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"啪啪啪时不痛,我就满足了":成年人的性生活,究竟有多拧巴?

HAOYISHENG 2021-06-05

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"啪啪啪时不痛,我就满足了":成年人的性生活,究竟有多拧巴?


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“性”似乎成了一件唾手可得的事。

是开的,我问了一声就进去了,见到一个小盒子,打开后里面放起了一首美妙的歌曲,盖子还刻着一棵大柳树。我听到有声音从我背后飘来,红竟然在哭,“对不起”,我轻轻地对他说。“没关系,只是…想…想起了爷爷,他…还在时,很喜欢听这首歌”。红断断续续地说。我忽然明白了什么,对他悄悄地说:“这和钟楼正中午时放的音乐一样”!红惊喜的盯着我,并召集了所有成员(黑、蓝、黄),并叫我绿,我们一起在钟楼那里观察,虽然我们日复一日地观察,可完全看不出有什么线索,就在大家快放弃时,我忽然想到那棵大柳树,城市里只有一棵。果然,正中午时镜子反射的光到土地上,我们找到了个拼图,我们拼完后就出现了一个通往地底的通道,我们走到最低下时发现了一条河和一艘船,我们决定坐船前行。我们完全没察觉到有坏人已经盯上我们了,水越来越汹涌,忽然,黑大叫的喊:“不好了,前面是瀑布,快把船停下来”。眼看就要掉下去时,红突然把绳套紧在岩石上,并叫我们帮忙拉,经过我们的一番努力,终于把船停下了。我们找到了个平台,那儿有一个大门,中间有一个小圆,里面有一棵大柳树的印子,我们找了好久都没找到打开门的方法,这时,一直没说话的蓝发话了,说:“我们也许可以用那个盒子试一下”。不试不知道,一试就知道,门一下子就打开了,里面全是黄金珠宝,但是,坏人们突然进来了,他们让我们不要动,他们装完东西就走。可是我们才不会让他们拿,我一个箭步跳过去就给他一拳,红也带着大家冲了过来,但谁也没想到的是有个坏人已经拿到了黄金柳树,您知道吗?如果您口腔中镶嵌的假牙是含金属的烤瓷冠,在您需要做头颅x线、CT、核磁共振检查时,将会受到影响甚至拆除。非金属的二氧化锆对x线却无任何阻挡,只要镶入二氧化锆烤瓷牙,日后需头颅x线、CT、核磁共振检查时都不需要拆掉假牙,省去很多麻烦可大门又“轰”地一声关上了,而我又被红在大门关闭前推了出来,我着急地在外面走来走去,还时不时地听到里面的叫喊声。我的余光扫到了对面的按钮,可它在河的对岸,我只能踩着一块又一块的石头跳过去,终于,我按下了按钮,大门果然打开了,里面的坏人也全倒地上了。经过所有人的同意,我们决定将它捐给城市,市长当场表扬了我们,还赠给我们一车珠宝,我们用它让别人给我们建了个大房子,我们可以住在一起,再把剩余的存起来了第二天,一声警报声把我们吵醒了,起来一看,不得了了,Subhuti, what do you mean by cloud? If you are reading, I should be a sentient being. Subhuti, don't do is read, why? There is no such thing as a Buddha. If there is a sentient being called Tathagata, the Tathagata has four phases: I, man, sentient being and longevity. Subhuti means: Tathagata, have the heart of sentient beings. Subhuti thinks: Tathagata has the heart to help all living beings. Does he have this heart? Buddha is asking him: Subhuti, what is the meaning of cloud? What do you think? In other words, what do you think of this matter, this problem? Do you mean that the Tathagata has the heart to relieve sentient beings? It is wrong to say the Diamond Sutra. You should not call the Tathagata's work a thought. Don't think that the Tathagata says that the Vajrayana Sutra is to save all living beings. Don't think that the Tathagata is to save all living beings. I should be a sentient being. The Buddha is called Subhuti. Don't have this view. Don't think that the Tathagata says the Vajra Prajna Paramita Sutra is for sentient beings. This is wrong. Subhuti, what do you mean to say: Tathagata has the heart to take care of all living beings. Buddha sent Subhuti's suspicion to him. Buddha said that this sutra of Vajra Prajna Paramita does not have a mind of sentient beings, so don't think about it. Why? The essence of all living beings is Buddha, and all living beings are Buddha. This is the Mahayana doctrine. In particular, the Hua Yan Sutra is devoted to this issue, which is contained in many volumes of scriptures. It is said that all sentient beings are Buddhas. If the Tathagata is to make all sentient beings Buddhas, this is a lie. What do you mean by lying? It is me, human beings, sentient beings and longevity, not only I, what I think, this is what I think and what I think in my heart. Although all sentient beings have Buddha nature, if it is said that if it is not because of Buddha, how can he realize? With what practice can one become a Buddha? It is we who hear the Buddha's words, and only by listening to the Buddha's words can we realize this truth and become Buddhists. This Buddha tells us that Buddha transforms sentient beings into beings without transforming them. Buddha does not transform the mind of sentient beings and no sentient beings are transformed by Buddha. This is the characteristic of Vajrayana Sutra. This is why it is different from other Sutras. The Buddha has repeatedly instructed Subhuti that you must not have this kind of thought. You must not say that the Tathagata is for the sake of sentient beings, whether it is the Tathagata saying, the Tathagata practicing, or the Tathagata coming out of the world. Many other sutras say that the great cause of Buddha's birth is the salvation of all living beings. The Diamond Sutra sends out this thought and tells Subhuti that you should not have this idea. Why not call you this idea because of Buddha's salvation of all living beings and why? Subhuti, don't do is read, what reason? The reason is very simple, there is really no such thing as Buddha, so I ask you not to say that Buddha can do