如果有一天父母忘记了你，你会怎么做？帅气少年给出“反套路”回答！
本文转载自“21世纪英文报”，已获授权
你看过《父亲》这部电影么？
它讲述了主人公安东尼患有阿尔兹海默症后，逐渐痴呆，最后甚至无法辨认自己的女儿。
随着年岁增长，每个人的记忆都可能慢慢模糊。
如果有一天你的父母忘记了你，你会怎么做？
和许多人一样，来自江西师范大学的王炀琨，之前从未设想过这样的情况，也完全无法想象这样一天的到来。
在“21世纪杯”的比赛拿到这个即席演讲的题目之前，王炀琨对阿尔茨海默病并不了解，也不具备任何这一方面的专业知识，这也使他的演讲一度陷入了僵局。
王炀琨说，他进行了一番思想斗争：
是遵循一般的演讲套路，一步步罗列自己应对阿兹海默症的做法，还是另辟蹊径，推陈出新？
在他看来，硬着头皮讲自己并不熟知的内容，无法说服任何一名听众。
唯有真诚地面对，讲述自己的故事，才能引起共鸣。
拒绝“套路” 传递真心
I will tell my mom: It’s okay. It’s okay, if you don’t remember me.
我想告诉我的妈妈：没关系。如果你忘了我，也没有关系。
Because I remember you, and I will always love you, just like you have always loved me.
我会永远记得你，永远爱着你，就像你一直深爱着我。
借着“21世纪杯”全国大学生英语演讲比赛的平台，王炀琨对自己最亲近的妈妈说出了自己最真实的想法。
如果有一天她真的忘记了自己，他会说，没关系，他还记得她就好，因为母子间的亲情之爱永远都不会改变。
And one day when I am old, when I forget about the world, I believe and I know my kids in the future will say the same thing to me, just like I will always love them, no matter what.
终有一天，当我老了，当我忘记了整个世界，我相信，我也深知，未来我的孩子也会对我说同样的话，就像我会永远深爱着他们，无论如何。
患有阿尔茨海默病的老人就像刚出生的婴儿，事事都需要照顾。
我们总是习惯于躲在父母的庇护下，渐渐地我们忘了，忘记了父母也会有脆弱的一面，忘记了时间与病痛的残酷。
对于王炀琨来说，阿尔茨海默病的病因、症状等等，此时都不再那么重要，他抛弃了所谓的“演讲套路”，卸下思想上的包袱。
这不是一篇慷慨激昂的演讲，而是他与妈妈之间自然的对话，平日里不外露的情感得到了充分的抒发。
面对阿尔兹海默症，最重要的是亲人间无条件的爱。朴实的语言，最终打动了听众。
怀抱希望 追逐理想
△王炀琨在在第26届中国日报社“21世纪杯”全国大学生英语演讲比赛总决赛上的已备演讲
演讲稿全文：
The Power of Ideals
Growing up in China, since the day we entered elementary school, we were constantly bothered so much by this one particular question— “should I go to Tsinghua University or Peking University?” When I was little, each year on Tomb Sweeping Day, my mom would take me to the grave of my great-grandpa and say, “make a wish. Great-grandpa’s gonna bless you.” Well, mom, clearly, he didn’t, because now I ended up in neither of the universities.
Well, it may seem funny that a 7-year-old child who doesn’t even know what a university is would proudly tells the world that he or she aims to attend a top one in China. But that was the time when the concept of seeking for something greater than our existence made its debut in our little minds, and that wish is the so-called ideal accompanying us all along the journey of life. However, as we grow older, time and time again, the precious ideals shielded in our little hearts confront the reality, leaving our minds devastated, our souls drained, and our dreams shattered. Little by little, we began to see how remotely possible it is to achieve the lofty ideals that we have been working for. Then here comes the question—what is point of having ideals if they are almost impossible to be realized?
