20岁的你做了这些 却得用一生来悔过

虽然每个人的人生道路可能不太一样，但毫无疑问，人生最美好的时光就是二十几岁的时候。这时候，你可是结识很多朋友，可以拥有很多回忆，但有时候，却难以把握很重要的东西。20几岁本就是一个令人困惑的时期，有人说，痛苦和幸福其实是平衡的，既然要得此幸福，就得承受同样多的痛苦。你的20几岁，总是充满了教训，等到了30几岁甚至后半生，你又会自然地后悔你做过的一切，不管意识到的还是没有意识到的。这12件事是许多人在他们20几岁的时候后悔做过的事情，大家的20岁可能才刚刚开始，为什么不提前避免这些事情，让大家不至于在后面的人生中后悔呢？

Smoking
吸烟

很多人，不管基于什么原因，都会在20几岁的时候养成一个坏习惯，那就是——吸烟。一生中的任何时间，吸烟都算的上是最愚蠢的事情之一。

Not only is smoking horrible for your health, but it also causes you to age a lot faster.Smoking is an addiction, it is very hard to quit and although a lot of people know this when they begin, many still fall into the trap. When you are in your 30s smoking cigarettes or quitting cigarettes is not what you want to be doing with your energy. smoking is definitely one of the many things people get into when they are young and dumb that they end up regretting.
吸烟不仅仅有害健康,而且会加速衰老。同时吸烟会上瘾,却很难戒掉，尽管有很多人一开始就知道,但他们依然会”义无反顾”。当你到了30几岁时,吸烟或戒烟可就不是你想做就能做到的了。它绝对是人们在年轻的时候做过,最终会后悔的事情之一。

Not Connecting With Family
疏忽家人

20几岁的你可能真的很“忙碌”，工作，聚会，和老友见见面。可是，当一切都结束的时候，你才会发现，其实对你来说最重要的，始终只有家庭，20岁的时光里，你和家人的距离会很遥远。

at the end of the day, there are not that many people who know you like your family does. There is no one besides your family, to teach you about where you come from or other interesting things . Get to know your family throughout your twenties, as they are the best people to help guide you through your thirties.
当一天结束的时候，并没有很多人可以像家人一样了解你。除了他们，没有人会教你，你来自哪里或者一些你感兴趣的事情。在二十几岁时，试着去了解你的家人，因为他们是指引我们如何经历30几岁的最好人选。

Not Finishing School
放弃学业

很多人后悔在他们20几岁的时候没有上过学，如果可以重来一次的话，他们一定会选择在三十岁之前完成大部分教育。这样的话，他们才有时间在剩下的生命里做着自己喜欢的事。

If we are being fair, school is a pain for a lot of people. After high school graduation, many individuals decide to take their own path that is away from education. Although that is admirable and a lot find happiness and success, most people who do not finish their education or go to university end up regretting it in the long run. What people in their 20’s sometimes do not understand is that life just gets harder and more expensive as the years go by. By attaining your degree you have shown to employers that you are able to stick to your passion and goal.
如果一样的话,目前来说，学校对大多数人来说都是痛苦的存在。许多人高中毕业以后,就决定走出他们远离教育的一条路。虽然这种举动听起来令人钦佩,可能他们也取得了幸福和成功.但是从长远来看，大多数没有完成学业或者没有上过大学的人将来都会后悔。20几岁的人不会明白,随着时间的流逝，生活变得越来越艰难。如果获得学位，你已经向老板或雇主证明了你对工作的热情和目标。

You may still be incredibly intelligent and successful if you do not attend school, but you will have to find other ways to show your value.
如果你没上过学，你也可能依然有着令人难以置信的聪明和成功，但你必须找到其他方法来凸显你的价值。

Not Wearing Sunscreen
不涂防晒霜

20几岁的时候，妈妈可能会一直提醒你涂防晒霜，但你只会觉得厌烦，但是到了30岁的时候，你才会意识到这是多么重要，特别是对于女性来说。

Protecting your skin makes a huge difference in the long run, it prevents wrinkles as well as skin damage and disease. People in their twenties think they are invincible and although that is one of the best parts of being young, it has a lot of side effects. Take care of your skin, you may not “burn” in the sun but there is damage being done if you do not protect yourself. There are countless 30, 40 and 50-year-olds, around the globe that wished they had put on more sunscreen when they were younger.
从长远来看，保护你的皮肤很重要，它可以防止皱纹,还可以防止皮肤损伤和疾病.20多岁的人总会认为他们是无敌的，因为这是年轻的好处之一,但其实它也有很多的副作用.做好护肤，有可能你不会在太阳下暴晒，但如果你不护肤的话，将来你的皮肤会出现很多问题。全世界有无数的30,40和50岁的人希望他们在年轻的时候要是涂过更多的防晒霜就好了。

