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请叫嚣战争的人多看几眼贝鲁特大爆炸

雨中红莲 2020-10-24
作者:李东雷  来源:东雷老评(dll20180601) 部分图片视频来源网络

早起被朋友圈转发的视频惊到了,黎巴嫩首都贝鲁特发生剧烈爆炸:


我看到大爆炸的第一反应是恐怖袭击或者是以色列对于黎巴嫩发动了袭击。但这爆炸威力实在是太大了,尤其是爆炸产生的冲击波如此猛烈,与核爆炸有一拼了,显然不是常规武器造成的。

后续报道说这是一起施工不慎引发贝鲁特港口贮存的2700吨硝酸铵发生了爆炸。目前已经造成了100多人死亡,4000多人受伤,10公里外的建筑都受到了损伤。

贝鲁特港区爆炸前后的对比

大爆炸的恐怖场景让我想到了广岛的原子弹爆炸。但有分析说,贝鲁特这次爆炸的当量只相当于广岛原子弹爆炸的十五分之一,只能算是一枚小型核弹的爆炸,而且没有核辐射。当年的广岛比较惨是因为它是木屋为主的城市,而贝鲁特是一座水泥钢筋建成的现代化城市,依然被破坏得如此惨重。

贝鲁特大爆炸的惨烈



我希望在网络上叫嚣战争的人多看一看这样的恐怖场景,对于战争多一点敬畏和理性。反对战争和避免战争应该是人类的常识。鼓动战争、尤其是核战争是一件反人类的罪行。



这些年在网络上叫嚣战争的人特别多,前些年是“中日难免一战”,现在是“中美难免一战”。有些专家叫嚣战争的时候缺少了一样东西:人性

前几年,国防大学的朱成虎少将就很牛气地说“我们已经做好牺牲西安以东所有城市的准备”。

戴大校打烂沿海无非到西部重建的高论,霸气打败美帝

戴旭大校曾经说“美军有能力把我们沿海打烂,但我们可以承受,我们是第三世界,本来就穷,打烂了还可以重建”。这样的语言听上去气壮山河,牛逼得不行。如果他们只是想表达一下与美国人血拼到底的决心也就罢了,如果只是为了哗众取宠也就算了。如果他们真是这么想的话,这样的专家就太可怕了。

朱将军口中的西安以东所有城市、戴大校口中的中国沿海,都是中国人口最集中、经济最发达的地区,是我们国力所在,也是绝大多数中国百姓安居乐业之处。两位专家可能都忘记了战争的目的是什么。难道是为了让自己死伤无数、留下一堆废墟和残存的人口来搞建设吗?

叫嚣战争的人被中国一些网民起个好听的名字叫“鹰派”。他们意淫式地夸大中国的经济实力、政治实力和军事实力。他们主张在对美国、日本等与中国有矛盾的国家采取强硬的态度。这样所谓的鹰派或战狼的情绪更可以迎合不少网民的民族主义热情,带来掌声不断。

他们口中描绘的战争依然是外敌入侵、占领和奴役中国人的传统战争。这种传统战争方式其实是成本庞大到侵略者自己无法承受的战争方式。现代战争早就不是这种打法了,中美、中日可能发生战争的场景是在海洋上,而不是在中国本土上。即使美国选择对中国本土动武,可能性最大的也是定点清除打击。

在我看来,中国早已经不再面临外来武装入侵和统治的威胁。



冷战结束后,安全观已经发生了彻底改变,那种国家间传统的入侵、占领和统治的侵略模式不仅早已被国际法理所唾弃,而且在实践中也已经消失了。伊拉克的萨达姆为什么会倒台,追本溯源是他那一次吞并科威特的愚蠢决定。

美国对于伊拉克、阿富汗的侵略方式是占领、改造、撤离。入侵战争打得挺干净利落,让人看到了美国军事力量的强大。但美国为占领和改造所付出的人力牺牲和经济成本实在太大了。到了特朗普现在就想着怎么把美军尽早撤出这些地方。今年他在西点军校毕业典礼上讲话时声明“美国不是世界警察”。

