生态村不是一个供人逃避的地方

简单说明 

这是Om三次直播分享中第一讲“教育与疗愈”的问答环节的内容。有一部分问题是直接口头回答了的；有一部分问题是以书面形式写下来的，Om在结束后通过书面的方式予以回答。在之后被翻译成中文。问题则是从中文翻成英文。经过简单整理，放在这里，以飨有缘。

▎问题#1：

如果拒绝分享呢？这种空间或者机会如何营造？If people refuse to share（因为本地这种社群并没有建立起来，because no local communities have been built up yet），how to  construct this share-space or share-opportunity？

▎回答：

We need to be sensitive on where people are in term of self-expression. Some people are very shy because they are not used to being given space. Sometimes they refuse to share because they feel shy and scared to be the center of attention. Some people can be really scared of being at the center of attention so might refuse to share. While some others refuse to share might be because they just like to be quite, even though they are not scared to express themselves. We people refuse because they are shy and scared we need to take it gentle approach, not to force too much and start from small circle. If people refuse to share because they don‘t want to or they are not in the mood, we should also respect that.

How to create a space of sharing?

• make people feel safe to share( setting tone of no judgement in the circle, guide people to practice deep listening, commitment to keep it confidential if necessary)
• start from basic and simple sharing, not start from deep sharing
• Everyone has the right to speak and the right to pass(if they don‘t want to speak) but every get the chance.
• proper opening and proper closing, checking how people feel at the end of the session. and closing with gratitude

我们需要对人们的自我表达保持敏感。有的人非常害羞，因为Ta们不习惯获得这样的空间。有时Ta们拒绝去分享是因为害羞且恐惧成为人们关注焦点，对成为聚焦点的恐惧非常真实以至于让ta们拒绝分享。而另外一些人可能因为想要安静呆着而拒绝分享，即使ta们不恐惧表达自己。对于那些害羞和恐惧的人，我们需要使用更加温和的方式，而不是强迫，可以从小圈内分享开始。但如果人们因为确实不想分享或没有心情而拒绝分享，我们也应该尊重这个选择。

如何去创造一个令人想分享的空间？

• 让人们觉得分享是安全的（确定这个分享圈是没有评判的，指引人们练习深度聆听，如果有必要的话，承诺保密）
• 从基础和简单的分享开始，不要从深入的分享开始
• 每个人都有权讲话，并且有权不讲（如果Ta们确实不想讲），但每个人都有机会去选择
• 适宜的开场与结束，确认人们在每个环节完成后的感受，并以感恩来结尾。

▎问题#2：

is it possible to learn and re-learn without living together physically in an ecovillage? Om提到的學習過程一定要在生態村居住才能實現嗎？

▎回答：

It is possible. Learning in group is always helpful for this. Because the unlearning and relearning process in a way is leaving what you known and stepping into the unknown. learning together can give us sense of security to letting go what we know and to step into the unknown territory. However, this is possible to be held online or on occasions. You may set a meeting or and call with liked minded friends every now and then to reflect on a theme that you chose together to reflect on and then have a deep reflection together. A space like this should be held properly, please refer to my answer in the previous question on how to create a space of sharing.

不在生态村的场景下，也是可能实现的。在群体中的学习是很有帮助的。因为群体中的学习和再学习有助于人们离开已知，去踏进未知。一起学习能够给我们安全感，放下我们已知的，进入未知的地界。当然，这也可以发生在线上或偶尔临时的情况里。你可以设定一个会议或/及与亲近的朋友们电话，针对一个你们共同选择去思考的主题展开讨论和思考，从而一同经历一个深刻的反思过程。类似的空间也需要恰当地设计，请参考我上一个关于如何创造一个分享空间的回答。

▎问题#3：

个体以及如何支持个体找到自己在社群中位置？how could individuals find their own position in a community and how to  support others to do so?

▎回答：

In the communities I have lived and are living now we start from the individual learn about themselves. Learn about their nature and their passion. Sometimes it is not easy for some people to find their nature and their passion. The community would give them chance to explore. These are things we do in the communities I have lived and are living now.

1. The communities organize educational programs relating to self awareness, self love, self respect etc. to its members.

2. the communities provide spaces and support for its members to try out what they think is their passion and to develop the skill on that to become good at it. Once I knew I enjoy and feel natural with facilitation my communities start to give me space to facilitate in the communities and also send me to learn facilitation in other schools, for example

3. the communities I lived encourage and support the members to use their passion and skill to serve the community and society. This is very important part to make the member feel sense of belonging and sense of meaning and purpose. It is the point where people feel I am doing what I love and I am good at it and it serve the community and the world. It will make people feel fulfil with their lives and content with what they have. Personally I think this is the key of 'simple living'

在我曾经生活过及现在生活在的社群中，我们会从每个个体认识自己开始，认识ta们的天性与热情。有时对有些人来说找到自己的天性与热情并不容易。社群就可以给ta们机会去探索。以下就是我生活过和正在生活的社群正在做的事：