Well, to answer this question, we must first figure out firstwhat exactly are ideals? According to William Damon, professor of education at Stanford University and author of the book The Power of Ideals, ideals are “the things that you really aspire to in the best of your life and in the best of your behavior and thinking.” Therefore, you can see, in this sense, ideals don’t always stay the same; itthey changes as you grow and step into a new chapter of life. If you work hard enough to get closer to your ideal, you will find yourself in different surroundings. During the process, with your view broadened and yourself progressed, you will be given a variety of new options, and naturally your heart would be seized by something more appealing. Therefore, the idea of realizing ideals is self-contradictory.
You see, the point of having ideals is not necessarily to make it come true, but to always offer us a better way of life, an optimal choice to work hard for, and something to bring out the best of ourselves. For too long, we have been too result-oriented and forget what’s truly important and valuable to us, and that is the lessenslessonswe have learned along the way.
We acquire as much knowledge as possible in high school, even if we don’t always end up in the dream school for university education. We train tirelessly and constantly try to push our limits to prepare for a sports meet, even if not all of us end up getting the first place. We learn from someone well-known and hold them dearly in heart, even though we can rarely replicate their success and achieve their accomplishment. Nevertheless, the knowledge, the physical strength, and the virtues of those well-known are already a great treasure that have made us a better person and can benefit us for a lifetime. And most importantly, with ideals, the light of hope will always brighten the path of our journey in life and guide us through the bumpy road ahead.
在“21世纪杯”全国大学生英语演讲比赛上，王炀琨以“The Power of Ideals”为题，发表了演讲。
起初，王炀琨对这个演讲题目感到无从下手，偶然间，他听到他在上小学的表弟和家人说自己以后要上清华，童言稚语激发了他的灵感。
几乎每个小孩子都会说自己以后要上清华或北大，这个不成熟的想法象征着“理想”这一个宏大的概念第一次在人们的心里出现。
But that was the time when the concept of seeking for something greater than our existence made its debut in our little minds, and that wish is the so-called ideal accompanying us all along the journey of life.
但正是在那个时候，我们小小的头脑里开始出现了寻找比自身存在更崇高的东西的想法，这个愿望就是所谓的理想，在人生的旅途中陪伴着我们。
在思考的过程中，他不禁产生了很多疑问：
现实中有几个人最终实现了自己儿时的理想呢？如果达成理想的概率如此之低，理想存在的意义到底是什么呢？每个人在人生各个阶段的经历不同，理想会是一成不变的吗？
看了《理想的力量》的作者的访谈后 ，王炀琨了解到，理想的意义在于驱使人为了更美好的事物不断努力。
If you work hard enough to get closer to your ideal, you will find yourself in different surroundings.
如果你足够努力去接近你的理想，你会发现自己处在不同的环境中。
During the process, with your view broadened and yourself progressed, you will be given a variety of new options, and naturally your heart would be seized by something more appealing.
在这个过程中，你的视野开阔了，你的自我进步了，你会有很多新的选择，你的心自然会被更吸引人的东西所俘获。
在现代快节奏的社会，人们往往过于在意最后的结果，而忘记了在追寻理想的过程中自我的成长。而在王炀琨看来，这也是理想真正的力量。
And most importantly, with ideals, the light of hope will always brighten the path of our journey in life and guide us through the bumpy road ahead.
最重要的是，有了理想，希望之光将永远照亮我们人生的道路，指引我们走过前方坎坷的道路。
指导王炀琨的张汨老师和Connie外教的合影
王炀琨并不是从小就在英文演讲方面展现出过人的天赋，在最开始接触英文演讲时也曾“用力过猛”，被所谓的“演讲套路”所困。
但幸运的是，他得到了恩师们的帮助。
也是从这些指导老师身上，他学会了：不论任何题材，演讲都不是讲者自己拼了命输出，而是讲究轻重缓急，抑扬顿挫，适时和听众互动，给听众思考的时间。
一篇真正好的，打动人心的演讲，反而需要保留一丝平静，娓娓道来，先打动自己，再打动观众。
在“21世纪杯”的舞台上，王炀琨也用自己的行动证明：最终打动听众和评委的，还是一颗真诚的心，是用语言传递的真情。
来源：21世纪杯英语演讲
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