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石家庄年轻夫妻确诊新冠,丈夫行程曝光后,全网劝离婚!

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作者:才华水木君 来源:水木君

一直在关注疫情发展,近日全国疫情依然没能消停。

截至今天(1月22日)早上7点的数据

前些天石家庄、邢台、廊坊三地封城,二轮核酸即将收尾。

高风险区石家庄藁城区12村庄2万多人异地集中隔离。


这个举动,算是自从疫情开始以来,全国乃至全世界范围内第一次这么大规模的地隔离。

“人员撤离后,村内每天要进行强力消毒”,这一仗势在必赢。


比起这些轰轰烈烈的大动作,石家庄一对确诊夫妻的流调却意外“爆红”。

有人说,万万没想到原来婚姻最真实的样子,就藏匿在你的行动轨迹里。

也有很多人看完后,眼睛一红。

“我真的不知道女人为什么要结婚”。


2020年,没有女人能笑着从男人的手机里走出来;

2021年,没有女人能笑着从丈夫的流调里走出来。

01

婚姻里,女人从不体面

石家庄确诊夫妻的流调曝光后,最开始被热议的是妻子的流调。



画风是这样的:

7次买同一家包子,这家包子肯定好吃,一定要去尝尝。


可随着包子店被网友找到,价格表却告诉我们另一个扎心真相。

均价一块的包子,可能是她给自己设定的消费上限。

(来源:抖音@Mr 高)

26岁的女生,不买昂贵化妆品,也不用奢侈包包,为了孩子和家庭两点一线奔波,最省钱也最快捷的就餐方式就是吃几个包子。

不知道她的爸妈看到会作何感想,自己的掌上明珠,甘愿被磨砺成小小沙石去抗击生活的风雨,想想就觉得难受。

曾有个视频问:为什么结婚后接孩子这项活动,女人往往骑个电动车不化妆就去了,而很多男人则要开着轿车才肯去。

热评是:因为婚姻里,女人把体面都留给了男人。

再回看石家庄这对小夫妻,丈夫的流调就简单粗暴了很多。

日常就是朝8晚5去网咖,甩手掌柜当得轻松又自在。



饿了就去吃麻辣烫,要不逛个超市,不核对一下年龄单看轨迹会让人误以为这是个逃课上网的少年。

这个男人“岁月静好”的背后是妻子把体面当作爱的一部分无私赠予,他把这份体面当作婚姻的利息欣然收下。

别的不说,多少男人都习惯小票、卫生纸随手往兜里一塞,换洗的时候就随手往脏衣篮里一扔——

衣服是怎么变干净的,口袋是怎么变干净的,从不在他们的思考范围内。

“你能不能花时间捯饬一下自己,跟个黄脸婆一样”——

杀人诛心莫过于此。

或许我们都该尽早明白,好的婚姻,是我们彼此都体面潇洒,而不是牺牲对方自己发光。

02

结了婚就好了,是一场骗局

我们不难听到一种论调,叫做:“结了婚就好了”。

男人没担当,结了婚就好了;女人不会勤俭持家,结了婚就好了。

事实真的如此吗?