传统战争因何而起?无非是因为领土之争、资源之争、人口之争,民族冲突、宗教冲突、意识形态冲突引起的,冷战结束后,美国学者又提出文明冲突论。事实是,国家利益已经很少依靠硬实力,即军事手段来捍卫。而是通过软实力,即经济手段和文化影响力来达成自己的目标,这才是冷战后的国际关系实践。

对于一个国家来说,战争是不可取的终极手段。冷战后的发生入侵战争都是大国对小国弱国的短暂入侵,小国内部的民族冲突。事实上,二战之后,美苏两个大国之间就没有发生过直接战争,都是找代理人打一打。双方最直接、最危险的冲突就是古巴导弹危机。双方最终选择了妥协,因为谁都清楚,核战争只有死路一条。
      
中国是一个有核武器的国家,而且中国的核力量是保密的。这种不透明的威慑力是中国免受外来侵略的根本性保障。

那么为什么还要大力发展军队呢?答案很简单:为了遏制战争。

中国不会面临大战,这是邓小平当年提出的伟大判断。正是基于这个基本判断,中国才开始搞改革开放,大力发展经济。解决了与俄罗斯和越南的陆地边界问题,这么多年来我们努力营造一个和平的周边环境和国际环境,为自己的经济发展创造条件。即使遭遇驻南联盟使馆被炸、中美撞机这种严重事件,我们都努力避免了冲突升级。

谁也没有想到,短短几年中美关系会发生如此巨大的变化 。中美关系目前这种冷战式的恶化对于我们的影响有多大?我曾经在我那篇流传甚广但已经被删除的《这几年的中美关系,专家们没少帮倒忙》一文中简单列出几项:

传统安全上,朝鲜半岛、台湾海峡、南海、中印边境等热点问题会此起彼伏地困扰中国,尤其是台湾问题加大干预,突破各种原有限制,逼着你同时面对几个战场,难以取舍。

国际关系上,美国把中美之争打回制度之争的原形,重要国家又需要选择站队了,原先那种基于利益的模糊空间必然被减少,我们要为保持和争取国际支持付出更大的代价。

经济领域,中美贸易战可能会加剧,美国还会加大对中国的金融打击。中国的一带一路战略势必遭遇更大的阻碍。

科技领域,美国会进一步限制高新科技的对华出口,限制华为这样的公司的行动自由,而且是在全球范围内对中国公司进行限制和阻击。

文化领域,价值观之争会让美国进一步丑化和矮化中国制度与文化,限制中外学术交流和文化交流。对于个人来讲,留学美国的难度会上升。
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有人说,中美间的冷战是美国大选的需要,是暂时的。但令人担忧的是,即使特朗普不能连任总统,美国国内看上去也已经形成了对华强硬的共识。不管谁当总统,都会把上述领域的各种手段综合起来遏制中国的发展,这就是当年美国在美苏对抗时实践过的、成功的冷战方式。

美苏之间就是没有爆发直接热战,虽然双方热战的边缘动作一直就没有停止过。冷战的目标不是为了占领苏联这样一个庞大的国家,而是让它自我崩溃。

我相信,美国以后也会对中国做出很多热战的边缘动作来刺激中国。但我更相信,中美之间都会努力避免战争,这是理性政府的必然选择。即使双方在南海会有摩擦或开枪走火,甚至发生舰队间的交战,那也不会导致以灭国为目的的入侵战争,更不会爆炸核战争。

