography of black, older women,somebody is going to go out and pimp black older women.Asian minors? Somebody is already trafficking Asian minors以色列女人 巴勒斯坦女人 信奉新教的欧裔美国人 美国女大学生Israeli women, Palestinian women WASP, all American college girls.It’s a strong in the last few years it’s a very upcoming category.The scum of the Earth are already out theretrying to solicit and prostitute these women on camera.So, I stopped watching porn for my personal well-being.My intimate communication, my private erotic life.Reclaiming control and responsibility over my mind.I actually stopped contributing to this horrible sex industry.That’s a good thing to do, I believe.And I would really like to propose that notionof physically and emotionally-safe sex, emotionally-safe sex.It does not mean going back to be conservative or unliberated sexually.I am all for sexual freedom.It just means that we need to put genderial hierarchy aside,And bring back in… let’s just say, “laughter”as a critical method for intimacy.Two souls, two humans, two souls alone in private,can they please have a laugh together?I don’t care if they know each other for a decade or for an hour…If two souls alone in a room do not manage to have a laugh together,那他们之间还能有什么好感情呢？ 不论是性相关的还是性不相关的what good could possibly grow there? Sexual and non-sexual.That’s emotionally safe sex.I’ve got so many things I want to share with youbut I feel like my time is almost up, so…I just really want to ask for us to speak about these issues morebecause I strongly feel that our history of silence never did us any good,because silence only perpetuates more silence,when talking normally gives birth to more talking,more sharing, more identification, more awareness, more change.A small change, we have a small humble life.But a real change, a true one, emotionally safer.