Date Night Stories: She Asked Me For 10k After Sex
Date Night Stories
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Author: Anonymous
Back in January I went to a party in 1/3 [club in Beijing]. Usually nothing surprising happens during or after it, but this night I had drunk a bit too much and something had clicked in my head. I was 100% sure that I wanted to hookup that night.
Note for future self : never, ever hookup just for the sake of it. At least try to find out a bit about the person.
So anyway, at around 4 am me and a cute Chinese girl notice each other. She wasn't that drunk judging by appearance, but I was pretty much shitfaced, so I can't be sure. Me and her quickly exchanged WeChats and decided to go to her place. She didn't speak English, so we mostly used WeChat's translator to talk. After she brought me to her home, we quickly just went for it.
And then, during sex I realised one important thing.
I was her first.
That realisation made me sober right away. After managing to stop the act, we started discussing what just happened. She confirmed that I was her first and then started insisting that we should begin a relationship.
I tried to explain that it was a one-time thing. We went back and forth, after which she went;
"Ok, then pay me 10k RMB."
"What?"
"You have to pay me 10k RMB, I've lost my virginity to you."
Even saying it all now feels like it was a lucid dream. At that point I realised where it's all going and called a DiDi. Once it was nearby and I started putting on my clothes, she realised that I was leaving and called someone.
I don't know Chinese, so I assumed that it's police or worse. I basically ran away from apartment and even then she tried to hold me in the corridor. Thankfully I didn't forget anything.
When I dropped in to the cab, I saw a police car arriving to the apartment. I just barely dodged it.
Again, notefor future self: At least try to find out a bit about your hook-up before you go home with them.
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