我们注定是孝顺父母的最后一代，被儿女抛弃的第一代
BEIJING, Nov. 6 (Xinhua) -- China will firmly adhere to opening-up and the principle of multilateralism to push for the in-depth development of globalization, Chinese Premier Li Keqiang said on Tuesday.
Li made the remarks when holding the third "1+6" Roundtable with leaders of major international economic and financial institutions in Beijing.
When talking about the current global economic situation, Premier Li said the world has come at a cross road and faces a historical choice.
"We believe multilateralism is the only way to achieve prosperity and inclusive growth, and the trend of globalization should not be reversed," he said.
He also said that China is willing to strengthen communication and consultation with all parties to accommodate the interests of countries of different development stages and groups of different income levels.
China firmly supports multilateralism and opposes unilateralism and protectionism, and will work with other countries to promote economic globalization toward a more open, inclusive, universally beneficial, balanced and win-win direction, and jointly build an open world economy, Li said.
Full Text: Joint Press Release of the Third "1+6" Roundtable
BEIJING, Nov. 6 (Xinhua) -- China will firmly adhere to opening-up and the principle of multilateralism to push for the in-depth development of globalization, Chinese Premier Li Keqiang said on Tuesday.
Li made the remarks when holding the third "1+6" Roundtable with leaders of major international economic and financial institutions in Beijing.
When talking about the current global economic situation, Premier Li said the world has come at a cross road and faces a historical choice.
"We believe multilateralism is the only way to achieve prosperity and inclusive growth, and the trend of globalization should not be reversed," he said.
He also said that China is willing to strengthen communication and consultation with all parties to accommodate the interests of countries of different development stages and groups of different income levels.
China firmly supports multilateralism and opposes unilateralism and protectionism, and will work with other countries to promote economic globalization toward a more open, inclusive, universally beneficial, balanced and win-win direction, and jointly build an open world economy, Li said.
Full Text: Joint Press Release of the Third "1+6" Roundtable
作者 | 遗君明珠
来源 | 明珠絮语（tsliuchanghai）
看到了一句话，对于一个中年人来讲，真实得有点残忍：我们注定是孝顺父母的最后一代，被儿女抛弃的第一代。
可不是嘛！
只说客观条件，在我们这一代，兄弟姐妹三五人是常态，有两个都算是少的。
而且，大家多是以父母为圆心，分散在不远的地方，或工作，或经商，或务农。到了这把年纪，工作也都压力不大，经商也都小有成就，务农则就在父母身边。
这样，大家照顾起父母来，有相对充足的时间和精力。
我们的下一代则都是独生子女，有两个的已经算多的。
他们将来的工作，是竭尽所能，越远越好，他们的工作性质，也不会像我们一样轻松闲适，就算没有考上大学，也不再有真正意义上的农民，只会为了生活的压力奔波得更苦。
在这种情况下，即使他们想为我们养老，也是有心无力。
我们这一代人大多数都有种使命感，不遗余力培养下一代。我们希望孩子一定要有知识，有能力，要过上好生活。
就这样，我们默默地付出，过着完全没有自我的生活。既要全力以赴的干活，又要呕心沥血的培养下一代，还要全身心地赡养老人……
然而我们现在老了，可是肩上的担子没有几个真正卸下来的，我们不敢老，因为上有老！在孝敬老人的路上，我们都有故事。
记得我们的长辈，早就开始依赖子女了。我们大多很小就做饭，干家务，带弟弟、妹妹；成年以后自然也是被父母呼来唤去。
我们的长辈，是被解放的一代人，好像他们也不属于自己，更不懂得怎样培养子女，怎样爱子女，但养儿防老是懂得的，依赖儿女天经地义。
我们的父母已八九十岁了，还需要我们这群子女们照顾和赡养，所以我们不敢老！
老的我们不得不管，小的我们也不能不管！
早婚早育的伙伴们，要帮子女洗衣做饭带孙子；晚婚晚育的，要供养子女念研究生，读博士生，出国留学；晚婚晚育子女还没结婚的，要操心给子女相亲找对象，操持着为子女买房，结果又成了房奴……
我们这一辈和上一辈不同，我们非常懂得怎么去爱我们的子女！因为我们的孩子也不容易，他们肩负父母的无限寄托，拼命在考试的路上挣扎，拼命在职场上挣扎。做父母的，不希望自己的孩子太累，所以能帮的一定要帮。
我们的子女和孙子女都需要我们照顾和帮助，所以我们不敢老！
我们不敢老，因为存款少，我们的祖辈大都是农民，没有丰厚的家底，我们自己赚的也不多，用的还不少。
说什么钱多钱少，够用就好，其实都是自我安慰。日子过得紧巴巴，省吃俭用也就算了，还不敢生病，不敢聚会。退休工资低的，还要继续打工，攒钱养老。
我们不敢老，因为放不下，我们唯一的享受就是几个人凑在一起吃点饭，同学聚会游一游！
可悲的是，很多人为了给子女攒钱，继续打工，聚会也不能去；有的好不容易出去了，因为还肩负着孝敬父母的责任和带孙子女的任务，只能匆忙的去，忐忑不安的玩，急急忙忙的回，仅仅留几张照片，算是给自己一点安慰！