1. 这些社群会组织一些关于自我觉察，自爱，自尊等议题的教育项目，提供给成员；
2. 这些社群会为成员提供空间和支持，去尝试ta们认为自己有热情并且想发展的技能并逐渐精通。例如，曾经当我知道我喜欢并且在协作社群中感到自在时，我的社群也开始给我一些空间在社群中协作，并送我去其他学校学习协作。
3. 我生活过的这些社群鼓励和支持成员使用ta们的热情及技能去服务社群和社会。这对于让成员感受到归属感与目标的意义，是非常重要的部分。这是让人们感受到，我在做我所爱并所擅长的事，并且这个行为也服务了社区和世界。这将让人们感受到自己生命的满足并满意于自己所拥有的。个人认为，我想这就是“简单生活”的关键。

▎问题#4： 

生态村与外界的关系是怎样的？what's the relation or connection between eco-village and the outside world?

▎回答：

Ecovillage is a worldwide movement that is holistically responding to the crises we are facing in the world. Ecovillage movement believe that the transformation we need to make for a better world has to be holistic and it also has to include transformation of consciousness of the shift in values or known as paradigm shift. Ecovillage demonstrate the holistic transformation in individual and community level. 'Ecovillage is not a hide away place. It is a place where we search, learn, experiment and demonstrate that a better world is possible. Most ecovillages I known off are engaged with society and community around it.

生态村是一个全世界的运动，是整全地回应我们在世界上所面对的危机的运动。生态村运动相信，如果我们需要创造一个更好的世界，这样的转化需要整全性；并且也需要包括价值观（或范式）层面的意识转化。生态村证明了整全的转化是在个体和社群层面的。生态村不是一个供人逃避的地方，而是我们寻找，学习，体验和证明更好世界的可能性的地方。大部分我所知道的生态村都与周边的社区和社会保持着非常紧密的互动。

▎问题#5：

在一个社群里，如何去营造互相学习的氛围并协助个体在社群中找到自己的位置？In a community, how to create "learning from each other" atmosphere as well as to help individual to find position for oneself?

▎回答：

Please refer to my answer in question 2 and 3

请参考我对问题2和3的回答。

▎问题#6：

具我今天的理解，教育的疗愈是认识自己并且找个其位置和其人生意义。请问到底大概是什么样的教育可以达到这样的目的呢？As my understanding today,  to learn oneself and find one's position and life's purpose which is the healing power of education.  Please advise what kind of the education programs can serve the purpose?

▎回答：

-Self Awareness kind of programs such as Enneagram, Personal Archetype, Non Violence Communication, Meditation, Art for personal expression, etc.

类似自我觉察的项目，例如九型人格，个人原型心理学，非暴力沟通，冥想，个人表达的艺术等等。

▎问题#7： 

continue Q1.  In my family & community, if  people  don't think they need to heal or people can be healed. They refuse to rebuild connection, not only refuse to share. SO, what can I do?  I'm often feeling depressed. （接着问题#1）如果人们觉得不需要治愈甚至觉得不可能被治愈（在我自己家和社区都是如此）。他们拒绝重建联系（不仅仅是拒绝去分享）。我该怎么做（我常常觉得沮丧）。

▎回答：

Sharing doesn't only come from pain it can also come from love, joy, gratitude etc. Different people come to the same circle with different motivation and walk away with different blessing from it. IF we also create kind of activity and circle of joy, fun, love and gratitude sharing people who don‘t think they need healing might come. But at the end they might get healed anyway. I also have experiences where some community members don‘t think that they need healing and they don’t want to join any deep sharing for healing circle. We need to understand that they might need different way to heal and empowered. Such as, working alone in nature is healing for some people. Or working hard for the earth is healing for them, etc. They don’t like to talk much to share their feeling but that they are more aware of themselves and of their feeling when they are alone in nature. So the community need to understand the diversity and allow the space for the healing and empowering to take place for each one that might be different. So in community it is good to have diverse "coming together" kind of circles and activities and the balance between the "coming together" and the "me alone" time, for example.

分享不仅仅来源于痛，也同样可以来源于爱、喜悦、感恩等等。不同的人带着不同的动机来到同一个圈中，又带着不同的祝福离开这个圈。如果我们也创造各种喜悦、爱和感恩的活动与圈，给开始并没有觉得自己需要治愈的人们来分享参与，最终ta们可能都会被治愈。我也遇到过一些社群成员，ta们不觉得自己需要治愈并且也不想参与到任何深度分享的疗愈圈中。我们也需要理解ta们可能需要不同的方式去治愈和赋权。例如，在自然中独自工作有可能对一些人是疗愈的。或者努力为土地工作也能够疗愈ta们，等等。ta们也许不喜欢说很多分享自己的感受，但当独自在自然中工作时，ta们对自己和自己的感受能有更多觉察。因此社群需要去理解这些多样性，并容许不同的空间让每个个体的疗愈与赋权发生。因此在社群中，拥有多样性是很好的，例如让多种的“同在”圈与活动存在，同时也保持“同在”和“我自己”之间的平衡。

问题：菜根、杨楠、温地

回答：Om

翻译：韦帆

校对：许斌

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