Date Night Stories: "I Wanted an Interesting, Sexy Adventure"
Date Night Stories
China daters share their experiences dating in China: first dates, worst dates, relationships, break ups, and everything in between.
"I Wanted an Interesting, Sexy Adventure"
Author: Cat Morton
“Ah wow, the bed is round!” I had genuine excitement in my voice.
“Does it spin round like an Austin Powers bed?”
“I don’t know? See what that button does,” he said.
There was an array of buttons and this was adding to the fun. We were both quite tipsy from two - or maybe even three - bottles of Merlot, pressing buttons with all sorts of lights flashing on and off. At one point the whole room went black, then I flicked another switch and the mirrored ceiling lit up.
The button pressing didn’t last very long. After minutes of giggling I was naked and indulging him in fellatio, getting more and more pleasure knowing he had a bird’s eye view.
This was on a mid-autumn Wednesday night in Beijing and I had to be in school teaching lovely Chinese children English the next morning.
Three years ago my Wednesday nights would have consisted of a night in front of the TV, eating soup I’d bought from Aldi, and having cuddles with my Labrador. I spent my life waiting for the weekends, working in jobs I didn’t really enjoy to save up for the big holiday we took once a year.
Every Sunday would consist of a monstrous hangover, pizza and the sofa, plus a fear of the lingering Monday when it would all start again. This was the vanilla me, the vanilla Catherine.
It was the Catherine I didn’t recognize – no, that’s not correct. I knew who she was and I didn’t like her. I genuinely didn’t like myself. I was bored of this vanilla existence. I was bored of being bored.
Now I don’t mean to sound ungrateful. I had a fantastic man in my life, and he still is in my life and I love him dearly. I am not ungrateful for the life he provided for me – quite the contrary – but at the time that’s absolutely how I came across.
We had the house, the 2 cars, the dog, and a great social life surrounded by beautiful friends and family. Isn’t that what everyone aspires to – that’s the dream isn’t it?
Well yes, I suppose it is, but I found myself constantly looking for more and always trying to plan things so I had more to look forward to... and this is where it starts to get ugly.
There was something inside of me that was screaming to be out. I had no idea what it was, and I couldn’t explain what I wanted or needed. I just knew I didn’t want this vanilla life.
It wasn’t right for me and I was terribly unhappy. I wanted an adventure, I wanted an adventure that I could tell stories about for the rest of my life. I wanted to be interesting. I wanted sex.
Boom, that was it. I wanted an interesting, sexy adventure.
So as I lie here in the round bed, fully satisfied and feeling sexy, I realize I no longer live for the weekends; I’m living every day. I’ve moved from vanilla to skittles, fully tasting the rainbow, and it’s the most liberated, confident, and content I’ve ever felt.
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