TED-二十几岁，不可挥霍的光阴

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讲！演讲人Meg Jay是一位临床心理学家，她以自己多年从事20多岁青年心理咨询工作的丰富经验告诉大家，青年人（也就是你！！）需要及早意识到20多岁是不能轻易挥霍的美好时光，这个时候积累的经验和眼界可能会改变你的一生。

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30 is not the new 20. Yes, people settle down later than they used to, but that didn’t make Alex’s 20s a developmental downtime. That made Alex’s 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting there blowing it.

30岁不是一个新的20岁。没错，现在人们结婚更晚，但这并没有使艾利克斯（Meg Jay的心理咨询客户）的20岁成为发展的搁浅期，这使艾利克斯的20岁成为发展的关键时期，而我们却在挥霍它。

Your 20s is one of the simplest, yet most transformative, things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness, maybe even for the world.

20岁对你来说，是你能对你的事业、感情、幸福、甚至世界做出最简单但最有影响力的事的时候。

First, get identity capital. I mean do something that adds value to who you are. Do something that’s an investment in who you might want to be next.

第一，获得身份资本。我的意思是，多一些能增加你个人价值的事情和在未来你想成为的样子上做些投资。

Second, use your weak ties. Best friends are great for giving rides to the airport, but twentysomethings who huddle together with like-minded peers limit who they know, what they know, how they think, how they speak, and where they work. That new piece of capital, that new person to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle. New things come from what are called our weak ties, our friends of friends of friends.

第二，使用你的非直接关系。好朋友是载你去机场的最佳人选，但20几岁的人总和自己思想相似的同龄人聚在一起会限制他们的交际圈、视野、思维、言论和事业。新资本和新的恋爱对象几乎都是来自圈子外的。新事物来自我们称之为“弱连接”的关系中，比如朋友的朋友的朋友。

Last but not least, pick your family. The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work.

最后但并非不重要，选择你的家庭。经营婚姻最好的时机是在结婚之前，这意味着你要像选择工作一样慎重选择你的婚姻。

Twentysomethings are like airplanes just leaving LAX, bound for somewhere west. Right after takeoff, a slight change in course is the difference between landing in Alaska or Fiji. Likewise, at 21 or 25 or even 29, one good conversation, one good break, one good TED Talk, can have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.

20多岁的人们就像是一架刚从洛杉矶国际机场起飞的飞机，向西飞去。刚起飞时，航道上一个小小的改变就能导致目的地的的不同,有如阿拉斯加与斐济之间的差别。同样地，在21岁或25岁是甚至是29岁时，一次发人深省的谈话、一个美好的假期、一个好的TED演讲，会在今后的岁月，甚至对以后的几代人产生不可估量的作用。

Don’t be defined by what you didn’t know or didn’t do. You’re deciding your life right now.

不要被你不知道或没做过的事情限制，你掌握着你生活的决定权！

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