 Not Exercising
缺乏锻炼

很多年轻人会认为如果不需要减肥，那么就不需要锻炼，但是，锻炼与体重没有关系，它只会与你的健康挂钩。

You should be working out because it keeps you young. Being active is one of the best ways of keeping yourself healthy, it gives you more energy and helps boost your immune system. Working out is also extremely therapeutic, it releases endorphins and gives you one of the best (and natural) highs you will ever feel. Do not wait until you are past your twenties to get to the gym, the younger you get yourself into the habit the better.
你应该多锻炼，它让你保持年轻。锻炼是保持健康的最好方法之一，它会给你更多的能量，有助于增强你的免疫系统。锻炼也是治疗,它会释放内啡肽,让你爽到极点。不要等到你过了二十几岁才去健身房，趁着年轻,你就应该培养诸如此类的好习惯。

Caring Too Much What People Think
太过在意别人

其实大概从高中开始的时候，我们就会太过在意别人的看法，然而往往最后带给你的只有失望。只有等到20就岁的时候，你才会明白，每个人对于每一件事的认知都会不同，我们没有必要只在乎别人怎么看，却忽略了自己。

At a certain point, you will realize that the most important person to please is yourself. If you want to do something do it, if you want to go after something go after it- whatever it is that you feel you need is usually exactly what has been missing.  
在某个时刻，你会意识到，你最需要迎合的人就是自己。 你想做什么就去做什么，你想追求什么就去追求什么。无论什么，当你觉得你需要，其实它也正在失去。

Letting Your Parents Dictate Your Life
父母干预人生

父母永远是最伟大的，只有他们会一直支持我们，相信我们，但有时候，他们却不知道我们真正需要的是什么，往往他们就将自己的想法强加于我们身上，将我们推向一条原本不属于自己的道路。

Although parents have brought us into this world, that does not give them a right to dictate our adulthood. Everyone deserves to feel loved and supported and everyone should have the right to choose their own paths. A lot of people who pick a career or a spouse based solely on what their parents believe tend to end up losing focus on what they really want.
虽然父母带给我们进入这个世界，但这并不意味着他们有权掌握我们的成年。每个人都有权利被爱，被支持，但同时他们也有权利选择自己的人生道路。很多人都是基于父母来选择事业或配偶，却失去了他们真正想要的东西。

Not Living Alone
没有独立生活

很多人都会经历这样一个阶段，从住家里到住宿舍再到与别人合租，虽然有时候这样确实很有效，但对于大部分人来说，都需要独立生活一段时间，来真正地体会人生。

By the time you reach your thirties, most people begin to start families and the silence and comfort of being alone is no longer so easy to find. Regardless of whether you think you need it or not, being independent has a lot of benefits.
到了30几岁的时候，大多数人都要开始经营家庭，很难有机会拥有沉默和舒适的独处。无论需要还是不需要，独立真的会让我们学到很多。

Not Travelling
没有旅行

毫无疑问，旅行几乎是每个人都想做的事情。但是有很多人却从来没有付诸于实践，因为他们总是将理由归于时间不对，好吧，如果你一直在等这个“正确的时间”，那它将永远不会发生。

You can’t take off for six months when you have a family because rumor has it you still have a baby or children to take care of. You can understand, especially if you have traveled, why not seeing the world in your twenties is one of the biggest regrets people have. There is nothing that is comparable to seeing, learning and exploring different parts of the world and different cultures.
 
当你拥有家庭的时候，你就不会可能把半年的时间用来旅行，因为你需要去照顾你的孩子。特别是你已经旅行了，你就会明白，为什么没有去看看外面的世界成了很多人最大的遗憾之一。真的没有什么可以跟去看看，学习，探索不同地方还有不同文化相提并论的了。

Not Saying How You Feel
没有表达自己

隐藏自己的感受，往往会让我们失去很多机会，不论是跟朋友，还是同事，又或者是我们爱的人，我们都要善于说出自己的想法。

People in their twenties have a huge fear of rejection and an even bigger fear when it comes to talking about things that make them uncomfortable, such as feelings. This is one of the biggest regrets people have as they get older, however, that does not mean that you need to have that regret. Say what is one your mind and open up about how you feel, especially if you are dealing with something like an unhealthy relationship. You will regret it if you don’t.
二十几岁的时候，对于拒绝，人们总会感到恐惧，或者谈到一些让他们不舒服的事情，他们会更为害怕。当慢慢变老的时候，这就成为了最大的遗憾之一，但这并不是说，你就应该承受这些。
所以，当处理一些事情的时候，要懂得说出你的想法和感受。否则，你会后悔的。

我们的人生道路很长，一切还都来得及。

（英文材料来自the richest   翻译：张佳祥 Aimee  编辑：Aimee）