关于男女性别对立
近日，脱口秀演员杨笠关于“男人”的言论再次引发热议，她在脱口秀节目中金句频出，如“男人还有底线吗？”
对此，池子在微博上发表了自己的观点：“總有人問我脫口秀應該什麼模樣，我覺得很可能是羅翔老師那樣，但肯定不是楊笠那樣。”
紧接着又池子又表示“其實，我自我認知是一個女性”。
借（cèng）此（gè）机（rè）会（diǎn），我们来看看今日心理学（Psychology Today）一篇文章，讲述我们需要了解的关于异性的几件事。
3 Things You Need to Learn about the Opposite Sex
Psychology Today
We are alike in so many ways, but when it comes to relationships and love, there's no denying it: Men and women can seem to be complete opposites. What might surprise you, however, is just how numerous and real these differences truly are. And yet, you can't ignore different ways of looking at love if you want to build a successful relationship.
My book, 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great, was based on the findings of my long-term study of marriage. One key finding was that becoming aware of the differences between you and your partner will lead to a stronger and happier relationship in the long run.
3 Things Men Need to Understand About Women in Relationships
Conflict lingers. My study found that women are much more sensitive than men about conflict and problems that arise in relationships. When a woman has a disagreement, it lingers in her mind for two to three days. She replays it over and over. She wants to go over the disagreement the next day. By contrast, when men have a conflict with their partner, once it's been discussed, it's resolved. The fight doesn't linger in their minds. They have already moved on to thinking about something else.
Don't fix things. Men need to understand that when women have a problem and they come to share that problem with you, they might not need the problem to be solved. Men want to repair or fix issues when women raise them. Women often just want you to listen, empathize, and say you understand.
Women connect through talk. Women connect and feel close to others by talking and sharing personal information. Talking time is therapeutic to women. If you want a woman to feel close to you, she needs to open up to you—and you to her. Most men feel connected by doing activities with others (poker, sports), but women feel close by simply talking.
3 Things Women Need to Understand About Men in Relationships
They need affirmation from their partners. Affirmation is the degree to which you are made to feel loved, cared for, and valued or special. Studies show that long-lasting relationships are those in which men feel affirmed. Women also need to feel cared for, but they have so many other people they can get affirmation from—sisters, friends, their mother, even neighbors and co-workers. Men, however, typically do not receive affirmation from anyone besides their partners.
Track what they do, not what they say. Men are action-oriented. They have trouble verbalizing their love. They can learn to verbalize their feelings, but they are more likely to express their love by doing, rather than by saying—like filling up your car's gas tank, picking up your dry cleaning, or starting the coffee in the morning. Romantic? Perhaps not by your standards, but to men, it is what love is all about.
Talk can be a problem. Men don't like to be criticized. And when women bring up the need to change something in the relationship—or in man—men interpret this as criticism. Women may have the best intentions at heart, but men hear that there's trouble and that it's their fault. The next time you are tempted to talk about your relationship, praise or acknowledge your partner's strengths first. Then begin the discussion about necessary changes.
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含注释全文：
3 Things You Need to Learn about the Opposite Sex
Psychology Today
We are alike in so many ways, but when it comes to relationships and love, there's no denying it: Men and women can seem to be complete opposites. What might surprise you, however, is just how numerous and real these differences truly are. And yet, you can't ignore different ways of looking at love if you want to build a successful relationship.
我们在很多方面都是相似的，但当涉及到关系和爱情时，无法否认的是：男性和女性似乎是完全对立的。然而，你可能会感到惊讶的是，这些差异是如此的多且真实。而如果你想建立一个良好的关系，你就不能忽视看待爱情的不同方式。
there's no denying
there's no denying (that/something) 表示“无可否认”，相当于it is true，英文解释为“”举个🌰：
There's no denying that this has been a difficult year for us.
今年对大家而言是非常困难的一年，这一点毋庸置疑。
opposite
作名词，表示“对立的物（或人）；对立面；反面”，英文解释为“something or someone that is completely different from another person or thing”举个🌰：
My father is a very calm person, but my mother is just the opposite.
我父亲是个非常沉着的人，而我母亲则正好相反。
My book, 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great, was based on the findings of my long-term study of marriage. One key finding was that becoming aware of the differences between you and your partner will lead to a stronger and happier relationship in the long run.
我的书《让你的婚姻从美好到伟大的5个简单步骤》（5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great）是基于我对婚姻的长期研究结果。其中一个关键的发现是，意识到你和你的伴侣之间的差异，从长远来看，将促成更强大、更幸福的关系。
◉ 3 Things Men Need to Understand About Women in Relationships 在一段关系中男性需要了解女性的3件事
①Conflict lingers. My study found that women are much more sensitive than men about conflict and problems that arise in relationships. When a woman has a disagreement, it lingers in her mind for two to three days. She replays it over and over. She wants to go over the disagreement the next day. By contrast, when men have a conflict with their partner, once it's been discussed, it's resolved. The fight doesn't linger in their minds. They have already moved on to thinking about something else.
