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网红医生张文宏:鸡汤杀手,公关鬼才,终于逼疯媒体人

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他就是一个毫无感情的真·硬核·反矫情·达人。


作者:木舒 来源:辣笔小尖椒(lbxjj818)

最近刷微博,真的要被笑死了。


这届媒体人,真是太难了!


领导上级派他们去深入挖掘感人故事,顺便多造几个神。


可他们偏偏遇到的是张文宏。


华山医院感染科主任,一个藏在医院里的公关鬼才。


对不起,在他这,不会出现答非所问的假大空,感天动地的无畏歌颂,亦或者是脱离实际的保证和毒鸡血。


对不起,在他这,你也休想窥探他的私生活,拿他做感动中国人物素材!


他就是一个毫无感情的真·硬核·反矫情·达人。



张文宏“一战成名”,其实很简单:他从不按套路出牌


当媒体上满屏歌颂医护流产十天、强行断奶、怀孕9月依旧上前线的伟大无私新闻时,张文宏就生生从根上切断了如此“好”的宣传物料。


华山医院组织医疗队去武汉时,一位医生的父亲住进了ICU,张文宏对他说:“你放心回去吧!”


一位刚刚援外回来的医生请战,张文宏说:“你刚援外回来,这次先不派你去。”


而在1月29日,张文宏还换掉了所有从年底到那时工作的医生。


因为:“第一批人实在是太累了,我们不能欺负听话的人。”



换成谁呢?党员啊!

我管你们当初入党是为了什么,但你们宣誓的时候不都说了吗?要把人民的利益放在第一位。

平时你喊喊口号就算了,现在你都给我上去,没有讨价还价。


而面对媒体对一线医务人员超负荷工作的歌颂,他直接戳破了这个气球。

干嘛要这样道德绑架啊!

“我不鼓励加班加点,抛弃家庭,无休无止工作是不人道的。”

“对于普通人它就是一份工作,不要用高尚来绑架别人。


而他也直接点明真相:医务工作者们,想要的不是宣传歌颂,而是关心。

“第一关心是防护,第二是疲劳,第三是工作环境,我觉得一定要跟上。如果跟不上,就说明没有把医务人员当人,只是当机器。”

”你问我医护需要什么?我觉得就是需要有免于受伤的权利。”


而且,不要只对医生歌颂,医护是一体的,护理姐妹们也很辛苦!一样要得到尊重!


而对于现在争论的“很多医生态度不好”,他也作出了回应:

“专家到了这份上吧,我看脾气没有一个好,吵架是经常的,但都是本着对病人极端负责的态度,否则我跟你吵什么吵啊?你好我好大家好不好吗?”

“大家看到医生都是文质彬彬的,那都是假的,全都是假的!”


张文宏式反鸡汤,在满屏鸡血中反而成了一股清流。

看多了假大空,道德绑架,强行高尚,突然觉得接地气蛮好的。

干嘛什么都要拔高,干嘛非要造神,大家明明都是普通人啊!都会害怕,会担心,会生气,他们也都是在以命换命。

相比较宣传歌颂无私无畏的通稿,还不如给他们提供更好的防护和后勤保障,给出应有的奖金和福利,并且在未来能给予更多的尊重和保护。

现实一点,这才是对医务人员,最实际的回报。


除了替医务人员说话外,在专业相关上,张文宏也够硬核。

什么你问我重症病人治疗方案是什么?这我怎么给你一个准确的答案?每个人的治疗方案都不一样啊?

所以:“我跟你讲你也听不懂,因为我们读的书是不一样的。你能听懂我说的每一个字,但你不懂什么意思。”

“但我可以告诉你重症病人是集中了上海最好的多学科团队治疗。治疗方案不是写在纸上的,而是写在病人身上的。”


什么你问我这个药那个药,哪个药有效?

那我告诉你:最有效的药就是你的免疫力。

那么还要医生干嘛?医生除了隔离之外,就是在陪着病人熬啊,帮他挺过这俩礼拜,他自身的抗体就起来啦!


而且,不仅医生是战士,你们每个人不都是?

你现在在家,不是在隔离,而是在战斗啊!你是在闷啊!你觉得闷是吧,病毒也觉得啊,病毒最后就是被你们闷死的呀!


所以啊,企业什么的,不要老是想着给我们捐东西。

你让你的员工在家或者在隔离点办公,然后就正常算他上班发工资嘛!这样你也算是对社会作出巨大贡献了。


至于其他人呢?

不要到处去玩咯,不要什么看到美女,看到好友,就开心的把口罩摘下来热聊了嘛!