从这对小夫妻的流调里不难看出,妻子的消费都是紧巴巴的,十几天内除了购置家庭用品,聚餐和个人休闲基本为零。

如果不是确诊,这十几天的奔波不过是她生命里寻常的一天,早就做惯了不觉稀奇。

两个人的家庭可能并不宽裕,就是如此光景下,丈夫还是天天上网,没有工作轨迹,可能是个无业游民。

李中莹说,要想获得美好的爱情与婚姻,需要满足两个条件:一是对对方没有要求,二是两个人都做到照顾好自己的人生。  


显然这对小夫妻在第二条上远远不够。

丈夫的惰性不是一朝一夕可以养成的,或许结婚时妻子因为爱情,忽略了这件事,又或者是觉得婚后这个男人就会立马变得勤奋又上进。

同样的婚姻,却能过出不一样的滋味。

这不是婚姻出了错,只是婚姻中的两个人出了错。

妻子误以为婚姻是是整容刀,能把对方雕刻成她想要的样子。

丈夫也以为结婚就是一步登天,什么都能立马上手。

结果妻子被逼成无所不能的超人,丈夫还是婚前那个“至死是少年”的孩子。

嫁给一个人是嫁给一种生活,娶一个人是娶一种光景。

太多人不明白,很多习惯和性格不是婚姻可以改变的。

看透了人性的张爱玲,在婚姻上也栽得厉害。

那个承诺给她现世安稳的胡兰成,也成为把这世上的大风大浪给了张爱玲的男人。

他逃亡,她等待。

张爱玲时常寄钱给他,希望他不要受苦。

而胡兰成却一边享受着她寄来的钱,一边用这钱来不停出轨。

还有女人寄希望于男人有了孩子就能有担当,结果呢,石家庄这个丈夫还是没有让大家见证一夜长大的奇迹。

女人结婚后是没有家的,婆家不会把她当家人看,娘家大多秉承嫁出去的女儿泼出去的水。即便娘家体贴,女儿报喜不报忧,也生生活成外人。

就此一个家,还要满怀希望到满眼失望,真是令人无限唏嘘。

03

婚姻里最可怕的,不是出轨

之前在网上看到过这样的一个笑话:老师问孩子,什么是“父爱如山”?

孩子回答道:

“父爱如山就是不管妈妈有多忙,爸爸都在沙发上坐着一动不动,稳如泰山。”

笑完之后,难免有点心酸。

如同有人在这件事下面的评价,女人独自带孩子为家庭忙活,男人却为自己忙活。


石家庄这对小夫妻,孩子生病了,妻子着急,该看病带着孩子看病,该给孩子上营养就去买奶粉和水果,一点不含糊。

丈夫依旧爱咋咋,该上网上网,该吃麻辣烫吃麻辣烫,可能回到家问一句也是止步于孩子好了没,而不会关心妻子累不累。

这兵荒马乱的十几天里,很遗憾,我们没有看到一个丈夫的用处,只看到了一个妻子的用力。

一个人每天活在和自己的“战争”中。

另一个人永远岁月静好。

这种婚姻状态,远比出轨可怕。

有人说,最让人想对一段婚姻放手的,不是出轨,也不是老公坐牢,而是有一方“没用”了。

有心理学者说,婚姻的本质是彼此有用,或者是性,或者是心理,或者是事业,或者是......一方无用的婚姻,往往是一场灾难。

这种没用,不是能力不够,而是一种长时间的缺席。

就像程璐和思文离婚时,他坦诚缺席了思文人生太多重要时刻,伤害了感情。


婚礼立下誓言时,都会有一句执子之手,与子偕老。

“白头偕老”,说到底不过是要一起应对俗世的柴米油盐。

著名作家苏岑曾经说过,婚姻应该是——

“为了遇到事了能有个人商量,无聊了能在一起说说废话,累了一天能挤在一桌吃个饭。一生太长了,总要有个人作伴。光明正大的陪伴,踏踏实实的想念。可能就是这么回事儿吧。”

04

被流调揭露的婚姻百态,也不都是讽刺。

想起了前不久刷屏的北京流调,很多人都在感叹34岁中年人的不易,我却看到了一个男人在婚姻里的担当。


妻子在望京上班,所以他选择把家安置在离望京更近的顺义,自己受点累每天往返50公里;

每天工作忙成这样,周末也要带娃去早教班,不缺席孩子的成长,杜绝丧偶式婚姻。

( 来源:微博@美食家大雄)

同一地区确诊的王某某的轨迹除了兼职,就是在陪护妻子。


他没有吃喝玩乐,仅有的一次去了全聚德,还是因为公司聚餐。

聚餐之后,就又扎入了兼职里,他在挣的碎银几两有着妻子的医药费、伙食费和一家人的未来。

总有些人间守候,轻而易举就俘获了世人。

之前在知乎上看过一个问题:人为什么要结婚?

