杨波出轨风波
昨晚，网友发文爆料称脱口秀演员杨波出轨，女方称在不知情的情况下当了“第三者”引发热议。
今天，杨波回应，承认了在有女朋友的情况下和女方发生接吻行为，并曝光了女方的个人信息，称女方知三当三，对自己骚扰威胁和诽谤。
借（cèng）此（gè）机（rè）会（diǎn），我们就来看看一项关于和别人接吻算不算出轨的调查。
🤔️小作业：
1. What percentage of men in the survey viewed kissing someone else as an act of cheating?
A) 70% B) 51%
C) 49% D) 30%
A) It's considered cheating by a majority
B) Only a minority view it as a breach of trust
C) 40 percent see it as a breach of trust
D) It's universally accepted
无注释原文：
Only half of men consider this act as cheating in relationships
From: New York Post (Nov. 20, 2018)
When it comes to fidelity in relationships, a new surprising survey found that 49 percent of men did not think kissing someone else was cheating.
The study was done by researchers at BBC, who asked 2,000 adults about their sexual preferences. About 51 percent of men also didn’t consider cybersex with a third party as stepping outside of their relationships.
Family and relationship psychotherapist Dr. Fran Walfish says that these men are in “denial.”
“The guy feels a tinge of guilt for what he knows is wrong behavior, and he can’t tolerate or bear that feeling of guilt, so he rationalizes it by telling himself it’s not cheating,” Walfish, who’s based in Beverly Hills, Calif., told The Post.
Those numbers were a sharp contrast from female participants. Over 70 percent of women said that smooching and cybersex is cheating.
Meanwhile, 40 percent of all respondents said that browsing on a dating app is a breach of trust.
But Walfish says that all of these acts are signs of infidelity.
“Cheating is going outside of your relationship to meet any gratification, whether emotional, physical or sexual …. with someone you share sexual chemistry with,” Walfish said. “Flirting with the idea and taking your mental space outside of your partnership and spending your thinking energy on someone else … is a direct pathway to cheating.”
Not all hope is lost, however. Walfish says that one-time acts of adultery can be fixed if the guilty party takes accountability, expresses remorse, and takes time to rebuild trust in a relationship.
But if your partner is a serial cheater, Walfish says the relationship has a “very low recovery rate.”
“Chances are if they’ve done it more than once with more than one person, they’re probably gonna do it again,” she said.
- ◆ -
注：完整题目见本文开头；中文文本为机器翻译并非一一对应，仅供参考
含注释全文：
Only half of men consider this act as cheating in relationships
From: New York Post (Nov. 20, 2018)
When it comes to fidelity in relationships, a new surprising survey found that 49 percent of men did not think kissing someone else was cheating.
谈到关系中的忠诚度，一项令人惊讶的新调查发现，49%的男性认为亲吻别人不算出轨。
fidelity
fidelity /fɪˈdel.ə.ti/ 表示“（尤指对性伴侣的）忠诚，忠实，忠贞”，英文解释为“honest or lasting support, or loyalty, especially to a sexual partner”
The study was done by researchers at BBC, who asked 2,000 adults about their sexual preferences. About 51 percent of men also didn’t consider cybersex with a third party as stepping outside of their relationships.
这项研究由BBC的研究人员完成，他们询问了2000名成年人的性偏好。约51%的男性亦不将与第三者进行网络性行为视为对伴侣的不忠。
sexual preference
sexual preference /ˌsek.sjʊəl ˈpref.ər.əns/ 表示“性偏向；性癖好”，英文解释为“the fact of someone being sexually or romantically attracted to people of a particular gender, or more than one gender”
sexual orientation /ˌsek.sjʊəl ɔː.ri.enˈteɪ.ʃən/ 表示“性倾向；性取向”，英文解释为“the fact of someone preferring to have sexual relationships either with men, or with women, or with both”举个🌰：Everyone will be treated equally, regardless of sexual orientation. 不论性倾向如何，每个人都会被平等对待。
cyber-
cyber- /saɪ.bər-/ 表示“计算机的；与电脑有关的；网络的（尤指因特网）”，英文解释为“involving, using, or relating to computers, especially the internet”如：cybercrime 网络犯罪，cyberculture 计算机文化。
Family and relationship psychotherapist Dr. Fran Walfish says that these men are in “denial.”