即使返工了,以前大家都是防火防盗防那什么。

现在就防火防盗防同事,把同事防住了,那一切就防住了!


而且,虽然现在国内疫情在好转,但不要太乐观。

毕竟我们预测到了开始,却没预测到结果。

一开始以为中国控制住,世界就没事。现在中国控制住了,世界却出事了。



不要对疫苗报太大希望:疫苗就算出来也要到年底了。”


而之前爆出的血浆疗法:“注射血浆者不可能立刻康复,也不是每一名患者都可以注射,立刻康复那是电影。”



但是我们也不必焦虑。

相信我好了,我的预测一定是对的。

人类一定会最终战胜疫情!


其实你会发现:

张医生所有的回答中,基本不谈晦涩难懂的专业知识。但是很奇怪,大家好像都愿意去相信他。

因为我们能听懂。

对于普通人来说,给你说专业,给你讲基因序列,给你讲治病原理,我想大多人都听不明白,甚至还会觉得医生自大、在卖弄学问。

和专业人士讲专业,和非专业人士那就说些他们能听懂的,他们最想了解的,他们该做的。

这既能让沟通变得有效,又能建立信任和信心,何乐而不为呢?


这次的疫情,大家知道了好多个名字。

钟南山、李兰娟、张文宏等等

但其实你会发现,在各种人物励志文章刷屏之时,有关张文宏的人物经历,我们了解的很少。


我们只能从百度百科上知道:


张文宏,男,温州瑞安人。


1987年考入上海医科大学医学系医学专业;毕业后进入华山医院感染科,先后在香港大学、美国哈佛大学医学院以及芝加哥州立大学微生物系从事访问学者以及博士后工作。


现任复旦大学附属华山医院感染科主任、主任医师、博士生导师,复旦大学生物医学研究员。

从小城市一步步逆袭,多么好的励志素材啊,媒体们摩拳擦掌,可他严丝合缝,坚决不让窥探。


之前,有媒体采访他之时,他突然接到了母亲的电话。


一旁的记者像是找到了什么了不起的东西,催他接电话:“我们想看看张医生和妈妈通话会是什么样子。”


结果张文宏挂断的很干脆:“我就知道你们这些记者采访的时候,就想窥探人家隐私,我偏不接。”


而女记者紧追不舍:“那您想念您的母亲吗?”


张文宏无语了,反问了一句:“哪一个正常人会不想念自己的母亲呢?”


中国新闻周刊的记者也试图来窥探张文宏这一路的经历,他问张文宏:“您当初上大学为什么选择感染病学呢?”

结果张文宏也拒绝的干脆:“对于我个人你不要采访,我觉得没什么意思,我就一个乡下人跑到上海,读完书留下来工作而已,其他没什么。


但记者们依旧紧追不舍。
这么厉害的医生,平时一定是做科研,看各种学术文章之类的吧,大家已经在脑海中写出了一篇勤奋刻苦专业的人物大纲。
结果张医生说了:我疲劳的时候就喜欢追剧,看那种非常无聊,不用动脑的电视剧。

而当终南山肌肉照刷屏时,他连说:你们别期待,在我这看不到。
“运动很好,但是太累了。”
“我也买过几次健身卡,可最后吃亏的都是我,基本上一年去两三次,或者健身房倒闭了,所以都是把我的钱卷走了!”
!!!这不就是我的日常写照吗!!


而对于以后,他也有着清醒地认知:
“这个事儿出来,因为我懂这个事儿,大家喜欢听我的。等这事儿过了,大家又不要听我讲话了。你以为大家爱听我讲话啊?” 

“等过了这个事情,大家该看电视的看电视,该追剧的追剧,该看跑男的看跑男,谁要看我啊?” 
“当新冠大幕落下,我自然会非常silently走开。你再到华山医院来,你也很难找到我了。我就躲在角落里看书了。”


看下来,张医生真的是绝情而又清醒。

对记者绝情,对自己很清醒。

他是一名医生,治病救人是工作,养家糊口是生活,只是因为这次疫情,正巧是他的专业,才将他推到了大众面前。

他不想立高大上的人设,也不想被“英雄化”。

他希望疫情过后大家会慢慢遗忘他,亦或者,所有的医生倒是都希望,自己每天能轻松工作,因为这就代表着大家都健健康康,快快乐乐。


在微博评论中我看到这样一句话,觉得说的非常合理:

很多时候我们都是强硬的把一些事情附上自己所谓的一些意义,把一些人强行的拔高,塑造出高尚纯粹的人设,可其实这样或许真的没什么意义。

是啊!