那些叫嚣“如果中美开战,给我一支枪上前线”的人依然生活在二战中。真的给你一支枪,你能干啥?你连前线都去不了,因为前线在海上和天上,根本不是步兵拼刺刀的概念了。

即使中美陷入全面冷战,追求和平发展依然是中国的目标,所以少叫嚣战争 。只要中国不去主动寻求热战,热战就可以避免,所以少叫嚣战争。

贝鲁特大爆炸后的惨状

人生短暂,追求和平、美好、幸福的生活是人的本能。

如果中美热战真的无法避免,那就多看看今天的贝鲁特大爆炸的画面吧。如果两个大国之间的热战导致了最终的核战争,今天的贝鲁特大爆炸不过是一枚小鞭炮而已。

你把战争叫嚣得再响,也是死路一条。


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Never frown,because you never know who is falling in love with your smile. 别愁眉不展,因为你不知道谁会爱上你的笑容。134. It's easy once you know how. 一旦你明白,就会很简单。135. In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different. 要做到不可替代,就要与众不同。136. I honestly think it is better to be a failure at something you love than to be a success at something you hate. 宁愿失败地做你爱做的事情,也不要成功地做你恨做的事情。(George Burns) 137. Don't hide. Run! You'll make it to tomorrow. 别躲避,奔跑吧,你就会找到明天。138. Life comes with many challenges.The ones that should not scare us are the ones we can take on and take control of. 生活充满了挑战,唯有勇敢面对并自我掌控,我们才能克服恐惧。(安吉丽娜·朱莉) 139. Life doesn't just happen to you; you receive everything in your life based on what you've given. 一切发生在你身上的都不是碰巧。你获得什么,在于你付出了什么。140.You are more beautiful than you think. 你,要比你想象的更美丽。141. Throughout life's complications, you should maintain such a sense of elegance. 不管生活有多不容易,你都要守住自己的那一份优雅。142. When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on so long in the first place. 每当你想要放弃的时候,就想想是为了什么才一路坚持到现在。143. Enjoy your youth.You'll never be younger than you are at this very moment. 好好享受青春,你再也不会有哪个时刻会比此时更年轻了。144. You'd better bring, cause I'll bring every I've got it. 你最好全神贯注,因为我定会全力以赴!145. Take time to enjoy the simple things in life. 慢慢享受生活中的简单。146. As long as you are still alive, you will definitely encounter the good things in life. 只要活着就一定会遇上好事。147. Hold on, it gets better than you know. 挺住,事情会比你想像中要好!148. If you are fine,the sun will always shine. 你若安好,便是晴天。149. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. 磨难会让你更强大。150. Every life deserves our respect. 每一个生命都应该被尊重。151. The best feeling in the world is when you know your heart is smiling. 世间最美好的感受,就是发现自己的心在笑。152. Don't ever underestimate the heart of a champion. 永远不要低估一颗冠军的心。(Rudy Tomjanovich) 153. There is nothing permanent except change. 唯一不变的是变化。154. The difference between successful persons and others is that they really act. 成功者和其他人最大的区别就是,他们真正动手去做了。155. Don't follow the crowd, let the crowd follow you. 不要随波逐流,要引领潮流。(Margaret Thatcher) 156. People pay in advance for a coffee meant for someone who cannot afford a warm beverage. 人们提前买咖啡,让付不起的人享受温暖。157. No one is born a genius.Just keep on doing what you like and that itself is a talent. 哪有什么天才!坚持做你喜欢的事情,这本身就是一种天赋。(大野智) 158. The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only one page. 世界是一本书,不旅行的人只读了其中一页。159. You can create something more glorious than the championship. 你可以创造比冠军更荣耀的事。160. You never get a second chance to make a first impression. 永远没有第二次机会,给人留下第一印象。161. You can always be a worse version of "him", or better version of yourself. 你不是要做一个单纯优秀的人,而是要做一个不可替代的人。162. Give every day the chance to become the most beautiful day of your life. 让每一天都有机会成为你人生中最美好的一天。163. Honesty is the best policy. 做人以诚信为本。164. To a crazy ship all winds are contrary. 对于一只漫无目标的船而言,任何方向的风都是逆风。165. The outer world you see is a reflection of your inner self. 你看到什么样的世界,你就拥有什么样的内心。166. Strike while the iron is hot. 趁热打铁。167. Knowing what you cannot do is far more important than knowing what you are capable of. 知道自己不能做什么远比知道自己能做什么重要。168. People cry, not because they're weak. It's because they've been strong for too long. 哭泣,不代表脆弱,只因坚强了太久。169. Don't let yesterday use up too much of today. 别留念昨天了,把握好今天吧。(Will Rogers) 170. If you are not brave enough, no one will back you up. 你不勇敢,没人替你坚强。171. If you don't build your dream, someone will hire you to build theirs. 如果你没有梦想,那么你只能为别人的梦想打工。172. Beauty is all around, if you just open your heart to see. 只要你给自己机会,你会发现你的世界可以很美丽。173. The difference in winning and losing is most often...not quitting. 赢与输的差别通常是--不放弃。(华特·迪士尼) 174. I am ordinary yet unique. 我很平凡,但我独一无二。