凯文 · 凯利 68 岁生日的 68 条人生建议
2020 年开年至今并不顺心。偶尔喝喝鸡汤大有裨益，尤其是看到凯文 · 凯利在 68 岁生日分享的 68 条精辟人生建议，多少乐观了一些。
原文和翻译如下，希望也能给你启发。
Learn how to learn from those you disagree with, or even offend you. See if you can find the truth in what they believe.
学会从那些你不同意的，甚至冒犯你的人身上学习。看看你是否能从他们相信的事物中找到真理。Being enthusiastic is worth 25 IQ points.
充满热情抵得上 25 分 IQ。Always demand a deadline. A deadline weeds out the extraneous and the ordinary. It prevents you from trying to make it perfect, so you have to make it different. Different is better.
总是给自己设定一个最后期限。最后期限可以让你摒弃无关紧要的平庸之物。它能避免你追求完美，如此，你必须做到与众不同。与众不同更好。Don’t be afraid to ask a question that may sound stupid because 99% of the time everyone else is thinking of the same question and is too embarrassed to ask it.
别害怕提出一个听起来可能很蠢的问题，因为，99% 的情况下别人也在思考同样的问题却不好意思说出口。Being able to listen well is a superpower. While listening to someone you love keep asking them “Is there more?”, until there is no more.
倾听是一种超能力。当听你爱的人说话时，不停地问他们：「还有吗？」 ，直到没有。A worthy goal for a year is to learn enough about a subject so that you can’t believe how ignorant you were a year earlier.
一个有价值的年度目标是去充分学习一个课题，如此，你会发现自己一年前是多么无知。Gratitude will unlock all other virtues and is something you can get better at.
感恩可以解锁其它美德，也是你能做得更好的事。Treating a person to a meal never fails, and is so easy to do. It’s powerful with old friends and a great way to make new friends.
没什么是一顿饭不能解决的，而且这事儿很容易做到。它对老朋友管用，也是结交新朋友的好方法。Don’t trust all-purpose glue.
不要相信万能胶。Reading to your children regularly will bond you together and kickstart their imaginations.
定期给孩子们读书能使你们关系紧密，并激发他们的想象力。Never use a credit card for credit. The only kind of credit, or debt, that is acceptable is debt to acquire something whose exchange value is extremely likely to increase, like in a home. The exchange value of most things diminishes or vanishes the moment you purchase them. Don’t be in debt to losers.
永远不要用信用卡消费。只接受那种交换价值极有可能增加的信贷或债务，例如房子。大多数东西的交换价值在你购买它们的那一刻就会减少或消失。不要欠失败者的钱。Pros are just amateurs who know how to gracefully recover from their mistakes.
专业人士只是知道如何从错误中优雅回血的业余爱好者而已。Extraordinary claims should require extraordinary evidence to be believed.
非同寻常的主张需要非同寻常的证据才能让人相信。Don’t be the smartest person in the room. Hangout with, and learn from, people smarter than yourself. Even better, find smart people who will disagree with you.
不要做房间里最聪明的人。和比你聪明的人在一起，并向他们学习。找到那些能够不同意你观点的聪明人就更好了。Rule of 3 in conversation. To get to the real reason, ask a person to go deeper than what they just said. Then again, and once more. The third time’s answer is close to the truth.
谈话 3 次法则：要找到真正原因，让她/他在刚刚回答的基础上再深入一些。然后第二次深入，第三次深入。第三次回答会接近事实。Don’t be the best. Be the only.
不要做最好的。做唯一的。Everyone is shy. Other people are waiting for you to introduce yourself to them, they are waiting for you to send them an email, they are waiting for you to ask them on a date. Go ahead.
每人都是害羞的。其他人都等着你向他们介绍自己，等着你给他们发邮件，等着你跟她们开口约会。行动吧。Don’t take it personally when someone turns you down. Assume they are like you: busy, occupied, distracted. Try again later. It’s amazing how often a second try works.
别人拒绝你时，不要往心里去。假设他们和你一样：忙碌，没空，心烦意乱。找机会再试。很神奇的是，第二次经常就能成。The purpose of a habit is to remove that action from self-negotiation. You no longer expend energy deciding whether to do it. You just do it. Good habits can range from telling the truth, to flossing.
习惯的目的是使该行为免于自我谈判。你不必再消耗精力去决定是否做这件事。只管去做就是了。好习惯可以是诚实，也可以是用牙线清洁牙齿。Promptness is a sign of respect.