张医生或许就是一位鸡汤杀手。

高尚、纯粹是很伟大,其实对于大部分人来说,做好一个普通人都挺难的。

认真工作生活,身体健康,家庭幸福,这对于每个普通人来说,才是最重要的。

而普通人做到了这些事,那在你的世界里,也就不普通了。

况且,做个俗人怎么了?

能快乐的做个俗人,或许才是最幸福的!

延伸阅读
“硬核”医生张文宏最新预测来了!
张文宏:注射血浆立刻康复?那是电影!
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If you are able to appreciate beauty in the ordinary, your life will be more vibrant. 如果你擅于欣赏平凡中的美好,你的生活会更加多姿多彩。124. Be who you are, and never ever apologize for that! 坚持做自己,并永远不要为此而后悔!125. Consider the bad times as down payment for the good times. Hang in there. 把苦日子当做好日子的首付,坚持就是胜利!126. Do not pray for easy lives, pray to be stronger. 与其祈求生活平淡点,还不如祈求自己强大点。127. Everybody can fly without wings when they hold on to their dreams. 坚持自己的梦想,即使没有翅膀也能飞翔。128. There is no such thing as a great talent without great will power. 没有伟大的意志力,便没有雄才大略。129. You can't change your situation. The only thing that you can change is how you choose to deal with it. 境遇难以改变,你能改变的唯有面对它时的态度。130. Whatever is worth doing at all is worth doing well. 凡是值得做的事,就值得做好。131. Perfection is not just about control.It's also about letting go. 完美不仅在于控制,也在于释放。《黑天鹅》 132. Dream is what makes you happy, even when you are just trying. 梦想就是一种让你感到坚持就是幸福的东西。133. Never frown,because you never know who is falling in love with your smile. 别愁眉不展,因为你不知道谁会爱上你的笑容。134. It's easy once you know how. 一旦你明白,就会很简单。135. In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different. 要做到不可替代,就要与众不同。136. I honestly think it is better to be a failure at something you love than to be a success at something you hate. 宁愿失败地做你爱做的事情,也不要成功地做你恨做的事情。(George Burns) 137. Don't hide. Run! You'll make it to tomorrow. 别躲避,奔跑吧,你就会找到明天。138. Life comes with many challenges.The ones that should not scare us are the ones we can take on and take control of. 生活充满了挑战,唯有勇敢面对并自我掌控,我们才能克服恐惧。(安吉丽娜·朱莉) 139. Life doesn't just happen to you; you receive everything in your life based on what you've given. 一切发生在你身上的都不是碰巧。你获得什么,在于你付出了什么。140.You are more beautiful than you think. 你,要比你想象的更美丽。141. Throughout life's complications, you should maintain such a sense of elegance. 不管生活有多不容易,你都要守住自己的那一份优雅。142. When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on so long in the first place. 每当你想要放弃的时候,就想想是为了什么才一路坚持到现在。143. Enjoy your youth.You'll never be younger than you are at this very moment. 好好享受青春,你再也不会有哪个时刻会比此时更年轻了。144. You'd better bring, cause I'll bring every I've got it. 你最好全神贯注,因为我定会全力以赴!145. Take time to enjoy the simple things in life. 慢慢享受生活中的简单。146. As long as you are still alive, you will definitely encounter the good things in life. 只要活着就一定会遇上好事。147. Hold on, it gets better than you know. 挺住,事情会比你想像中要好!148. If you are fine,the sun will always shine. 你若安好,便是晴天。149. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. 磨难会让你更强大。150. Every life deserves our respect. 每一个生命都应该被尊重。151. The best feeling in the world is when you know your heart is smiling. 世间最美好的感受,就是发现自己的心在笑。152. Don't ever underestimate the heart of a champion. 永远不要低估一颗冠军的心。(Rudy Tomjanovich) 153. There is nothing permanent except change. 唯一不变的是变化。154. The difference between successful persons and others is that they really act. 成功者和其他人最大的区别就是,他们真正动手去做了。155. Don't follow the crowd, let the crowd follow you. 不要随波逐流,要引领潮流。(Margaret Thatcher) 156. People pay in advance for a coffee meant for someone who cannot afford a warm beverage. 人们提前买咖啡,让付不起的人享受温暖。157. No one is born a genius.Just keep on doing what you like and that itself is a talent. 哪有什么天才!坚持做你喜欢的事情,这本身就是一种天赋。(大野智) 158. The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only one page. 世界是一本书,不旅行的人只读了其中一页。159. You can create something more glorious than the championship. 你可以创造比冠军更荣耀的事。160. You never get a second chance to make a first impression. 永远没有第二次机会,给人留下第一印象。161. You can always be a worse version of "him", or better version of yourself. 你不是要做一个单纯优秀的人,而是要做一个不可替代的人。162. Give every day the chance to become the most beautiful day of your life. 让每一天都有机会成为你人生中最美好的一天。163. Honesty is the best policy. 做人以诚信为本。164. To a crazy ship all winds are contrary. 对于一只漫无目标的船而言,任何方向的风都是逆风。165. The outer world you see is a reflection of your inner self. 你看到什么样的世界,你就拥有什么样的内心。166. Strike while the iron is hot. 趁热打铁。167. Knowing what you cannot do is far more important than knowing what you are capable of. 知道自己不能做什么远比知道自己能做什么重要。