How to Help Your Child Adjust to Adolescence 如何帮助您孩子适应青春期

While summer is far from over, here at YCIS Beijing we’re already thinking about the coming school year and all of the exciting new transitions that come with it. For lower secondary school students, the transitions they will be facing are some of the most difficult they’ll face in their lives.

现正值暑假，北京耀中国际学校已在做下一学年的计划以及考虑相应的新的、有趣的过渡。对于初中部的学生来说，从小学过渡到中学，是他们目前遇到的最大难题。

An increase in academic responsibility coincides with some of the most challenging emotional and social changes that children of their age will experience: puberty and adolescence. It is essential that parents provide the proper support for their children so that they don’t become overwhelmed.

在中学，同学们在经历课业责任增加的同时，也会经历情感和社交的变化：青春期及青少年时期。父母为孩子提供合适的支持尤其重要，这样他们不至于不堪重负。

Ron Drisner, longtime School Counselor at YCIS Beijing, offered five fantastic tips guaranteed to help parents of young adults support their children.

Ron Drisner, 长期在北京耀中国际学校担任学生顾问。下面他将和大家分享家长如何帮助孩子的五个提示。

Invest in the Relationship

投资亲子关系

So much more relies on the relationship between you and your child as they turn 12 or 13. The foundation of parenting a teen is to have a genuine relationship. That involves quality time spent together with them, not just on tasks but in having fun. Doing that regularly shows they’re important, and allows them to get to know you. At the same time, your kids are also changing; you can’t assume you know them. 

当孩子12岁或13岁的时候，很多事情都取决于你和孩子之间的关系。教育一个青少年的基础是要有一个真正的关系。这需要家长花足够的时间、专心陪着孩子，而并不仅仅是要求孩子完成任务，而是你们在一起快乐地玩。经常陪伴孩子，会让孩子觉得他自己很重要，而且也给孩子一个时间去认识父母。在这个过程中，孩子就会逐渐地变化。

Adolescence is developmentally, socially, mentally, and emotionally, one of the biggest changes your kids experience in their lives, featuring rapid change happening in a very short time. Spending time with them provides a stabilizing influence; their other relationships may change, but if they know mom and dad are there and spend time with them, it’s a safe space to which they can always return.

青春期是孩子人生中的一个重要时期，会让孩子在短期内在社交上、精神上、情感上以及发展上由重大变化。陪他们在一起，能给孩子一个稳定的影响，孩子和他人的关系可能会发生变化；如果他们知道他们的爸爸妈妈一直在那儿并陪着他们，他们会感觉永远会有一个安全的港湾让他们返航。

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