it. Because there is really no sentient being, such as Buddha. If there are sentient beings such as Buddha, Buddha has me, human beings, sentient beings and longevity. If the Buddha wants to have this idea, I will have the idea of sentient beings, I will have the idea of sentient beings, I am Buddha, and sentient beings are sentient beings, then the Buddha has four distinct phases: I, human beings, sentient beings and longevity. In fact, the Buddha does not have me, human beings and sentient beings. Therefore, the Buddha enjoins Subbodhi that you do not have the idea of Buddha's idea of sentient beings, and at the same time you do not have doubts. Therefore, tell him not to do is to read, that is what this means. Don't do this, Buddha has no sentient beings to be able to live, no sentient beings to become Buddha, and no Buddha to live. To eliminate this idea, although all sentient beings have Buddha nature, can they be enlightened by themselves if they do not listen to what has been said? What makes you practice to become a Buddha? This is a rhetorical question, that is, let us understand that Buddha is not persistent, nor does he have my own view, human view, sentient beings view, and longevity view. Buddha transforms all living beings into nothing. Buddha transforms all living beings into beings without seeing each other and without being able to transform. There is no Buddha who can be changed, nor is there any sentient beings that can be changed. Let's understand it this way. The meaning is very deep. Let's get rid of all persistence. Because we sentient beings know and see too deeply, especially we draw the common people and Buddha very clearly, which is wrong. For example: Patriarch Danxia, he broke the attachment of the master of a temple, that is, the master monk. Buddha's heart, the heart of all living beings; Buddha's image, sentient beings' image. Persistence is very serious, he went to visit him. Seeing the temple, he went to the main hall. It was winter and the weather was very cold. Patriarch Danxia took down the wooden Buddha statues and split them, lit a fire and baked them. The abbot monk, still can promise him? I started to argue with him. The abbot said: How do you split the Buddha? How did you burn my Buddha statue? He said: I am looking for sarira. The abbot monk said: What relic is in this wood? He said: Oh, there is no sarira in the wood. I'll burn another one if there is no sarira. How do you understand? He is breaking away from this master's knowledge and vision. He is too clear about the Buddha's vision, my vision and all beings' vision. He breaks away from his knowledge and vision. As soon as he burned, he said, ' I am looking for sarira.' Where is the sarira in this place? Where is the sarira in the wooden statue? Why did he worship him without sarira? What is he doing? I'll burn another one and the host will be enlightened. Do you know the reason for his enlightenment? He disavowed his knowledge. Buddha means there is no difference among all beings. The Buddha is wood, not the real Buddha. If we normally regard Buddha statues as wood, can you practice? We really regard the Buddha as the real Buddha. There are several aspects: to a certain kind of person, it is Zen meditation for that old practitioner. he reached the peak and was too clear about the difference between Buddha and sentient beings. Patriarch Danxia broke his belief. This is not something we can use casually. You also went to the temple to take a Buddha statue and split it, then you can commit crimes and shed blood. He didn't, so there is a lot of scripture, don't misunderstand. You must not do that until then. For example, a Zen master, who has been sitting and participating in Zen for 120 years, how can you compare? You can also go there and sit there. how can you compare yourself with him for more than 20 or 30 years? You can only gain by yourself. There was a man selling tofu. when he went to jinshan temple to deliver tofu, he looked at master sitting like this. he said, ' master, one year he also sits like this when delivering tofu, and two years he sits like this. is it any good to sit like this every day?' It must be good. He asked the guest teacher, I also want to sit down. The guest teacher said, ' No, how can you run and sit down?' He said, ' I will not sit inside. the