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那位曾裸辞的湖北县委书记最新发声:官位和百姓哪个更重要

凭海观潮A 2020-08-18


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为何陈行甲最近又刷屏了?


来源:深圳市恒晖儿童公益基金会、秦鉴

原湖北巴东县委书记陈行甲。他在巴东短短5年,勤政廉洁,被大伙亲切地叫“甲哥”。一些看不惯他的人,为了排挤他,找不到贪腐证据,就诬陷他“收受群众情感贿赂”。


真的荒唐可笑。为何陈行甲最近又刷屏了?


采访他的凤凰卫视主持人胡玲一语中的,“他某种程度上说也是敲响警钟的人”。(那个曾经火遍全网的视频我们放在文末,供没有看过的朋友了解)



不禁想:如果甲哥还在官场,他所在城市面对疫情会是怎样的情境?


不用想象,原来他已经投入了这场战疫。他刚刚在一场线上讲堂中讲述了感悟与思考。


我们一起来分享一下。因为陈行甲老家小区被封,所以是在家中讲演。



大家好,我是陈行甲,一名全职公益人。

我是深圳市恒晖儿童公益基金会创始人,也是深圳市基金会发展促进会的执行会长,同时受王石主席邀请担任乡村发展基金会联合创始人。

我还有一个比较特殊的身份,投身公益前,是一名湖北基层官员,曾任湖北省巴东县县委书记。

我从小在湖北长大、求学、入党、工作。这些天来,我与家人一直处在疫区中心,百感交集。我想借此机会跟大家分享一下我的经历、感受和思考。

这些天我的经历

1月19日(腊月二十五)我从深圳坐高铁返回湖北宜昌家中,本想和家人一起过一个祥和的春节假期,正月初六返回深圳。

次日20号晚,就看到钟南山院士确认武汉新型冠状病毒肺炎“人传人”。23日武汉封城,1月29日,我居住的楼栋发现第一例确诊病例,就在我的楼下。我们整栋楼被封闭隔离至今。

我住的小区不大,到今天已有六个确诊感染病例。

大年三十,网上看到武汉各大医院急需防护物资的公告,晚上我就和深圳市基金会发展促进会的同事线上商量如何抗肺炎疫情。

第二天上午,我召集线上的会长办公会,向全深圳基金会行业发起抗肺炎疫情联合行动倡议,动员深圳的基金会参与湖北疫情救援。当天就有30多家基金会积极响应。

我们组建了深圳基金会联合行动小组工作群,现在我们这个群里的人数已经达到184人,基本上深圳活跃的基金会全都参与进来了。

截至到2月14日,深圳共有80余家基金会捐赠现金及各类医疗物资13.9亿元,这还不包括腾讯基金会追加的12亿元抗疫专项基金。

我创立的深圳市恒晖儿童公益基金会也在积极行动。自疫情发生以来,共筹到口罩11233个,护目镜1538副,消毒液6432瓶,车载空气净化器101台,隔离袍938件,陆续送达武汉中南医院、武汉协和医院等7家医疗机构。

我的感受:着急、不自觉流泪,但不害怕

最近有几个时间点上,实在是万分着急。

一次是湖北省领导接受电视采访说物资充足,当晚武汉协和医院就向公众发布《防护物资不是告急,而是没有了》,那天晚上我疯了一样到处发信息,希望能赶快凑一点医用防护物资到前线。

一次是2月3日直到方舱医院决策前那几天,微博上连续有些肺炎患者求助信息@到我,各种求助无门的人间惨剧让人不忍直视。

我虽然隔离在家,但我在湖北还是认识不少朋友,官员、医生、记者,那几天我不停骚扰他们,希望帮助这些求助者链接资源,可是他们在前线也忙得一锅粥。

看着生命之灯慢慢熄灭,我近乎绝望,有好几次彻夜难眠。

极其难过——我相信这是太多湖北人这些天的感受。

朋友圈不敢看,又不得不看,因为我还要做相关公益工作。

为防止传染,死亡后不告别直接拖往殡仪馆,女儿跟在车后哭喊妈妈的视频,我看到后整夜失眠;长江大桥头司门口没等到检测试剂跳桥自杀的老人,为给家里减轻负担而跳楼自杀的感染肺炎的尿毒症患者,流落街头不知往何处去的疑似感染需要被隔离者……