175. I like people who make me laugh in spite of myself. 我喜欢那些让我笑起来的人,就算是我不想笑的时候。176. Image a new story for your life and start living it. 为你的生命想一个全新剧本,并去倾情出演吧!177. I'd rather be a happy fool than a sad sage. 做个悲伤的智者,不如做个开心的傻子。178. The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. 未来属于那些相信梦想之美的人。(埃莉诺·罗斯福) 179. Even if you get no applause, you should accept a curtain call gracefully and appreciate your own efforts. 即使没有人为你鼓掌,也要优雅的谢幕,感谢自己的认真付出。180. Don't let dream just be your dream. 别让梦想只停留在梦里。181. A day without laughter is a day wasted. 没有笑声的一天是浪费了的一天。(卓别林) 182. Travel and see the world; afterwards, you will be able to put your concerns in perspective. 去旅行吧,见的世面多了,你会发现原来在意的那些结根本算不了什么。183. The key to acquiring proficiency in any task is repetition. 任何事情成功关键都是熟能生巧。《生活大爆炸》 184. You can be happy no matter what. 开心一点吧,管它会怎样。185. A good plan today is better than a perfect plan tomorrow. 今天的好计划胜过明天的完美计划。186. Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'! 一切皆有可能!“不可能”的意思是:“不,可能。”(奥黛丽·赫本) 187. Life isn't fair, but no matter your circumstances, you have to give it your all. 生活是不公平的,不管你的境遇如何,你只能全力以赴。188. No matter how hard it is, just keep going because you only fail when you give up. 无论多么艰难,都要继续前进,因为只有你放弃的那一刻,你才输了。189. It requires hard work to give off an appearance of effortlessness. 你必须十分努力,才能看起来毫不费力。190. Life is like riding a bicycle.To keep your balance,you must keep moving. 人生就像骑单车,只有不断前进,才能保持平衡。(爱因斯坦) 191. Be thankful for what you have.You'll end up having more. 拥有一颗感恩的心,最终你会得到更多。192. Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. 美是一种内心的感觉,并反映在你的眼睛里。(索菲亚·罗兰) 193. Friendship doubles your joys, and divides your sorrows. 朋友的作用,就是让你快乐加倍,痛苦减半。194. When you long for something sincerely, the whole world will help you. 当你真心渴望某样东西时,整个宇宙都会来帮忙。     When Paul Jobs was mustered out of the Coast Guard after World War II, he made a wager with his crewmates. They had arrived in San Francisco, where their ship was decommissioned, and Paul bet that he would find himself a wife within two weeks. He was a taut, tattooed engine mechanic, six feet tall, with a passing resemblance to James Dean. But it wasn’t his looks that got him a date with Clara Hagopian, a sweet-humored daughter of Armenian immigrants. It was the fact that he and his friends had a car, unlike the group she had originally planned to go out with that evening. Ten days later, in March 1946, Paul got engaged to Clara and won his wager. It would turn out to be a happy marriage, one that lasted until death parted them more than forty years later. Paul Reinhold Jobs had been raised on a dairy farm in Germantown, Wisconsin. Even though his father was an alcoholic and sometimes abusive, Paul ended up with a gentle and calm disposition under his leathery exterior. After dropping out of high school, he wandered through the Midwest picking up work as a mechanic until, at age nineteen, he joined the Coast Guard, even though he didn’t know how to swim. He was deployed on the USS General M. C. Meigs and spent much of the war ferrying troops to Italy for General Patton. His talent as a machinist and fireman earned him commendations, but he occasionally found himself in minor trouble and never rose above the rank of seaman. Clara was born in New Jersey, where her parents had landed after fleeing the Turks in Armenia, and they moved to the Mission District of San Francisco when she was a child. She had a secret that she rarely mentioned to anyone: She had been married before, but her husband had been killed in the war. So when she met Paul Jobs on that first date, she was primed to start a new life. Like many who lived through the war, they had experienced enough excitement that, when it was over, they desired simply to settle down, raise a family, and lead a less eventful life. They had little money, so they moved to Wisconsin and lived with Paul’s parents for a few years, then headed for Indiana, where he got a job as a machinist for International Harvester. His passion was tinkering with old cars, and he made