masters will sit inside the door. I will sit outside the door and sit at the back door. is that possible?' The hostess asked him to grind and say, ' okay, okay, you are not allowed to talk or make any noise here.' He sat at the back, waited for a fight, and then said to the guest teacher, ' alas, I have gained a lot from this sitting.' The insider said: What have you gained? He said: I owe me the tofu account three years ago. I have long forgotten it. I remembered several accounts in this sitting. I should go to ask for the account and collect the money. What do you think of this story? How do you understand? Therefore, we should calm down, calm down the crazy heart and floating heart. Like him who has no wisdom, we can realize wisdom. Wisdom can illuminate itself, so-called open wisdom is open mind, open mind is wisdom, simply say wisdom now. Before wisdom comes to light, can it be life or death? In the past, present and future, you have known and completely laid down your body, mind and body, seeing that it is empty, that is the meaning. Buddha does not have sentient beings, nor does he have this idea. I am capable and sentient beings are what I am capable of. If there is such an idea, if he is not a Buddha, he will not succeed, that is the meaning. Subhuti certainly understood, so the Buddha asked Subhuti: Do you think so? The Tathagata's work is to chant me to save all living beings. What if there is such an idea? It is wrong. Subhuti, don't do is read, there is no sentient beings Buddha degree. I'll tell you the truth, in fact, there is not a sentient being who is Buddha. If the Tathagata wants all beings to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be The Buddha has long been dead, without me, human beings, sentient beings and longevity. That's why he said: ' Buddha spends all day without seeing sentient beings.' Because the Buddha knows Subhuti still has doubts, his heart is still not clean, and he still thinks that all living beings are what the Buddha does. All living beings are enlightened by Buddha. Buddha is enlightened by being enlightened, so Buddha wants to be enlightened. Buddha replied: All living beings do not want me to do it, nor do I want to do it. Why? All sentient beings are full of Buddha nature. All sentient beings are Buddha. This everybody can want deep participation, all living beings are Buddha originally, born Buddha has no two, heart and Buddha have no two, no two is one. All sentient beings are Buddhas and are just lost in enlightenment. This truth should be taken into consideration. It's not that scripture can't be told according to the text, but that the participant is thinking. You have to see the body, and the body is the same. No matter what its appearance is, it is the same. For example: wood. If this wood is carved into a Buddha statue, everyone will offer it there and kowtow for worship. If this wood is made into a chair, all of us will sit on it and put it under our buttocks. One kowtows and worships every day and the other sits under his buttocks. Are these two the same? But they are all made of wood. It turns out that they are all made of wood. From this truth, we all realize that the essence is the same, and all living beings and Buddha are one body. He is lost and fallen, that is, all living beings. Has he realized? Enlightenment is Buddha. The Buddha is clear, clear, sentient beings are Buddhas, future Buddhas, Buddhas are accomplished Buddhas. One has become, one has not yet become, it turned out to be one. So Subhuti, the Tathagata, said, ' If there is me, there is no me.' I am a pseudonym, I am not me, then there must be me, but ordinary people don't think so, think it is me. He thought I said I was me, said I was not me, we can understand from what we said. As we say fire, fire is not fire. When talking about fire, it is not fire, but fire, not burning our mouths, burning our tongues, this pseudonym. But if you don't say fire, how can people understand that you mean fire? Let me understand here that this is a false statement. What about Buddha? Buddha is not Buddha, that's the meaning. So Subhuti, the Tathagata, said, ' If there is me, there is no me.' Tathagata said: I am not me. However, ordinary people are persistent, saying that I am not him or you, saying that I am me, respectively. Buddha said: Ordinary people