特别是2月4日到5日,看到一个全家三口感染的求助信息,头两天已经因疑似肺炎走了一个老人,另一个老人也感染危重又等不到核酸检测和住院,我辗转帮他们联系医院,好不容易5日晚上老人住进医院,结果收到的反馈是“住进医院直接进抢救室,晚了……”,看到信息我对着屏幕瞬间泪崩。

方方老师的那句话:时代的一粒灰尘,落在每个人头上就是一座山。这些天会经常不由自主地流泪,那种锥心的疼痛,武汉人、湖北人心里知道。

除了苦难带来的痛感,也有强大力量感动着我们,感召着我们。

成千上万个奔向抗疫前线的医护逆行者,是我们这个时代的勇士,1716名医务人员感染,6名牺牲,数字是悲壮的,画面我们都是隔着泪水看的。

我在湖北老家过春节,我的身边百米范围左右已经出现了六名确诊感染者,我居住的小区被封,楼栋被封。但是,我一点都不害怕。

一是病毒疫情虽然严峻,它终究只是自然界的生物病毒,真正可怕的是头脑中的病毒,就是对底层疾苦的置若罔闻。我坚信这种病毒注定会暴露出来而被清理掉。

二是我没有时间害怕。真正让我们恐惧的是恐惧本身。我只想与时间赛跑,为抗击疫情做点事情。我在线指挥深基会的伙伴们积极行动,在线协调伙伴们展开公益行动。

我还给自己定了一个看书计划,每天看两小时书,我坚持每天给家人做一顿饭,我坚持每天在客厅打一套太极拳。

我相信疫情会过去的,一切都会好起来的。我不害怕!也希望大家不要恐惧,注意心理调节,多做一些有意义的事情,能把这段时间好好利用起来,当做对人生的修炼。

我的思考:在官员心中什么是最重要的?

这次疫情是一次大考,考的题目就是:对于每一个承担公共责任的人,你思考问题的根本立场到底是站在哪里?我想分两方面说:官员和公益人。

在官员的心中,什么是最重要的?官位、面子,还是老百姓的疾苦?

苍天厚土,群众不可欺,大家的眼睛是雪亮的。

在公益人的心中,什么是最重要的?名声、规模,还是苦难者的需求?

公众的每一份善款都不能被辜负,这是公益界的铁律。

公益人千万不可走着走着忘了初心。这次疫情中社会捐助热情高涨,一些获得了大额度捐赠的公益基金会切不可抱着“盆大好刮稀饭”的想法在巨额的公众募捐中蹭好处,或者以压住款项执行进度,拖一段时间光利息都能吃不少的态度来对待这次捐赠。

我想墨菲定律思维应该成为公共治理的常识。

墨菲定律的原句是:如果有两种或两种以上的方式去做某件事情,而其中一种选择方式将导致灾难,则必定有人会做出这种选择。

我对墨菲定律的解释是:如果事情有变坏的可能,不管这种可能性有多小,你一定得想到最坏的情况是什么,并为如何应对它做好准备,它才有可能不发生。否则,它一定、一定会发生!

特别是事关百姓生命健康的事,必须要提前想到最坏情况并做好准备。

我们回头看这两个月社会灾难是如何发生的:

发现病例——8名医生对外预警提示——打击谣言 ——可防可控——不会人传人——万家同宴——有限人传人——不会像非典那么严重——会人传人——封城——物资充足——一线防护物资不是告急,而是没有了……事情变坏的可能性越来越明显了,还在守着侥幸的心理一寸一寸退让防守,听不到民意,搞不清实际,抓不住重点,最终导致了灾难性的社会失序。

“生于忧患、死于安乐,是历史兴衰更替的规律;坚持底线思维、做最充分的准备,是我党兴旺发达的法宝。增强忧患意识、防范风险挑战要一以贯之”。


公益应该反思什么?

公益组织等社会力量在这场抗疫战争中是有作为的,但面临压力和暴露的问题也不少。

首先是公益组织参与的空间和渠道仍然有限。我作为身在疫区的公益人,这些天经历过很多时刻的挫败感

疫情爆发初期,我们发现国内采购口罩、护目镜、防护服等物资,不仅价格飞涨而且采购困难,就迅速联络海外公益捐赠,但当时武汉方面明确回话——暂不接受海外捐赠;

两天后同意接受海外捐赠了,通关手续如何办理又是各种懵;物资好不容易到武汉,分配中的低效率和错乱又伤透了心;