有一个答案是:

或许是因为渴望得到温暖。

或许每个人在走入婚姻时,想要的真的简单。

男人想要一个家,女人想要一点爱。

就单纯把食物塞进衣服揣进怀里生怕冷了的一个动作,就能逼出很多女人的眼泪。


当年三毛在厨房里忙碌时,心里想的是,荷西吃到这道菜该有多欢欣。

正如现在很多女人困囿于厨房与爱时,想的也是一生一世一双人。

“你要记得那些黑暗中,默默抱紧你的人,逗你笑的人,陪你彻夜聊天的人,坐车来看望你的人,陪你哭过的人,在医院陪你的人,总是以你为重的人,带着你四处飘荡的人,说想念你的人。”

婚姻或许就是让我们可以一直见证伴侣广阔而伟大的爱意,可很多时候,我们往往都不会去珍惜那些方寸之内的人。

因为唾手可得,显得并不难得。

可总是要多想一下,哪有那么多人愿意不辞辛劳,不过是在默默爱着你。

好好爱她吧,也许是一句宽慰也许是一句甜言,也许是一个肩膀也许是一次帮忙……

人生海海,你们的归途是爱啊。

点亮在看,希望大家的婚姻互不辜负。



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Never frown,because you never know who is falling in love with your smile. 别愁眉不展,因为你不知道谁会爱上你的笑容。134. It's easy once you know how. 一旦你明白,就会很简单。135. In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different. 要做到不可替代,就要与众不同。136. I honestly think it is better to be a failure at something you love than to be a success at something you hate. 宁愿失败地做你爱做的事情,也不要成功地做你恨做的事情。(George Burns) 137. Don't hide. Run! You'll make it to tomorrow. 别躲避,奔跑吧,你就会找到明天。138. Life comes with many challenges.The ones that should not scare us are the ones we can take on and take control of. 生活充满了挑战,唯有勇敢面对并自我掌控,我们才能克服恐惧。(安吉丽娜·朱莉) 139. Life doesn't just happen to you; you receive everything in your life based on what you've given. 一切发生在你身上的都不是碰巧。你获得什么,在于你付出了什么。140.You are more beautiful than you think. 你,要比你想象的更美丽。141. Throughout life's complications, you should maintain such a sense of elegance. 不管生活有多不容易,你都要守住自己的那一份优雅。142. When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on so long in the first place. 每当你想要放弃的时候,就想想是为了什么才一路坚持到现在。143. Enjoy your youth.You'll never be younger than you are at this very moment. 好好享受青春,你再也不会有哪个时刻会比此时更年轻了。144. You'd better bring, cause I'll bring every I've got it. 你最好全神贯注,因为我定会全力以赴!145. Take time to enjoy the simple things in life. 慢慢享受生活中的简单。146. As long as you are still alive, you will definitely encounter the good things in life. 只要活着就一定会遇上好事。147. Hold on, it gets better than you know. 挺住,事情会比你想像中要好!148. If you are fine,the sun will always shine. 你若安好,便是晴天。149. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. 磨难会让你更强大。150. Every life deserves our respect. 每一个生命都应该被尊重。151. The best feeling in the world is when you know your heart is smiling. 世间最美好的感受,就是发现自己的心在笑。152. Don't ever underestimate the heart of a champion. 永远不要低估一颗冠军的心。(Rudy Tomjanovich) 153. There is nothing permanent except change. 唯一不变的是变化。154. The difference between successful persons and others is that they really act. 成功者和其他人最大的区别就是,他们真正动手去做了。155. Don't follow the crowd, let the crowd follow you. 不要随波逐流,要引领潮流。(Margaret Thatcher) 156. People pay in advance for a coffee meant for someone who cannot afford a warm beverage. 人们提前买咖啡,让付不起的人享受温暖。157. No one is born a genius.Just keep on doing what you like and that itself is a talent. 哪有什么天才!坚持做你喜欢的事情,这本身就是一种天赋。(大野智) 158. The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only one page. 世界是一本书,不旅行的人只读了其中一页。159. You can create something more glorious than the championship. 你可以创造比冠军更荣耀的事。160. You never get a second chance to make a first impression. 永远没有第二次机会,给人留下第一印象。161. You can always be a worse version of "him", or better version of yourself. 你不是要做一个单纯优秀的人,而是要做一个不可替代的人。162. Give every day the chance to become the most beautiful day of your life. 让每一天都有机会成为你人生中最美好的一天。163. Honesty is the best policy. 做人以诚信为本。164. To a crazy ship all winds are contrary. 对于一只漫无目标的船而言,任何方向的风都是逆风。165. The outer world you see is a reflection of your inner self. 你看到什么样的世界,你就拥有什么样的内心。166. Strike while the iron is hot. 趁热打铁。167. Knowing what you cannot do is far more important than knowing what you are capable of. 知道自己不能做什么远比知道自己能做什么重要。168. People cry, not because they're weak. It's because they've been strong for too long. 哭泣,不代表脆弱,只因坚强了太久。169. Don't let yesterday use up too much of today. 别留念昨天了,把握好今天吧。(Will Rogers) 170. If you are not brave enough, no one will back you up. 你不勇敢,没人替你坚强。171. If you don't build your dream, someone will hire you to build theirs. 如果你没有梦想,那么你只能为别人的梦想打工。172. Beauty is all around, if you just open your heart to see. 只要你给自己机会,你会发现你的世界可以很美丽。173. The difference in winning and losing is most often...not quitting. 