冲突挥之不去。我的研究发现，女性对关系中出现的冲突和问题比男性敏感得多。当女性发生分歧时，它会在她的脑海中停留两到三天。她会一遍又一遍地回想。她想在第二天再去讨论这个分歧。相比之下，当男性与伴侣发生冲突时，一旦讨论过，就解决了。争吵不会在他们的脑海中挥之不去。他们已经转而去想别的事情了。
linger
1）表示“（想法、感觉、疾病）继续存留”，英文解释为“When something such as an idea, feeling, or illness lingers, it continues to exist for a long time, often much longer than expected.”举个🌰：
The scent of her perfume lingered on in the room.
她的香水味在房间里久久不散。
2）表示“继续逗留”，英文解释为“If you linger somewhere, you stay there for a longer time than is necessary, for example, because you are enjoying yourself.”举个🌰：
Customers are welcome to linger over coffee until around midnight.
顾客们可以慢慢品味咖啡到午夜。
📍《经济学人》（The Economist）一篇讲述疫情下的生活成本的文章中提到：For as long as fears of viral contagion linger, many businesses could struggle to attract new custom, 只要对病毒蔓延的恐惧未消，许多企业可能很难吸引到新客户。
replay
除了表示“重新播放（录像、录音等），重演”，还可以表示“反复回想”，英文解释为“If you replay an event in your mind, you think about it again and again.”举个🌰：
She spends her nights lying in bed, replaying the fire in her mind.
她很多个晚上躺在床上，反复回想着那场火灾。
📍《经济学人》（The Economist）一篇讲述疫情的文章中提到：Factories, offices, restaurants and shops closed, in scenes now being replayed around the world. 工厂、办公室、餐馆和商店都关门了，这些景象目前正在世界各地重演。
go over sth
1）表示“温习；重复”，英文解释为“to study or explain something”举个🌰：
I always go over my notes just before I go into an exam.
我在参加考试前总是会把复习笔记重温一遍。
2）表示“仔细检查；仔细审查；仔细察看”，英文解释为“to examine or look at something in a careful or detailed way”举个🌰：
Remember to go over your essay for grammar and spelling mistakes before you hand it in to me.
记住在把论文交给我之前，要仔细检查一下语法和拼写错误。
resolve
表示“解决；解除；消除”，英文解释为“to solve or end a problem or difficulty”，resolve the differences 消除分歧，举个🌰：
Have you resolved the problem of transport yet?
你们解决交通问题了吗？
📍《经济学人》（The Economist）一篇讲述波士顿动力公司四脚机器人Spot的文章中提到：Instead of just looking for problems, Spot’s next trick will be to take action to resolve them, such as throwing a switch or turning a valve. 除了要找出问题，点点的下一个本领将是采取行动解决问题，例如扳动开关或转动阀门。
类似的：
📍solve：表示“解决；处理”（to find a way of dealing with a problem or difficult situation），举个🌰：
The police are still no nearer to solving the crime.
警方在侦破此案上依然没有取得任何进展。
②Don't fix things. Men need to understand that when women have a problem and they come to share that problem with you, they might not need the problem to be solved. Men want to repair or fix issues when women raise them. Women often just want you to listen, empathize, and say you understand.
不要去解决事情。男性要明白，当女性有问题，她们来和你分享这个问题时，她们可能不需要这个问题被解决。当女性提出问题的时候，男性希望修复或解决这些问题。女性往往只想让你倾听、同情，并表示你感同身受。
③Women connect through talk. Women connect and feel close to others by talking and sharing personal information. Talking time is therapeutic to women. If you want a woman to feel close to you, she needs to open up to you—and you to her. Most men feel connected by doing activities with others (poker, sports), but women feel close by simply talking.
女性通过谈话进行交流。女性通过交谈和分享个人信息，与他人建立联系并感到亲近。谈话时间对女性有治疗作用。如果你想让一个女性觉得和你很亲近，她需要对你敞开心扉--你也需要对她敞开心扉。大多数男性通过与他人一起参加活动（扑克、运动）来建立联系，但女性通过简单的交谈来感受亲近。
therapeutic
therapeutic /ˌθɛrəˈpjuːtɪk/ 1）表示“治疗的；医疗的；治病的”，英文解释为“designed to help treat an illness”，如：the therapeutic properties of herbs 草药的医疗效用；
2）表示“有助于放松精神的；有益于健康的”，英文解释为“helping you to relax”举个🌰：
Painting can be very therapeutic.
绘画可以使人很放松。
◉ 3 Things Women Need to Understand About Men in Relationships 在一段关系中女性需要了解男性的3件事
①They need affirmation from their partners. Affirmation is the degree to which you are made to feel loved, cared for, and valued or special. Studies show that long-lasting relationships are those in which men feel affirmed. Women also need to feel cared for, but they have so many other people they can get affirmation from—sisters, friends, their mother, even neighbors and co-workers. Men, however, typically do not receive affirmation from anyone besides their partners.