好不容易募捐来的物资从外省某地经过,居然被强行扣留征用,电话、发函,办法用尽还是没搞定;

好容易我们公益组织可以直接点对点捐赠给医院了,又被警示绕开红会的捐赠,可能带来风险;湖北除了武汉可以公益捐赠运输直达以外,地市级公益运输通道又不畅,只能下面医院开特别通行证自己到武汉去拖,而我们小公益组织募捐到的物资很难装满一整车,想到辛辛苦苦麻烦下面的医院过层层关卡,去拿不多的物资就心塞汗颜难受。

其次,公益组织的专业程度仍然存在短板:项目设计是否符合机构使命与业务范围、机构能力能否保证项目执行、基金会募捐款物使用是否完全公开、需求整理是否全面清晰、获取信息是否及时、物资转运是否到位等问题。

从众多报道和网上民众的反馈来看,许多问题是值得打上问号的。

此外还有公益组织之间协调配合不够,官办公益组织和民间公益组织没有及时有效联合等。比如说疫情防控刚开始后,各大公益组织虽然都积极行动,但基本上各自为战,导致同业竞争,需求与供给不匹配,甚至对医疗物资涨价起了一定负面作用。

公益组织还需要思考更长远的问题。事实上疫区的次生灾害正在发生,且不说经济社会全面暂停的影响,光是大众长期封闭引起的心理问题,死难者家属情绪崩溃的安抚,医疗人员受重创后的勉励,过度使用消毒水后的环境后遗症,甚至于人们隔离后无人看守的宠物等等,这些值得公益组织做的更细化、更人文的事情,目前还很少人关注。


所有公益组织都需要坚持运作透明,接受监督

这次疫情再次显示尊重公众知情权,让真相尽早公之于众是最好对策。

这不单是危机管理的基本原则,也是公益管理的日常原则。

公众每一分善款都不能、也不应该被辜负,公众有权、也有义务随时监督公益组织的善款使用情况。只有这样,公益才能够被公众信任,战时才能迅速汇集资源,高效率分配资源。

归根结底,这是一次没有硝烟的战争,我们都仓促上阵。

我思考的是:就像政府部门有公共灾难的应急预案一样,公益界是否也该有一个应急预案,在大的灾难来临时能够短时间内把做教育、环保、医疗、社会服务等各种类型的基金会高效整合起来。我们国家多灾多难,不知道下一次大难出现在什么时候,希望下一次,我们公益界是有备而来。期待下一次公益组织等社会力量可以进入国家整体的联动机制。

最后感谢大家对我这次演讲的关注。

祝福大家,每一个人健健康康、平平安安;祝福每个家庭健健康康、平平安安,祝福我们的祖国,平安度过这个劫难!我们一起加油! 

最后小编插上凤凰卫视当年采访陈行甲时的那段很火的视频:



50. All you can do is to try your best. Even with those small steps, you're closer to your goal than you were yesterday. 我们能做的只是拼尽全力,即使迈出的步子再小,也比昨天要更接近自己的目标。51. A smile is the shortest distance between two people. 微笑是人与人之间最短的距离。52. Do or do not. There is no try. 要么做,要么滚!没有试试看这一说。53. Courage is being afraid but going on anyhow. 勇气就是虽感恐惧,但仍会前行。54. A man can be destroyed but not defeated. 人可以被毁灭,但不可以被打败。55. A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery while on a detour. 真正快乐的人是那种在走弯路时也不忘享受风景的人。56. No dream is too big, and no dreamer is too small. 梦想再大也不嫌大,追梦的人再小也不嫌小。57. It doesn't matter how many times you fail. What matters is how many times you stand up and try again. 失败多少次不重要,重要的是你能重新站起来多少次,并且继续前行。58. Silence is the most powerful cry. 沉默是最有力的呐喊。《美丽人生》 59. A little consideration, a little thought for others makes all the difference. 一点点体贴,一点点为他人着想,会让一切都不一样。60. Stop waiting for things to happen.Go out and make them happen. 别指望事情会自然发生,行动起来,让它们变成可能!61. Don't look forward to tomorrow, don't miss yesterday, to grasp today. 不憧憬明天,不留念昨天,只把握今天。62. Now we don't call it alive. It's just not to die. 我们现在不叫活着,这只是没有死去。《疯狂原始人》 63. You can change your life if you want to. Sometimes you have to be hard on yourself, but you can change it completely. 有志者事竟成。有时虽劳其筋骨,但命运可以彻底改变。《唐顿庄园》 64. Time will bring a surprise, if you believe. 时间会带来惊喜,如果你相信的话。《浮生物语》 65. What others think is not important . How you feel about yourself is all that matters. 别人怎么想并不重要,你怎么看自己才是关键。66. Don't cry because it is over,smile because it happened. 不要因为结束而哭泣,微笑吧,因为你曾经拥有。67. Tomorrow is never clear. Our time is here. 明天是未知的,我们还是享受此刻吧!《摇滚夏令营》 68. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all. 生活要么大胆尝试,要么什么都不是。69. Pursue excellence and success will follow. 追求卓越,成功自然来。《三傻大闹宝莱坞》 70. Climb mountains not so the world can see you, but so you can see the world. 爬上山顶并不是为了让全世界看到你,而是让你看到整个世界。71. Every step towards your dream today is a step away from your regret tomorrow. 今日为梦想所付出的每一份努力都会减少明日的一份后悔。72. It's never too late to be what you might have been. 勇敢做自己,永远都不迟。(乔治·艾略特) 73. It's time to start living the life you've imagined. 是时候开始过自己想要的生活了!95. How can men succumb to force? 男人怎么能屈服于“武力”之下?《海贼王》 96. Life is like live TV show. There is no rehearsal. 人生没有彩排,只有现场直播。97. Dress shabbily and they remember the dress; dress impeccably and they remember the woman. 穿着破旧,人们记住衣服;穿着无瑕,人们则记住衣服里的女人。(Coco Chanel) 98. Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things. And no good thing ever dies. 希望是一件好事,也许是人间至善,而美好的事永不消逝。《肖申克的救赎》 99. There are so many beautiful reasons to be happy. 有太多太多美好的理由让你笑对生活。100. Where the more different you are, the better. 你们之间越是不同,越好。(Glee) 101. I'm only brave when I have to be. Being brave doesn't mean you go looking for trouble. 我只在必要时才勇敢,勇敢并不代表你要到处闯祸。《狮子王》 102. Behind every successful man there's a lot of unsuccessful years. 每个牛B的成功者都经历过苦B的岁月。(鲍博.布朗) 103. If you want something done, do it yourself. 靠谁都不如靠自己。《第五元素》 104. Life is a wonderful journey. Make it your journey and not someone else's. 生命是一段精彩旅程,要活的有自己的样子,而不是别人的影子。105. No matter how many mistakes you make or how slowly you progress, you are already ahead of those who never tried. 无论你犯了多少错,或者进步得有多慢,你都走在了那些不曾尝试的人的前面。106. Some things are so important that they force us to overcome our fears. 总有些更重要的事情,赋予我们打败恐惧的勇气。107. Say to yourself: "No matter how many obstacles I encounter in life, I will do all that I can to complete the whole course." 请对自己说:无论生活之路上会遇到多少障碍,我会竭尽所能地跑完这一程。108. No cross, no crown. 不经历风雨,怎么见彩虹。109. Try not to become a man of success but rather try to become a man of value. 与其努力成功,不如努力成为有价值的人。(爱因斯坦) 110. Remember when life's path is steep to keep your mind even. 记住:当人生很苦逼的时候,你要保持淡定。111. If you're brave enough to say GOODBYE, life will reward you with a new HELLO. 只要你勇敢地说出再见,生活一定会给你一个新的开始。112. Sometimes the right path is not the easiest one. 对的那条路,往往不是最好走的。113. Just trust yourself, then you will know how to live. 只要相信自己,你就会懂得如何去生活。114. In life it's not where you go. It's who you travel with. 生命中,重要的不是你去哪里,而是与谁同行。115. Life is like a rainbow. You don't always know what's on the other side, but you know it's there. 生活像一道彩虹,你不知道另一端通向哪里,但你会知道,它总是在那里。116. When the world says,"Give up!"Hope whispers,"Try it one more time." 当全世界都在说“放弃”的时候,希望却在耳边轻轻地说:“再试一次吧”!117. I don't care about other questions and I just try to be myself. 我不在乎别人的质疑,我只会做好自己。