My Mom And Grandma Tell Me Whom To Date. I Rebelled
Hi there! I’m Melena. I have a question. Do you share everything with your family? I mean, do they know about your aspirations, your wishes, and your pains? Well, I definitely do. I tell them about every single detail of my life and that has become my biggest curse.
It just so happened that I live with my grandma, my mom, and my older sister Elena. Yes, there are no men in the family. My granny divorced my grandpa even before I was born. She always said that he was a dishonest person and one day she caught him cheating on her with their neighbor and she just kicked him out of her life. I have never seen my Grandpa, not even in photos, since granny tore them up and threw away all his belongings.
Mom also never managed to build a family. She divorced my dad when I was a few months old and I don’t remember him at all. But, according to my mom and my granny, he couldn’t earn decent enough money to make his family happy, so he was useless and it was good that he wasn’t around anymore.
Consequently, the unsuccessful experience in love of the older women in our family had a heavy influence on the relationships of me and Elena with guys. With an inevitable insight, mom and granny could see all the flaws of every guy who ever appeared on our horizon. Granny always said that, taking into account her own experience and the years she had already lived, she could see completely through a man from the first glance. And I believed her. That’s why I always told my family everything, especially about the relationship part, once I was in one.
His name was Ethan. We studied together in high school and just like it always happens, at first we hung out in the same group of friends, then he asked me out, and on our third date, we already told each other that we loved each other. And just like any other girl who was 17, I was sure that he was the one. I was totally excited about him and every time I came home after another date with him, I'd reveal every single detail of our time spent together, like, what compliments was he giving to me, and how gentle he was, and how goosebumps were running down my back every time he touched my hair. You see, literally – everything.
And at first things were great, I mean, my family seemed to like Ethan and they were totally interested when I was telling them about another one of our dates and stuff. He often stayed for dinner and, well, after more than a year of being in a relationship with him, he practically became a family member.
But then the time for college came. You see, my family couldn’t afford to have me continue my education after graduating from school, unlike Ethan's parents. It was already planned in advance that he was going to study in Europe and even though it meant that we wouldn’t be able to see each other for quite a long period of time and it made me totally sad, I knew it was a great opportunity and even a dream for Ethan, so I tried to be supportive. And, one day he left, but he promised to send me texts every day and said that he would miss me and other stuff. I cried, of course, and back then I really needed all the support my family could provide me with, but things didn’t quite work out that way.
Mom and granny continued to be interested in my relationship, but I started frequently hearing a lot of discouraging stuff from them. At most, they said that there was no such thing as a long distance relationship and that Ethan would inevitably meet another girl who would stay next to him and that he would dump me here, so I’d better dump him first so I didn't get too hurt. They even assumed that his family was against our relationship, since, you know, we didn’t have enough money and they might think that we weren't decent people and so on and that they were nice to me because they knew that once he left for Europe, we'd break up.
I refused to believe them and tried to argue with everything they were saying, but the feeling that they might be right at least to some extent wouldn’t leave me. The situation worsened also with the fact that, because of the time difference and different daily routines, it took Ethan a long time to answer my texts or he would write that he couldn’t speak now because he was busy and so on. That really irritated me and made me jealous, ‘cause I was assuming that he was with another girl, you know, because mom and granny said so. Anyway, at some point, he got really tired because of all that and broke up with me on social media.
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