及时是尊重的表现。
及时翻译为「准时」更好？When you are young spend at least 6 months to one year living as poor as you can, owning as little as you possibly can, eating beans and rice in a tiny room or tent, to experience what your “worst” lifestyle might be. That way any time you have to risk something in the future you won’t be afraid of the worst case scenario.
当你年轻时，至少花六个月到一年的时间，尽可能地过穷日子，尽可能少地拥有财富，在一个小房间或帐篷里吃豆子和米饭，体验你可能遭遇的「最糟糕」的生活方式。如此，在未来的任何冒险时刻，你都不用担心最糟糕的情况。
收入低谷期或职业低谷期并不代表人生低谷期。不过，真心希望现在就是最糟糕的时刻。Trust me: There is no “them”.
相信我：没有「他们」。
只有我们？The more you are interested in others, the more interesting they find you. To be interesting, be interested.
你对别人越感兴趣，别人对你就越感兴趣。要让人感兴趣，先对人感兴趣。
想起一句经典：欲将取之，必先予之。Optimize your generosity. No one on their deathbed has ever regretted giving too much away.
更慷慨一些。没有人在临终时会后悔给予太多。To make something good, just do it. To make something great, just re-do it, re-do it, re-do it. The secret to making fine things is in remaking them.
要做好事，尽管去做。要做一件伟大的事，就重复做，重复做，重复做。创造美好事物的秘密在于重新创造它们。The Golden Rule will never fail you. It is the foundation of all other virtues.
黄金法则永远不会让你失望。它是所有其它美德的基础。
黄金法则[1]就是你想要别人怎样对待你，你就先怎样对待别人。If you are looking for something in your house, and you finally find it, when you’re done with it, don’t put it back where you found it. Put it back where you first looked for it.
如果你在家里找东西，当你终于找到并用完，不要把它放回原处，而是把它放回你第一次找它的地方。
归位是物件整理的杀手锏。想想我的人生中至少有 0.05% 的时间在找眼镜、手机和钥匙。Saving money and investing money are both good habits. Small amounts of money invested regularly for many decades without deliberation is one path to wealth.
存钱和投资都是好习惯。即便是很少的钱，几十年不假思索地累积也是致富之道。
可以再读 Morgan Housel 的《The Psychology of Money》[2]。To make mistakes is human. To own your mistakes is divine. Nothing elevates a person higher than quickly admitting and taking personal responsibility for the mistakes you make and then fixing them fairly. If you mess up, fess up. It’s astounding how powerful this ownership is.
犯错是人之常情。认错是极好的。没有什么比迅速承认自己犯下的错误并承担个人责任，然后公平地改正它们，更能提升一个人的地位了。如果你搞砸了，那就坦白吧。这种精神的强大令人震惊。Never get involved in a land war in Asia.
永远不要卷入亚洲的地面战争。You can obsess about serving your customers/audience/clients, or you can obsess about beating the competition. Both work, but of the two, obsessing about your customers will take you further.
你可以沉迷于服务顾客/观众/客户，也可以沉迷于击败竞争对手。两者都有效，但前者会让你走得更远。Show up. Keep showing up. Somebody successful said: 99% of success is just showing up.
现身。总是现身。某位成功人士说：99% 的成功只要现身就能取得。
「现身」一词翻译得不够好，但又没找到更好的表达。Separate the processes of creation from improving. You can’t write and edit, or sculpt and polish, or make and analyze at the same time. If you do, the editor stops the creator. While you invent, don’t select. While you sketch, don’t inspect. While you write the first draft, don’t reflect. At the start, the creator mind must be unleashed from judgement.
将创造过程与改进分开。你不能同时写作又编辑，雕刻又润色，创造又分析。如果你这样做， 编辑者会阻碍创作者。当你发明时，不要选择。当你画草图时，不要检查。当你写初稿时，不要反思。一开始，创造者的思想必须从审判中释放出来。If you are not falling down occasionally, you are just coasting.
如果你没有偶尔摔倒，说明你只是在漫步。Perhaps the most counter-intuitive truth of the universe is that the more you give to others, the more you’ll get. Understanding this is the beginning of wisdom.
也许宇宙中最违反直觉的真理是，你给予他人越多，你得到的也就越多。明白此理，你便开始拥有智慧。Friends are better than money. Almost anything money can do, friends can do better. In so many ways a friend with a boat is better than owning a boat.