118. Attempt doesn't necessarily bring success, but giving up definitely leads to failure. 努力不一定成功,但放弃一定失败!119. The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today. 对明天最好的准备就是今天做到最好。120. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart. 你已经一无所有,没有什么道理不顺心而为。(乔布斯) 121. Life is a journey, one that is much better traveled with a companion by our side. 人生是一场旅程,我们最好结伴同行。122. Sometimes you have to fall before you can fly. 有时候,你得先跌下去,才能飞起来。123. If you are able to appreciate beauty in the ordinary, your life will be more vibrant. 如果你擅于欣赏平凡中的美好,你的生活会更加多姿多彩。124. Be who you are, and never ever apologize for that! 坚持做自己,并永远不要为此而后悔!125. Consider the bad times as down payment for the good times. Hang in there. 把苦日子当做好日子的首付,坚持就是胜利!126. Do not pray for easy lives, pray to be stronger. 与其祈求生活平淡点,还不如祈求自己强大点。127. Everybody can fly without wings when they hold on to their dreams. 坚持自己的梦想,即使没有翅膀也能飞翔。128. There is no such thing as a great talent without great will power. 没有伟大的意志力,便没有雄才大略。129. You can't change your situation. The only thing that you can change is how you choose to deal with it. 境遇难以改变,你能改变的唯有面对它时的态度。130. Whatever is worth doing at all is worth doing well. 凡是值得做的事,就值得做好。131. Perfection is not just about control.It's also about letting go. 完美不仅在于控制,也在于释放。《黑天鹅》 132. Dream is what makes you happy, even when you are just trying. 梦想就是一种让你感到坚持就是幸福的东西。133. Never frown,because you never know who is falling in love with your smile. 别愁眉不展,因为你不知道谁会爱上你的笑容。134. It's easy once you know how. 一旦你明白,就会很简单。135. In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different. 要做到不可替代,就要与众不同。136. I honestly think it is better to be a failure at something you love than to be a success at something you hate. 宁愿失败地做你爱做的事情,也不要成功地做你恨做的事情。(George Burns) 137. Don't hide. Run! You'll make it to tomorrow. 别躲避,奔跑吧,你就会找到明天。138. Life comes with many challenges.The ones that should not scare us are the ones we can take on and take control of. 生活充满了挑战,唯有勇敢面对并自我掌控,我们才能克服恐惧。(安吉丽娜·朱莉) 139. Life doesn't just happen to you; you receive everything in your life based on what you've given. 一切发生在你身上的都不是碰巧。你获得什么,在于你付出了什么。140.You are more beautiful than you think. 你,要比你想象的更美丽。141. Throughout life's complications, you should maintain such a sense of elegance. 不管生活有多不容易,你都要守住自己的那一份优雅。142. When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on so long in the first place. 每当你想要放弃的时候,就想想是为了什么才一路坚持到现在。143. Enjoy your youth.You'll never be younger than you are at this very moment. 好好享受青春,你再也不会有哪个时刻会比此时更年轻了。144. You'd better bring, cause I'll bring every I've got it. 你最好全神贯注,因为我定会全力以赴!145. Take time to enjoy the simple things in life. 慢慢享受生活中的简单。146. As long as you are still alive, you will definitely encounter the good things in life. 只要活着就一定会遇上好事。147. Hold on, it gets better than you know. 挺住,事情会比你想像中要好!148. If you are fine,the sun will always shine. 你若安好,便是晴天。149. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. 磨难会让你更强大。150. Every life deserves our respect. 每一个生命都应该被尊重。151. The best feeling in the world is when you know your heart is smiling. 世间最美好的感受,就是发现自己的心在笑。152. Don't ever underestimate the heart of a champion. 永远不要低估一颗冠军的心。(Rudy Tomjanovich) 153. There is nothing permanent except change. 唯一不变的是变化。154. The difference between successful persons and others is that they really act. 成功者和其他人最大的区别就是,他们真正动手去做了。155. Don't follow the crowd, let the crowd follow you. 不要随波逐流,要引领潮流。(Margaret Thatcher) 156. People pay in advance for a coffee meant for someone who cannot afford a warm beverage. 人们提前买咖啡,让付不起的人享受温暖。157. No one is born a genius.Just keep on doing what you like and that itself is a talent. 哪有什么天才!坚持做你喜欢的事情,这本身就是一种天赋。(大野智) 158. The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only one page. 世界是一本书,不旅行的人只读了其中一页。159. You can create something more glorious than the championship. 你可以创造比冠军更荣耀的事。160. You never get a second chance to make a first impression. 永远没有第二次机会,给人留下第一印象。161. You can always be a worse version of "him", or better version of yourself. 你不是要做一个单纯优秀的人,而是要做一个不可替代的人。162. Give every day the chance to become the most beautiful day of your life. 让每一天都有机会成为你人生中最美好的一天。163. Honesty is the best policy. 做人以诚信为本。164. To a crazy ship all winds are contrary. 对于一只漫无目标的船而言,任何方向的风都是逆风。165. The outer world you see is a reflection of your inner self. 你看到什么样的世界,你就拥有什么样的内心。166. Strike while the iron is hot. 趁热打铁。