我们这辈人，舍不得吃，舍不得穿，舍不得花，各种放不下，为自己活，为他人生！
我们不敢老，可是，我们当中很多人，因为长期的劳累大多有毛病：“三高”、痛风、老年病，无钱买药思想病。
我们没依靠，不能拖累儿女们！到了法定退休年龄，大多数人还在发挥着余热。
说白了，所谓养儿防老，只是在“日出而作，日落而息”的小农经济时代管用，处于经济转型期的我们，还能赶上尽义务在膝下承欢对父母尽孝的最后一班车，而我们的下一代，则只会在身不由己的生活中自顾不暇，不可能管我们。
此时，就算我们有机会生再多的儿女，其实已不管用。
当然，对于养老，早已有人想出了应对之策。比如目前人们常挂在嘴边的，抱团取暖。
三五知己好友，年龄相仿，兴趣相近，脾气相投，共同生活在一起，互相照顾，慢慢变老，想想也是人生乐事。
但这样的养老模式有一个基本前提，就是必须保证每个人的身体都健康。
如果有谁生活不能自理，且不说同样是老年人的朋友没有能力伺候你，就算有能力，久病床前尚且无孝子，更何况朋友！退一步说，就算朋友能够无私地付出，但让满头银发的老友颤巍巍地伺候自己，于心何忍！更不用说，这样也增加了朋友出意外的可能性。
但每个人迟早都会有生活不能自理的那个时刻，所以，“抱团取暖”式养老也许理想，还需要有下一个环节对接。
不管我们愿意还是不愿意，不管我们感情上是不是能够接受，我们的最终归宿，还得是社会养老。
可是，关于养老院老人被虐待的新闻，我们见得多了。也是，亲生的儿女都不一定能够照顾得好父母，老年公寓的服务人员如何能够做到无微不至？
其实我们心里都明白，想要享受高标准的养老服务，最终还得归结为一个字：钱。
只要养老企业能够从我们身上取得足够的利益，就会要求员工必须提供最优质的服务，因为我们活得愈久，活得愈好，他们赚得钱就愈多。
这是一个冰冷的现实，我们不得不接受。
所以，那些正从中年迈向老年的朋友，需要未雨绸缪，早做打算。
一是哥儿几个一起约好，固定时间打打球，散散步，身体保持得棒棒的，将来可以在一起抱团中安度健康的时光，尽量不做失能老人，至少，要让那一时刻晚一点到来。
二是要利用自己还有奋斗的能力，为自己的未来多攒一些钱。等自己的身体终于不能和老友们一起潇洒，就要不得不住进老年公寓。那时候，可是有多大资本，享受多高的待遇。
这两条，才是我们这一代人的养老宝典。
当然，我们也要理性地看待过去、现在和将来！
过去的已经过去，那些艰难岁月也带给了我们丰富的人生经验；把握好现在，将最黄金的中老年时代过好，开心快乐每一天；将来则无需多想，因为过好现在的每一天就是对将来最负责任的做法！
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BEIJING, Nov. 6 (Xinhua) -- China will firmly adhere to opening-up and the principle of multilateralism to push for the in-depth development of globalization, Chinese Premier Li Keqiang said on Tuesday.
Li made the remarks when holding the third "1+6" Roundtable with leaders of major international economic and financial institutions in Beijing.
When talking about the current global economic situation, Premier Li said the world has come at a cross road and faces a historical choice.
"We believe multilateralism is the only way to achieve prosperity and inclusive growth, and the trend of globalization should not be reversed," he said.
He also said that China is willing to strengthen communication and consultation with all parties to accommodate the interests of countries of different development stages and groups of different income levels.
China firmly supports multilateralism and opposes unilateralism and protectionism, and will work with other countries to promote economic globalization toward a more open, inclusive, universally beneficial, balanced and win-win direction, and jointly build an open world economy, Li said.
Full Text: Joint Press Release of the Third "1+6" Roundtable
BEIJING, Nov. 6 (Xinhua) -- China will firmly adhere to opening-up and the principle of multilateralism to push for the in-depth development of globalization, Chinese Premier Li Keqiang said on Tuesday.
Li made the remarks when holding the third "1+6" Roundtable with leaders of major international economic and financial institutions in Beijing.
When talking about the current global economic situation, Premier Li said the world has come at a cross road and faces a historical choice.
"We believe multilateralism is the only way to achieve prosperity and inclusive growth, and the trend of globalization should not be reversed," he said.
He also said that China is willing to strengthen communication and consultation with all parties to accommodate the interests of countries of different development stages and groups of different income levels.
China firmly supports multilateralism and opposes unilateralism and protectionism, and will work with other countries to promote economic globalization toward a more open, inclusive, universally beneficial, balanced and win-win direction, and jointly build an open world economy, Li said.
Full Text: Joint Press Release of the Third "1+6" Roundtable