168. People cry, not because they're weak. It's because they've been strong for too long. 哭泣,不代表脆弱,只因坚强了太久。169. Don't let yesterday use up too much of today. 别留念昨天了,把握好今天吧。(Will Rogers) 170. If you are not brave enough, no one will back you up. 你不勇敢,没人替你坚强。171. If you don't build your dream, someone will hire you to build theirs. 如果你没有梦想,那么你只能为别人的梦想打工。172. Beauty is all around, if you just open your heart to see. 只要你给自己机会,你会发现你的世界可以很美丽。173. The difference in winning and losing is most often...not quitting. 赢与输的差别通常是--不放弃。(华特·迪士尼) 174. I am ordinary yet unique. 我很平凡,但我独一无二。175. I like people who make me laugh in spite of myself. 我喜欢那些让我笑起来的人,就算是我不想笑的时候。176. Image a new story for your life and start living it. 为你的生命想一个全新剧本,并去倾情出演吧!177. I'd rather be a happy fool than a sad sage. 做个悲伤的智者,不如做个开心的傻子。178. The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. 未来属于那些相信梦想之美的人。(埃莉诺·罗斯福) 179. Even if you get no applause, you should accept a curtain call gracefully and appreciate your own efforts. 即使没有人为你鼓掌,也要优雅的谢幕,感谢自己的认真付出。180. Don't let dream just be your dream. 别让梦想只停留在梦里。181. A day without laughter is a day wasted. 没有笑声的一天是浪费了的一天。(卓别林) 182. Travel and see the world; afterwards, you will be able to put your concerns in perspective. 去旅行吧,见的世面多了,你会发现原来在意的那些结根本算不了什么。183. The key to acquiring proficiency in any task is repetition. 任何事情成功关键都是熟能生巧。《生活大爆炸》 184. You can be happy no matter what. 开心一点吧,管它会怎样。185. A good plan today is better than a perfect plan tomorrow. 今天的好计划胜过明天的完美计划。186. Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'! 一切皆有可能!“不可能”的意思是:“不,可能。”(奥黛丽·赫本) 187. Life isn't fair, but no matter your circumstances, you have to give it your all. 生活是不公平的,不管你的境遇如何,你只能全力以赴。188. No matter how hard it is, just keep going because you only fail when you give up. 无论多么艰难,都要继续前进,因为只有你放弃的那一刻,你才输了。189. It requires hard work to give off an appearance of effortlessness. 你必须十分努力,才能看起来毫不费力。190. Life is like riding a bicycle.To keep your balance,you must keep moving. 人生就像骑单车,只有不断前进,才能保持平衡。(爱因斯坦) 191. Be thankful for what you have.You'll end up having more. 拥有一颗感恩的心,最终你会得到更多。192. Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. 美是一种内心的感觉,并反映在你的眼睛里。(索菲亚·罗兰) 193. Friendship doubles your joys, and divides your sorrows. 朋友的作用,就是让你快乐加倍,痛苦减半。194. When you long for something sincerely, the whole world will help you. 当你真心渴望某样东西时,整个宇宙都会来帮忙。     When Paul Jobs was mustered out of the Coast Guard after World War II, he made a wager with his crewmates. They had arrived in San Francisco, where their ship was decommissioned, and Paul bet that he would find himself a wife within two weeks. He was a taut, tattooed engine mechanic, six feet tall, with a passing resemblance to James Dean. But it wasn’t his looks that got him a date with Clara Hagopian, a sweet-humored daughter of Armenian immigrants. It was the fact that he and his friends had a car, unlike the group she had originally planned to go out with that evening. Ten days later, in March 1946, Paul got engaged to Clara and won his wager. It would turn out to be a happy marriage, one that lasted until death parted them more than forty years later. Paul Reinhold Jobs had been raised on a dairy farm in Germantown, Wisconsin. Even though his father was an alcoholic and sometimes abusive, Paul ended up with a gentle and calm disposition under his leathery exterior. After dropping out of high school, he wandered through the Midwest picking up work as a mechanic until, at age nineteen, he joined the Coast Guard, even though he didn’t know how to swim. He was deployed on the USS General M. C. Meigs and spent much of the war ferrying troops to Italy for General Patton. His talent as a machinist and fireman earned him commendations, but he occasionally found himself in minor trouble and never rose above the rank of seaman. Clara was born in New Jersey, where her parents had landed after fleeing the Turks in Armenia, and they moved to the Mission District of San Francisco when she was a child. She had a secret that she rarely mentioned to anyone: She had been married before, but her husband had been killed in the war. So when she met Paul Jobs on that first date, she was primed to start a new life. Like many who lived through the war, they had experienced enough excitement that, when it was over, they desired simply to settle down, raise a