赢与输的差别通常是--不放弃。(华特·迪士尼) 174. I am ordinary yet unique. 我很平凡,但我独一无二。175. I like people who make me laugh in spite of myself. 我喜欢那些让我笑起来的人,就算是我不想笑的时候。176. Image a new story for your life and start living it. 为你的生命想一个全新剧本,并去倾情出演吧!177. I'd rather be a happy fool than a sad sage. 做个悲伤的智者,不如做个开心的傻子。178. The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. 未来属于那些相信梦想之美的人。(埃莉诺·罗斯福) 179. Even if you get no applause, you should accept a curtain call gracefully and appreciate your own efforts. 即使没有人为你鼓掌,也要优雅的谢幕,感谢自己的认真付出。180. Don't let dream just be your dream. 别让梦想只停留在梦里。181. A day without laughter is a day wasted. 没有笑声的一天是浪费了的一天。(卓别林) 182. Travel and see the world; afterwards, you will be able to put your concerns in perspective. 去旅行吧,见的世面多了,你会发现原来在意的那些结根本算不了什么。183. The key to acquiring proficiency in any task is repetition. 任何事情成功关键都是熟能生巧。《生活大爆炸》 184. You can be happy no matter what. 开心一点吧,管它会怎样。185. A good plan today is better than a perfect plan tomorrow. 今天的好计划胜过明天的完美计划。186. Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'! 一切皆有可能!“不可能”的意思是:“不,可能。”(奥黛丽·赫本) 187. Life isn't fair, but no matter your circumstances, you have to give it your all. 生活是不公平的,不管你的境遇如何,你只能全力以赴。188. No matter how hard it is, just keep going because you only fail when you give up. 无论多么艰难,都要继续前进,因为只有你放弃的那一刻,你才输了。189. It requires hard work to give off an appearance of effortlessness. 你必须十分努力,才能看起来毫不费力。190. Life is like riding a bicycle.To keep your balance,you must keep moving. 人生就像骑单车,只有不断前进,才能保持平衡。(爱因斯坦) 191. Be thankful for what you have.You'll end up having more. 拥有一颗感恩的心,最终你会得到更多。192. Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. 美是一种内心的感觉,并反映在你的眼睛里。(索菲亚·罗兰) 193. Friendship doubles your joys, and divides your sorrows. 朋友的作用,就是让你快乐加倍,痛苦减半。194. When you long for something sincerely, the whole world will help you. 当你真心渴望某样东西时,整个宇宙都会来帮忙。     When Paul Jobs was mustered out of the Coast Guard after World War II, he made a wager with his crewmates. They had arrived in San Francisco, where their ship was decommissioned, and Paul bet that he would find himself a wife within two weeks. He was a taut, tattooed engine mechanic, six feet tall, with a passing resemblance to James Dean. But it wasn’t his looks that got him a date with Clara Hagopian, a sweet-humored daughter of Armenian immigrants. It was the fact that he and his friends had a car, unlike the group she had originally planned to go out with that evening. Ten days later, in March 1946, Paul got engaged to Clara and won his wager. It would turn out to be a happy marriage, one that lasted until death parted them more than forty years later. Paul Reinhold Jobs had been raised on a dairy farm in Germantown, Wisconsin. Even though his father was an alcoholic and sometimes abusive, Paul ended up with a gentle and calm disposition under his leathery exterior. After dropping out of high school, he wandered through the Midwest picking up work as a mechanic until, at age nineteen, he joined the Coast Guard, even though he didn’t know how to swim. He was deployed on the USS General M. C. Meigs and spent much of the war ferrying troops to Italy for General Patton. His talent as a machinist and fireman earned him commendations, but he occasionally found himself in minor trouble and never rose above the rank of seaman. Clara was born in New Jersey, where her parents had landed after fleeing the Turks in Armenia, and they moved to the Mission District of San Francisco when she was a child. She had a secret that she rarely mentioned to anyone: She had been married before, but her husband had been killed in the war. So when she met Paul Jobs on that first date, she was primed to start a new life. Like many who lived through the war, they had experienced enough excitement that, when it was over, they desired simply to settle down, raise a family, and lead a less eventful life. They had little money, so they moved to Wisconsin and lived with Paul’s parents for a few years, then headed for Indiana, where he got a job as a machinist for International Harvester. His