家庭和人际关系心理治疗师弗兰·沃尔菲什博士（Dr. Fran Walfish）指出，将其归咎于心理上的“否认”。
psychotherapist
psychotherapist /ˌsaɪ.kəˈθer.ə.pɪst/ 表示“心理治疗医师”，英文解释为“someone who gives people psychotherapy”举个🌰：He sees a psychotherapist twice a week. 他每周接受两次心理治疗。
denial
denial /dɪˈnaɪ.əl/ 表示“否认，否定”，英文解释为“a statement that something is not true or does not exist”举个🌰：The CEO issued a denial of the report that she is about to resign. 首席执行官发表声明，对她将辞职的报道予以否认。
“The guy feels a tinge of guilt for what he knows is wrong behavior, and he can’t tolerate or bear that feeling of guilt, so he rationalizes it by telling himself it’s not cheating,” Walfish, who’s based in Beverly Hills, Calif., told The Post.
“当男士对自己明知是错误的行为感到一丝罪恶感时，他无法忍受或接受那种罪恶感，因此通过自我说服，告诉自己这不算作出轨使之合理化，”沃尔菲什博士在接受《纽约邮报》（New York Post）采访时表示，她的工作地点在加州比弗利山庄（Beverly Hills）。
tinge
tinge /tɪndʒ/ 表示“（颜色或情感的）一丝，少许”，英文解释为“a very slight amount of a colour or of a feeling”举个🌰：His hair is starting to show tinges of grey. 他的头发开始显得有点儿花白。
rationalize
英式 rationalise 美式 rationalize /ˈræʃ.ən.əl.aɪz/ 表示“合理地解释（行为、决定等），为…找出合理的理由;就…辩解”，英文解释为“to try to find reasons to explain your behaviour, decisions, etc.”举个🌰：She rationalized the cost by saying that an expensive carpet would last longer than a cheaper one. 她解释说那些花费是合理的，理由是她买的地毯虽然很贵，但要比便宜货耐用。
Those numbers were a sharp contrast from female participants. Over 70 percent of women said that smooching and cybersex is cheating.
与此形成鲜明对比的是，超过七成的女性坚信，无论是亲吻还是网络性行为，都是出轨。
sharp
sharp /ʃɑːp/ 作形容词，1）表示“锋利的；尖的”，英文解释为“having a thin edge or point that can cut something or make a hole in something”如：a knife with a sharp edge/blade. 刀刃锋利的刀子。
2）表示“突然的；急剧的；猛烈的”，英文解释为“happening suddenly, quickly, and strongly”如：a sharp drop in temperature 气温的急剧下降。
3）表示“清晰的；清楚的”，英文解释为“clear; easy to see or understand”举个🌰：The mountains stood in sharp contrast to the blue sky. 群山与蓝天形成了鲜明的对比。
作副词，表示“（用于表时间的词语后，表示准时）…整；正好，准时地”，英文解释为“used after an expression for a time of day to mean ‘exactly’”举个🌰：Please be here at eight o'clock sharp. 请8点整到这里。
contrast
contrast /ˈkɒn.trɑːst/ 作名词，表示“差别，差异；对照，对比”，英文解释为“an obvious difference between two or more things”举个🌰：I like the contrast of the white trousers with the black jacket. 我喜欢白色长裤与黑色夹克形成的反差。
作动词，表示“形成对照；显出明显的差异”，英文解释为“If one thing contrasts with another, it is very different from it.”举个🌰：The tartness of the lemons contrasts with the sweetness of the honey. 柠檬的酸味和蜂蜜的甜味形成鲜明的对比。
smooch
smooch /smuːtʃ/ 表示“搂抱接吻”，英文解释为“to kiss, hold, and touch someone in a sexual way”
Meanwhile, 40 percent of all respondents said that browsing on a dating app is a breach of trust.
与此同时，40%的受访者认为，刷交友软件触犯了伴侣间的信任底线。
respondent
respondent /rɪˈspɒn.dənt/ 表示“回答者；答复者；应答者”，英文解释为“a person who answers a request for information”举个🌰：In a recent opinion poll, a majority of respondents were against nuclear weapons. 在最近的一次民意调查中，大多数调查对象表示反对发展核武器。
browse
browse /braʊz/ 表示“浏览；随意看”，英文解释为“to look through a book or magazine without reading everything, or to walk around a shop looking at several things without intending to buy any of them”举个🌰：I was browsing through fashion magazines to find a new hairstyle. 我在浏览时尚杂志，想找一种新发型。
也可以指“浏览（互联网）；在网上浏览（信息）”，英文解释为“to look at information on the internet”如：to browse the Web 浏览万维网。
breach
breach /briːtʃ/ 可以作动词，也可以作名词，表示“违反”，英文解释为“A breach of an agreement, a law, or a promise is an act of breaking it.”举个🌰：He was accused of a breach of secrecy rules. 他被指控违反保密条例。
But Walfish says that all of these acts are signs of infidelity.