朋友比金钱更重要。金钱几乎可以做任何事情，而朋友可以做得更好。在很多方面，有一个有船的朋友比自己有船来得好。This is true: It’s hard to cheat an honest man.
这是真的：你很难欺骗一个诚实的人。
这也是真的：撒了一个谎就得用另一个谎去圆。When an object is lost, 95% of the time it is hiding within arm’s reach of where it was last seen. Search in all possible locations in that radius and you’ll find it.
当一件物品丢失时，95% 的情况下，它都藏在距离最后一次出现地点只有一臂之遥的地方。在这个半径范围内搜索所有可能的地方，你就会找到它。You are what you do. Not what you say, not what you believe, not how you vote, but what you spend your time on.
你的所作所为将决定你是怎样的人。不是你说什么，信什么，或站在哪边所决定的，而是你把时间花在了什么上决定的。If you lose or forget to bring a cable, adapter or charger, check with your hotel. Most hotels now have a drawer full of cables, adapters and chargers others have left behind, and probably have the one you are missing. You can often claim it after borrowing it.
如果你遗失或忘带充电线、适配器或充电器，跟酒店联系一下。现在大多数酒店都有一个抽屉，装满了别人留下的这些东西，而且很可能还有你丢失的那个。用完之后，你还可以声称是自己的。
调皮的老头子！Hatred is a curse that does not affect the hated. It only poisons the hater. Release a grudge as if it was a poison.
仇恨是一种不会影响仇恨对象的诅咒。它只会毒害仇恨者。把怨恨当毒一样释放出来吧。There is no limit on better. Talent is distributed unfairly, but there is no limit on how much we can improve what we start with.
更好是没有极限的。不是每个人都天赋异禀，但即使天生资历平平，可自我提升的程度却没有极限。Be prepared: When you are 90% done any large project (a house, a film, an event, an app) the rest of the myriad details will take a second 90% to complete.
做好心理准备：当你搞定了一个大项目（一栋房子、一部电影、一场活动、一个 App）的 90%，剩下的大量细节也将需要 90% 当量的时间才能完成。When you die you take absolutely nothing with you except your reputation.
当你死了，除了名誉，什么都带不走。Before you are old, attend as many funerals as you can bear, and listen. Nobody talks about the departed’s achievements. The only thing people will remember is what kind of person you were while you were achieving.
在你变老之前，尽可能多地参加葬礼，并倾听。没有人会谈论逝者的成就。人们唯一能记住的是当你成功时你是什么样的人。For every dollar you spend purchasing something substantial, expect to pay a dollar in repairs, maintenance, or disposal by the end of its life.
每花一块钱买一件实物，就要预期在它的寿命结束前，还要再花一块钱用于维修、保养或处理它。Anything real begins with the fiction of what could be. Imagination is therefore the most potent force in the universe, and a skill you can get better at. It’s the one skill in life that benefits from ignoring what everyone else knows.
任何真实的东西都源自虚构的可能性。因此，想象力是宇宙中最强大的力量，也是一种你可以做得更好的技能。这是一项需要忽视常识从而获益的技能。When crisis and disaster strike, don’t waste them. No problems, no progress.
当危机和灾难来袭时，不要浪费它们。没有问题就没有改进。On vacation go to the most remote place on your itinerary first, bypassing the cities. You’ll maximize the shock of otherness in the remote, and then later you’ll welcome the familiar comforts of a city on the way back.
度假时，先跳过城市，去行程中最偏远的地方。这样，你能将异域风情的冲击感最大化，然后享受着那种熟悉的城市安逸感返程。When you get an invitation to do something in the future, ask yourself: would you accept this if it was scheduled for tomorrow? Not too many promises will pass that immediacy filter.
当你收到未来某事的邀请时，问问自己：如果明天就得去，你会接受这个邀请吗？大多数时候都不会。Don’t say anything about someone in email you would not be comfortable saying to them directly, because eventually they will read it.
不要在电子邮件中谈论那些你不愿与之直接交谈的人，因为他们最终会看到邮件。If you desperately need a job, you are just another problem for a boss; if you can solve many of the problems the boss has right now, you are hired. To be hired, think like your boss.
如果你迫切需要一份工作，你只是老板的另一个问题；如果你能解决老板眼下的许多问题，你就被雇佣了。要想被雇佣，就要像你的老板一样思考。Art is in what you leave out.