passion was tinkering with old cars, and he made money in his spare time buying, restoring, and selling them. Eventually he quit his day job to become a full-time used car salesman. Clara, however, loved San Francisco, and in 1952 she convinced her husband to move back there. They got an apartment in the Sunset District facing the Pacific, just south of Golden Gate Park, and he took a job working for a finance company as a “repo man,” picking the locks of cars whose owners hadn’t paid their loans and repossessing them. He also bought, repaired, and sold some of the cars, making a decent enough living in the process. There was, however, something missing in their lives. They wanted children, but Clara had suffered an ectopic pregnancy, in which the fertilized egg was implanted in a fallopian tube rather than the uterus, and she had been unable to have any. So by 1955, after nine years of marriage, they were looking to adopt a child. Like Paul Jobs, Joanne Schieble was from a rural Wisconsin family of German heritage. Her father, Arthur Schieble, had immigrated to the outskirts of Green Bay, where he and his wife owned a mink farm and dabbled successfully in various other businesses, including real estate and photoengraving. He was very strict, especially regarding his daughter’s relationships, and he had strongly disapproved of her first love, an artist who was not a Catholic. Thus it was no surprise that he threatened to cut Joanne off completely when, as a graduate student at the University of Wisconsin, she fell in love with Abdulfattah “John” Jandali, a Muslim teaching assistant from Syria. Jandali was the youngest of nine children in a prominent Syrian family. His father owned oil refineries and multiple other businesses, with large holdings in Damascus and Homs, and at one point pretty much controlled the price of wheat in the region. His mother, he later said, was a “traditional Muslim woman” who was a “conservative, obedient housewife.” Like the Schieble family, the Jandalis put a premium on education. Abdulfattah was sent to a Jesuit boarding school, even though he was Muslim, and he got an undergraduate degree at the American University in Beirut before entering the University of Wisconsin to pursue a doctoral degree in political science. In the summer of 1954, Joanne went with Abdulfattah to Syria. They spent two months in Homs, where she learned from his family to cook Syrian dishes. When they returned to Wisconsin she discovered that she was pregnant. They were both twenty-three, but they decided not to get married. Her father was dying at the time, and he had threatened to disown her if she wed Abdulfattah. Nor was abortion an easy option in a small Catholic community. So in early 1955, Joanne traveled to San Francisco, where she was taken into the care of a kindly doctor who sheltered unwed mothers, delivered their babies, and quietly arranged closed adoptions. Joanne had one requirement: Her child must be adopted by college graduates. So the doctor arranged for the baby to be placed with a lawyer and his wife. But when a boy was born—on February 24, 1955—the designated couple decided that they wanted a girl and backed out. Thus it was that the boy became the son not of a lawyer but of a high school dropout with a passion for mechanics and his salt-of-the-earth wife who was working as a bookkeeper. Paul and Clara named their new baby Steven Paul Jobs. When Joanne found out that her baby had been placed with a couple who had not even graduated from high school, she refused to sign the adoption papers. The standoff lasted weeks, even after the baby had settled into the Jobs household. Eventually Joanne relented, with the stipulation that the couple promise—indeed sign a pledge—to fund a savings account to pay for the boy’s college education. There was another reason that Joanne was balky about signing the adoption papers. Her father was about to die, and she planned to marry Jandali soon after. She held out hope, she would later来源:小兵说天下

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