他们需要伴侣的肯定。肯定是指让你感受到被爱、被关心、被重视或特殊的程度。研究表明，长久的关系是那些男性感到被肯定的关系。女性也需要感受到被关心，但她们有很多其他的人可以得到肯定--姐妹、朋友、母亲，甚至邻居和同事。然而，男性通常不会从除了伴侣之外的任何人那里得到肯定。
affirmation
表示“肯定；情感上的支持（鼓励）”，英文解释为“a statement or sign that something is true；the act of saying yes or of showing that you mean yes；support or approval”举个🌰：
He nodded in affirmation.
他肯定地点点头。
📍《经济学人》（The Economist）一篇讲述通过应用和数据网络监控可以有效阻止新冠肺炎的传播的文章中提到：Facebook, which owns WhatsApp, requires such affirmation so people do not just default to being tracked. WhatsApp的母公司Facebook要求做出这样的确认，以免人们只是默认接受被追踪状态。
②Track what they do, not what they say. Men are action-oriented. They have trouble verbalizing their love. They can learn to verbalize their feelings, but they are more likely to express their love by doing, rather than by saying—like filling up your car's gas tank, picking up your dry cleaning, or starting the coffee in the morning. Romantic? Perhaps not by your standards, but to men, it is what love is all about.
看他们做了什么，而不是说了什么。男性是行动导向的。他们难以用言辞表达自己的爱。他们可以学习用言辞表达自己的感情，但他们更可能通过做而不是说来表达他们的爱，比如给你的车加满油，去拿你的干洗衣服，或在早上准备咖啡。浪漫吗？也许以你的标准来说不是，但对男性来说，这就是爱情的全部。
action-oriented
表示“行动导向的”，英文解释为“willing or likely to take practical action to deal with a problem or situation”举个🌰：
Staff needed to become more creative, action-oriented, and efficient.
工作人员需要变得更有创造力、更注重行动、更有效率。
📍-oriented表示“以…为目标的；以…为导向的”（showing the direction in which something is aimed）举个🌰：
She wants to turn the company into a profit-oriented organization.
她想把公司变成一个以营利为目的的机构。
📍比如，2020政府工作报告中提到：持续打造市场化、法治化、国际化营商环境 make sustained efforts to create a market-oriented, law-based, and internationalized business environment,
verbalize
表示“用言辞表达”，英文解释为“to express ideas, opinions, or emotions in words”举个🌰：
He found it hard to verbalize his feelings towards his son.
他觉得难以用语言来描述他对儿子的感情。
③Talk can be a problem. Men don't like to be criticized. And when women bring up the need to change something in the relationship—or in man—men interpret this as criticism. Women may have the best intentions at heart, but men hear that there's trouble and that it's their fault. The next time you are tempted to talk about your relationship, praise or acknowledge your partner's strengths first. Then begin the discussion about necessary changes.
说话可能是个问题。男性不喜欢被批评。而当女性提出需要改变关系中的一些东西--或者说是男性身上的一些东西--男性会把这理解为批评。女性可能心存善意，但男性听到时，觉得有麻烦了，是他们的错。下次你想谈论你们的关系时，先赞美或承认你伴侣的优点，然后开始讨论必要的改变。
interpret
1）表示“诠释；说明”，英文解释为“to explain the meaning of sth”举个🌰：
The students were asked to interpret the poem.
学生们被要求诠释那首诗的意义。
2）表示“把…理解为；领会”，英文解释为“to decide that sth has a particular meaning and to understand it in this way ”举个🌰：
The data can be interpreted in many different ways.
这份资料可以从多方面解读。
3）表示“演绎（按自己的感觉演奏音乐或表现角色）”，英文解释为“to perform a piece of music, a role in a play, etc. in a way that shows your feelings about its meaning”举个🌰：
He interpreted the role with a lot of humour.
他把这个角色演得十分幽默。
4）表示“翻译，口语”（to change what someone is saying into another language）。
tempt
表示“引诱，诱惑；吸引”，英文解释为“to make someone want to have or do something, especially something that is unnecessary or wrong”举个🌰：
The offer of free credit tempted her into buying a new car.
可享受免费贷款让她禁不住诱惑买了一辆新车。
🎬 电影《霍比特人：意外之旅》（The Hobbit: An Unexpected Journey）中的台词提到：May I tempt you with a cup of chamomile? 要来一杯甘菊茶吗？
🎬 电影《纳尼亚传奇3：黎明踏浪号》（The Chronicles of Narnia: The Voyage of the Dawn Treader）中的台词提到：It will do everything in it's power to tempt you. 它会用尽一切手段来诱惑你们。
📍此处，be tempted表示“想要（某物）；想做（某事）”(to want something or to want to do something）举个🌰：
I was sorely (= very) tempted to resign after my boss screamed at me for the second time.
老板第二次对我大喊大叫了以后，我很想辞职。
📍《经济学人》（The Economist）一篇讲述安倍经济学的文章中提到：They may, however, be tempted to rebrand it. Suganomics, for example, has a nice ring to it. 不过他们可能会很想要给它换个名字，比如“菅经济学”，听起来也挺不错。
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