但沃尔菲什博士表示，所有这些行为都是不忠的表现。
infidelity
infidelity /ˌɪn.fɪˈdel.ə.ti/ 表示“（夫妇间的）不忠实，不贞行为”，英文解释为“(an act of) having sex with someone who is not your husband, wife, or regular sexual partner”如：marital/sexual infidelity 婚姻/性方面的不忠。
📍此前，在《致命女人》大结局一文中就提到过infidelity这个词。《致命女人》讲述的是三位生活在不同年代的女性：60年代的家庭主妇，80年代的社交名媛和2018年的律师，处理着婚姻中的不忠行为。For those who have yet to indulge in Why Women Kill, the series follows the lives of three women from different decades—Ginnifer Goodwin plays a housewife in the '60s, Lucy Liu a socialite in the '80s, and Kirby Howell-Baptiste a lawyer in 2019—and examines how each one deals with infidelity in their marriage.
“Cheating is going outside of your relationship to meet any gratification, whether emotional, physical or sexual …. with someone you share sexual chemistry with,” Walfish said. “Flirting with the idea and taking your mental space outside of your partnership and spending your thinking energy on someone else … is a direct pathway to cheating.”
“出轨，是指在一段关系之外，和一个你们之间存在性吸引的人，寻求任何类型的满足感，无论是情感上的、身体上的或是性上的……，”沃尔菲什博士说。“对这个念头心存幻想，将你的精神世界从伴侣关系中抽离，将你的思考和感情投注于他人，这无疑是向出轨迈进的直接道路。”
gratification
gratification /ˌɡræt.ɪ.fɪˈkeɪ.ʃən/ 表示“满足；满意；快感；令人喜悦的事物”，英文解释为“the state of feeling pleasure when sth goes well for you or when your desires are satisfied; sth that gives you pleasure”
flirt
flirt /flɜːt/ 表示“调情，打情骂俏”，英文解释为“to behave as if sexually attracted to someone, although not seriously”举个🌰：She was flirting with just about every man in the room. 她几乎在跟房间里的每一个男人调情。
flirt with sth 1）表示“不认真地考虑；对…暂时感兴趣”，英文解释为“to consider doing something, but not seriously, or to be interested in something for a short time”举个🌰：I'm flirting with the idea of taking a year off and travelling round the world. 我心血来潮，想休假一年去周游世界。
2）表示“故意冒（险）”，英文解释为“to intentionally take risks and put yourself in a dangerous or difficult situation”举个🌰：Like a lot of young men, he flirts with danger. 和许多年轻人一样，他也喜欢冒险。
Not all hope is lost, however. Walfish says that one-time acts of adultery can be fixed if the guilty party takes accountability, expresses remorse, and takes time to rebuild trust in a relationship.
不过，也不是所有的希望都破灭了。沃尔菲什博士说，如果犯错的一方承认过错、表达悔意，并投入时间重建双方的信任，那么一次不忠行为也是可以挽回的。
adultery
adultery /əˈdʌl.tər.i/ 表示“通奸（行为）”，英文解释为“sex between a married man or woman and someone he or she is not married to”举个🌰：Many people in public life have committed adultery. 很多知名人物都有通奸行为。
accountability
accountability /əˌkaʊn.təˈbɪl.ə.ti/ 表示“问责制；有义务，有责任；可说明性”，英文解释为“the state of being accountable, liable, or answerable”。
remorse
remorse /rɪˈmɔːs/ 表示“懊悔；悔恨；自责”，英文解释为“a feeling of sadness and being sorry for something you have done”举个🌰：He felt no remorse for the murders he had committed. 他对自己犯下的一桩桩谋杀罪行毫无悔意。
But if your partner is a serial cheater, Walfish says the relationship has a “very low recovery rate.”
但如果你的伴侣屡犯不改，沃尔菲什博士说，这样的关系几乎无望恢复。
serial
serial /ˈsɪə.ri.əl/ 表示“（重罪案犯或重案）连环的，连续的”，英文解释为“used to describe a person who repeatedly commits a similar crime or carries out a similar bad act, or the crime or act itself”举个🌰：She wrote a thriller about a brutal serial killer/murderer. 她写了部有关一名冷血连环杀手的惊悚小说。
“Chances are if they’ve done it more than once with more than one person, they’re probably gonna do it again,” she said.
“如果某人不仅一次，与不同的人发生这种行为，那么他们很可能会重蹈覆辙，”她说。
chances are
(the) chances are表示“很有可能”，英文解释为“it is likely”举个🌰：Chances are (that) they'll be late anyway. 总之，他们很可能会迟到。
- 词汇盘点 -
- 词汇助记 By ChatGPT -
LearnAndRecord
2015年2月8日
2024年2月2日
第3282天
每天持续行动学外语