167. Knowing what you cannot do is far more important than knowing what you are capable of. 知道自己不能做什么远比知道自己能做什么重要。168. People cry, not because they're weak. It's because they've been strong for too long. 哭泣,不代表脆弱,只因坚强了太久。169. Don't let yesterday use up too much of today. 别留念昨天了,把握好今天吧。(Will Rogers) 170. If you are not brave enough, no one will back you up. 你不勇敢,没人替你坚强。171. If you don't build your dream, someone will hire you to build theirs. 如果你没有梦想,那么你只能为别人的梦想打工。172. Beauty is all around, if you just open your heart to see. 只要你给自己机会,你会发现你的世界可以很美丽。173. The difference in winning and losing is most often...not quitting. 赢与输的差别通常是--不放弃。(华特·迪士尼) 174. I am ordinary yet unique. 我很平凡,但我独一无二。175. I like people who make me laugh in spite of myself. 我喜欢那些让我笑起来的人,就算是我不想笑的时候。176. Image a new story for your life and start living it. 为你的生命想一个全新剧本,并去倾情出演吧!177. I'd rather be a happy fool than a sad sage. 做个悲伤的智者,不如做个开心的傻子。178. The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. 未来属于那些相信梦想之美的人。(埃莉诺·罗斯福) 179. Even if you get no applause, you should accept a curtain call gracefully and appreciate your own efforts. 即使没有人为你鼓掌,也要优雅的谢幕,感谢自己的认真付出。180. Don't let dream just be your dream. 别让梦想只停留在梦里。181. A day without laughter is a day wasted. 没有笑声的一天是浪费了的一天。(卓别林) 182. Travel and see the world; afterwards, you will be able to put your concerns in perspective. 去旅行吧,见的世面多了,你会发现原来在意的那些结根本算不了什么。183. The key to acquiring proficiency in any task is repetition. 任何事情成功关键都是熟能生巧。《生活大爆炸》 184. You can be happy no matter what. 开心一点吧,管它会怎样。185. A good plan today is better than a perfect plan tomorrow. 今天的好计划胜过明天的完美计划。186. Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'! 一切皆有可能!“不可能”的意思是:“不,可能。”(奥黛丽·赫本) 187. Life isn't fair, but no matter your circumstances, you have to give it your all. 生活是不公平的,不管你的境遇如何,你只能全力以赴。188. No matter how hard it is, just keep going because you only fail when you give up. 无论多么艰难,都要继续前进,因为只有你放弃的那一刻,你才输了。189. It requires hard work to give off an appearance of effortlessness. 你必须十分努力,才能看起来毫不费力。190. Life is like riding a bicycle.To keep your balance,you must keep moving. 人生就像骑单车,只有不断前进,才能保持平衡。(爱因斯坦) 191. Be thankful for what you have.You'll end up having more. 拥有一颗感恩的心,最终你会得到更多。192. Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. 美是一种内心的感觉,并反映在你的眼睛里。(索菲亚·罗兰) 193. Friendship doubles your joys, and divides your sorrows. 朋友的作用,就是让你快乐加倍,痛苦减半。194. When you long for something sincerely, the whole world will help you. 当你真心渴望某样东西时,整个宇宙都会来帮忙。     When Paul Jobs was mustered out of the Coast Guard after World War II, he made a wager with his crewmates. They had arrived in San Francisco, where their ship was decommissioned, and Paul bet that he would find himself a wife within two weeks. He was a taut, tattooed engine mechanic, six feet tall, with a passing resemblance to James Dean. But it wasn’t his looks that got him a date with Clara Hagopian, a sweet-humored daughter of Armenian immigrants. It was the fact that he and his friends had a car, unlike the group she had originally planned to go out with that evening. Ten days later, in March 1946, Paul got engaged to Clara and won his wager. It would turn out to be a happy marriage, one that lasted until death parted them more than forty years later. Paul Reinhold Jobs had been raised on a dairy farm in Germantown, Wisconsin. Even though his father was an alcoholic and sometimes abusive, Paul ended up with a gentle and calm disposition under his leathery exterior. After dropping out of high school, he wandered through the Midwest picking up work as a mechanic until, at age nineteen, he joined the Coast Guard, even though he didn’t know how to swim. He was deployed on the USS General M. C. Meigs and spent much of the war ferrying troops to Italy for General Patton. His talent as a machinist and fireman earned him commendations, but he occasionally found himself in minor trouble and never rose above the rank of seaman. Clara was born in New Jersey, where her parents had landed after fleeing the Turks in Armenia, and they moved to the Mission District of San Francisco when she was a child. She had a secret that she rarely mentioned to anyone: She had been married before, but her husband had been killed in the war. So when she met Paul Jobs on that first date, she was primed to start a new life. Like many who lived through the war, they had experienced enough excitement