money in his spare time buying, restoring, and selling them. Eventually he quit his day job to become a full-time used car salesman. Clara, however, loved San Francisco, and in 1952 she convinced her husband to move back there. They got an apartment in the Sunset District facing the Pacific, just south of Golden Gate Park, and he took a job working for a finance company as a “repo man,” picking the locks of cars whose owners hadn’t paid their loans and repossessing them. He also bought, repaired, and sold some of the cars, making a decent enough living in the process. There was, however, something missing in their lives. They wanted children, but Clara had suffered an ectopic pregnancy, in which the fertilized egg was implanted in a fallopian tube rather than the uterus, and she had been unable to have any. So by 1955, after nine years of marriage, they were looking to adopt a child. Like Paul Jobs, Joanne Schieble was from a rural Wisconsin family of German heritage. Her father, Arthur Schieble, had immigrated to the outskirts of Green Bay, where he and his wife owned a mink farm and dabbled successfully in various other businesses, including real estate and photoengraving. He was very strict, especially regarding his daughter’s relationships, and he had strongly disapproved of her first love, an artist who was not a Catholic. Thus it was no surprise that he threatened to cut Joanne off completely when, as a graduate student at the University of Wisconsin, she fell in love with Abdulfattah “John” Jandali, a Muslim teaching assistant from Syria. Jandali was the youngest of nine children in a prominent Syrian family. His father owned oil refineries and multiple other businesses, with large holdings in Damascus and Homs, and at one point pretty much controlled the price of wheat in the region. His mother, he later said, was a “traditional Muslim woman” who was a “conservative, obedient housewife.” Like the Schieble family, the Jandalis put a premium on education. Abdulfattah was sent to a Jesuit boarding school, even though he was Muslim, and he got an undergraduate degree at the American University in Beirut before entering the University of Wisconsin to pursue a doctoral degree in political science. In the summer of 1954, Joanne went with Abdulfattah to Syria. They spent two months in Homs, where she learned from his family to cook Syrian dishes. When they returned to Wisconsin she discovered that she was pregnant. They were both twenty-three, but they decided not to get married. Her father was dying at the time, and he had threatened to disown her if she wed Abdulfattah. Nor was abortion an easy option in a small Catholic community. So in early 1955, Joanne traveled to San Francisco, where she was taken into the care of a kindly doctor who sheltered unwed mothers, delivered their babies, and quietly arranged closed adoptions. Joanne had one requirement: Her child must be adopted by college graduates. So the doctor arranged for the baby to be placed with a lawyer and his wife. But when a boy was born—on February 24, 1955—the designated couple decided that they wanted a girl and backed out. Thus it was that the boy became the son not of a lawyer but of a high school dropout with a passion for mechanics and his salt-of-the-earth wife who was working as a bookkeeper. Paul and Clara named their new baby Steven Paul Jobs. When Joanne found out that her baby had been placed with a couple who had not even graduated from high school, she refused to sign the adoption papers. The standoff lasted weeks, even after the baby had settled into the Jobs household. Eventually Joanne relented, with the stipulation that the couple promise—indeed sign a pledge—to fund a savings account to pay for the boy’s college education. There was another reason that Joanne was balky about signing the adoption papers. Her father was about to die, and she planned to marry Jandali soon after. She held out hope, she would later来源:小兵说天下

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