family, and lead a less eventful life. They had little money, so they moved to Wisconsin and lived with Paul’s parents for a few years, then headed for Indiana, where he got a job as a machinist for International Harvester. His passion was tinkering with old cars, and he made money in his spare time buying, restoring, and selling them. Eventually he quit his day job to become a full-time used car salesman. Clara, however, loved San Francisco, and in 1952 she convinced her husband to move back there. They got an apartment in the Sunset District facing the Pacific, just south of Golden Gate Park, and he took a job working for a finance company as a “repo man,” picking the locks of cars whose owners hadn’t paid their loans and repossessing them. He also bought, repaired, and sold some of the cars, making a decent enough living in the process. There was, however, something missing in their lives. They wanted children, but Clara had suffered an ectopic pregnancy, in which the fertilized egg was implanted in a fallopian tube rather than the uterus, and she had been unable to have any. So by 1955, after nine years of marriage, they were looking to adopt a child. Like Paul Jobs, Joanne Schieble was from a rural Wisconsin family of German heritage. Her father, Arthur Schieble, had immigrated to the outskirts of Green Bay, where he and his wife owned a mink farm and dabbled successfully in various other businesses, including real estate and photoengraving. He was very strict, especially regarding his daughter’s relationships, and he had strongly disapproved of her first love, an artist who was not a Catholic. Thus it was no surprise that he threatened to cut Joanne off completely when, as a graduate student at the University of Wisconsin, she fell in love with Abdulfattah “John” Jandali, a Muslim teaching assistant from Syria. Jandali was the youngest of nine children in a prominent Syrian family. His father owned oil refineries and multiple other businesses, with large holdings in Damascus and Homs, and at one point pretty much controlled the price of wheat in the region. His mother, he later said, was a “traditional Muslim woman” who was a “conservative, obedient housewife.” Like the Schieble family, the Jandalis put a premium on education. Abdulfattah was sent to a Jesuit boarding school, even though he was Muslim, and he got an undergraduate degree at the American University in Beirut before entering the University of Wisconsin to pursue a doctoral degree in political science. In the summer of 1954, Joanne went with Abdulfattah to Syria. They spent two months in Homs, where she learned from his family to cook Syrian dishes. When they returned to Wisconsin she discovered that she was pregnant. They were both twenty-three, but they decided not to get married. Her father was dying at the time, and he had threatened to disown her if she wed Abdulfattah. Nor was abortion an easy option in a small Catholic community. So in early 1955, Joanne traveled to San Francisco, where she was taken into the care of a kindly doctor who sheltered unwed mothers, delivered their babies, and quietly arranged closed adoptions. Joanne had one requirement: Her child must be adopted by college graduates. So the doctor arranged for the baby to be placed with a lawyer and his wife. But when a boy was born—on February 24, 1955—the designated couple decided that they wanted a girl and backed out. Thus it was that the boy became the son not of a lawyer but of a high school dropout with a passion for mechanics and his salt-of-the-earth wife who was working as a bookkeeper. Paul and Clara named their new baby Steven Paul Jobs. When Joanne found out that her baby had been placed with a couple who had not even graduated from high school, she refused to sign the adoption papers. The standoff lasted weeks, even after the baby had settled into the Jobs household. Eventually Joanne relented, with the stipulation that the couple promise—indeed sign a pledge—to fund a savings account to pay for the boy’s college education. There was another reason that Joanne was balky about signing the adoption papers. Her father was about to die, and she planned to marry Jandali soon after. She held out hope, she would later来源:小兵说天下

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