that, when it was over, they desired simply to settle down, raise a family, and lead a less eventful life. They had little money, so they moved to Wisconsin and lived with Paul’s parents for a few years, then headed for Indiana, where he got a job as a machinist for International Harvester. His passion was tinkering with old cars, and he made money in his spare time buying, restoring, and selling them. Eventually he quit his day job to become a full-time used car salesman. Clara, however, loved San Francisco, and in 1952 she convinced her husband to move back there. They got an apartment in the Sunset District facing the Pacific, just south of Golden Gate Park, and he took a job working for a finance company as a “repo man,” picking the locks of cars whose owners hadn’t paid their loans and repossessing them. He also bought, repaired, and sold some of the cars, making a decent enough living in the process. There was, however, something missing in their lives. They wanted children, but Clara had suffered an ectopic pregnancy, in which the fertilized egg was implanted in a fallopian tube rather than the uterus, and she had been unable to have any. So by 1955, after nine years of marriage, they were looking to adopt a child. Like Paul Jobs, Joanne Schieble was from a rural Wisconsin family of German heritage. Her father, Arthur Schieble, had immigrated to the outskirts of Green Bay, where he and his wife owned a mink farm and dabbled successfully in various other businesses, including real estate and photoengraving. He was very strict, especially regarding his daughter’s relationships, and he had strongly disapproved of her first love, an artist who was not a Catholic. Thus it was no surprise that he threatened to cut Joanne off completely when, as a graduate student at the University of Wisconsin, she fell in love with Abdulfattah “John” Jandali, a Muslim teaching assistant from Syria. Jandali was the youngest of nine children in a prominent Syrian family. His father owned oil refineries and multiple other businesses, with large holdings in Damascus and Homs, and at one point pretty much controlled the price of wheat in the region. His mother, he later said, was a “traditional Muslim woman” who was a “conservative, obedient housewife.” Like the Schieble family, the Jandalis put a premium on education. Abdulfattah was sent to a Jesuit boarding school, even though he was Muslim, and he got an undergraduate degree at the American University in Beirut before entering the University of Wisconsin to pursue a doctoral degree in political science. In the summer of 1954, Joanne went with Abdulfattah to Syria. They spent two months in Homs, where she learned from his family to cook Syrian dishes. When they returned to Wisconsin she discovered that she was pregnant. They were both twenty-three, but they decided not to get married. Her father was dying at the time, and he had threatened to disown her if she wed Abdulfattah. Nor was abortion an easy option in a small Catholic community. So in early 1955, Joanne traveled to San Francisco, where she was taken into the care of a kindly doctor who sheltered unwed mothers, delivered their babies, and quietly arranged closed adoptions. Joanne had one requirement: Her child must be adopted by college graduates. So the doctor arranged for the baby to be placed with a lawyer and his wife. But when a boy was born—on February 24, 1955—the designated couple decided that they wanted a girl and backed out. Thus it was that the boy became the son not of a lawyer but of a high school dropout with a passion for mechanics and his salt-of-the-earth wife who was working as a bookkeeper. Paul and Clara named their new baby Steven Paul Jobs. When Joanne found out that her baby had been placed with a couple who had not even graduated from high school, she refused to sign the adoption papers. The standoff lasted weeks, even after the baby had settled into the Jobs household. Eventually Joanne relented, with the stipulation that the couple promise—indeed sign a pledge—to fund a savings account to pay for the boy’s college education. There was another reason that Joanne was balky about signing the adoption papers. Her father was about to die, and she planned to marry Jandali soon after. She held out hope, she would later来源:小兵说天下

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