艺术藏身于你所遗漏之处。
可能是我没有理解到位，这句话怎么想都觉得有点怪。Acquiring things will rarely bring you deep satisfaction. But acquiring experiences will.
拥有东西很少能给你带来强烈的满足感。拥有经验却能。
想起之前在菲律宾的一个滑索场门前看到的标语："You are not paying for the ride, you are paying for the experience."Rule of 7 in research. You can find out anything if you are willing to go seven levels. If the first source you ask doesn’t know, ask them who you should ask next, and so on down the line. If you are willing to go to the 7th source, you’ll almost always get your answer.
研究 7 次法则。如果你问的第一层来源不知道答案，那就问他们还可以问谁，以此类推。深入到第七层来源，你几乎总能得到答案。How to apologize: Quickly, specifically, sincerely.
怎么道歉？迅速、具体、真诚。Don’t ever respond to a solicitation or a proposal on the phone. The urgency is a disguise.
永远不要在电话上回应一个请求或提议。急迫是一种伪装。When someone is nasty, rude, hateful, or mean with you, pretend they have a disease. That makes it easier to have empathy toward them which can soften the conflict.
面对下流、粗鲁、可恶或刻薄的人，假装他们有病就好了。这样更容易对他们产生同情心，从而缓和冲突。Eliminating clutter makes room for your true treasures.
清除杂乱会为你真正的宝贝腾出空间。You really don’t want to be famous. Read the biography of any famous person.
你不会想要出名的。不信你读读名人传记。Experience is overrated. When hiring, hire for aptitude, train for skills. Most really amazing or great things are done by people doing them for the first time.
不要高估经验的价值。招聘时，因材施聘，培养技能。大多数真正神奇或伟大的事情都是人们第一次做的。A vacation + a disaster = an adventure.
一次假期 + 一次灾难 = 一次冒险。Buying tools: Start by buying the absolute cheapest tools you can find. Upgrade the ones you use a lot. If you wind up using some tool for a job, buy the very best you can afford.
购买工具：先买你能找到的绝对最便宜的工具。升级你经常要用的工具。如果你最终为了工作而要用某些工具，那就买你能负担得起的最好的。
使用工具：先从身边能用的工具上手。认真钻研你经常要用的工具。永远要有备用工具。Learn how to take a 20-minute power nap without embarrassment.
学习如何在不尴尬的情况下小憩 20 分钟。Following your bliss is a recipe for paralysis if you don’t know what you are passionate about. A better motto for most youth is “master something, anything”. Through mastery of one thing, you can drift towards extensions of that mastery that bring you more joy, and eventually discover where your bliss is.
如果你不知道自己热爱什么，那么，追随天赐之福也是个选择。对于大多数年轻人来说，一个更好的座右铭是「擅长一事，无论什么」。擅长某事，你就能以它锚，扩展范围找到能带给你更多快乐的事，并最终发现你的幸福所在。I’m positive that in 100 years much of what I take to be true today will be proved to be wrong, maybe even embarrassingly wrong, and I try really hard to identify what it is that I am wrong about today.
我敢肯定，100 年后，很多我今天认为是对的东西都将被证明是错的，甚至错得令人尴尬。我会努力去辨别今天到底错在哪里。Over the long term, the future is decided by optimists. To be an optimist you don’t have to ignore all the many problems we create; you just have to imagine improving our capacity to solve problems.
从长远来看，未来取决于乐观主义者。要做一个乐观主义者，你不是非得忽视我们造成的所有问题不可；你只是不得不去想象如何提升我们解决问题的能力。The universe is conspiring behind your back to make you a success. This will be much easier to do if you embrace this pronoia.
整个宇宙都会在你背后暗自助你成功。如果你拥抱这种妄想[3]，成功会容易得多。
Pronoia 和我们更熟悉的 Paranoiac 同样被翻译为妄想症、偏执狂，但其实两者刚好是对立面。果壳[4]上的一个解释：Paranoiac 觉得自己在可怖命运的中心，而 Pronoia 则觉得所有人都在帮自己。
👉 原文链接：https://kk.org/thetechnium/68-bits-of-unsolicited-advice/
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[1] 黄金法则: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Golden_Rule[2] 《The Psychology of Money》: https://www.collaborativefund.com/blog/the-psychology-of-money/[3] 妄想（Pronoia）: http://htmfiles.englishhome.org/quotables/qp1.htm[4] 果壳解释: https://www.guokr.com/article/441719/