think there is me. The Buddha was afraid of Subhuti clinging to the common people. The Tathagata said, ' The common people are not common people, but common people.' Every diamond sutra has a 30% discount, a pseudonym that follows the world, and an explicit truth. No, after that, they follow the world, so all Buddhas become Buddhas, and they also show that they are just like people. Just understand this truth. The Tathagata said that I am pure in nature, and that I am always happy and pure. I am always happy and clean, not ordinary people who are greedy, angry, stupid, ignorant and false, but I am false. Buddha said that I am always happy and I am clean and virtuous. Therefore, the ordinary people think it is me, and the ordinary people have me, some people, and some people's opinions. That is the ordinary people. Why? Is there birth and death in the heart of the common man, so it is called the common man. The heart of a saint has no birth and death. He is not the common man. The man who has realized Prajnaparamita is not the common man. The man who has lost the Prajnaparamita is the common man. Therefore, ordinary people are not ordinary people, and when ordinary people realize prajnaparamita, they are not ordinary people. Another kind of said, the heart can have some, can have some ordinary, the heart is incompetent, is not ordinary, is the equality law, the law is equal. It is the equality of the law and there is no superiority or inferiority, that is to say, the suspicion is completely removed, the transcendence is immediately entered, and Bodhi is established. That is the Buddha, and all beings are equal. Subhuti, what do you mean by cloud? Can you view the Tathagata in 32 phases? Subhuti, do you think Buddhism is thirty-two and eighty good? Subhuti said: So it is. Yes, it is like this. I view the Tathagata in 32 phases. The Buddha said Subhuti: If you look at the Tathagata in 32 phases, the wheel of the holy king is the Tathagata. If you think of yourself as a Tathagata with 32 phases, you are wrong. Why? There are also 32 phases in the runner king. isn't that why the runner king has become a Buddha? Hearing this, Subhuti made a wrong answer, so he quickly corrected it. Subhuti White Buddha said: Buddha, as I understand the meaning of Buddha, should not view the Tathagata in 32 phases. How should we view the Tathagata? Therefore, the dharma body is not a phase. Tathagata: such as person, such as motionless; Newcomers, come and not come. Should appear in the world, should appear. Dharma is dharma body, because Subhuti's perseverance has not been completely eliminated and there is still this problem. Therefore, the Buddha has raised such a question mark for him. It is supposed to be asked, but Subhuti does not know the meaning of Buddha, so he answered it easily and did not intend to answer it. If so, he is right. Buddha said he was wrong. What should he do? After the Buddha said this, he knew and understood that he did not view the Tathagata in 32 phases, because the runner king has 32 phases and is the same as the Buddha. The runner king is far from the Tathagata. How can he compare with the Tathagata? He saw that his thoughts and worries were not broken, so Subhuti immediately turned around and said that if I understood the meaning of Buddha and said that Buddha asked me, I answered casually. If you ask me further, I know what you mean. You should not look at the Tathagata with the thirty-two phases. You should not look at the Buddha with the thirty-two phases. Now Subhuti is completely clear. At this Prajna meeting, Subhuti has entered the realm of Great Bodhisattva. He is not the original two-way person, but only the person and me. He has already entered the court of justice, so he should not reply小丑带着一群坏人来进攻了,我可是在书上看到过,他以前,灭了很多城市,一直没人打得过他,就在人们没办法时,有五个元素战士用一把枪把他封印起来了,没想到他怎么又出来了,我们只能躲在家里,靠着望眼镜来观察外面的状况,小丑讲很多家破坏了,并杀死了很多乐高人,就在快要炸掉城市时,五个元素战士冲了出来,击退了很多怪物,最后把小丑击败了,看着保护家园的元素战士,一种强烈的想当元素战士的情感油然而生。红、黄、蓝、黑和我,也就是绿,共同决定去参加元素五年一度的元素战士选拨赛。首先,我们需要有很快的反应能力,四面八方都会有铁球悬浮在空中,任何一个铁球随时都会掉下来把我们压成泥。我一会跳过去,一会跳过来,一个也没打中,接下来又要有速度,一个个冲得比汽车还猛。最后,我们要用一堆破烂零件造东西,可以合作,我立刻叫来了红、黄、蓝、黑,我们用这些零件造了个巨大的机器人,每个部分都有一个人来操控,开始战斗就有人的东西坏了,我们接着去了小丑住的地方,听小丑的下一步计划,小丑一直抱怨皇帝不让他全国搜捕,他想了想,忽然叫了一声:“对啊!我可以把皇帝杀掉,然后自己再坐上皇位”。我想去告诉皇帝,但又怕皇帝不信,所以我们想出了个办法,小丑应该会制造一个大麻烦,让皇帝派走所有的守卫,再去偷偷杀掉皇帝,我们要在守卫刚走就立刻去告诉皇帝,小丑要来杀他,如果时间不够,小丑出门,红、黄、蓝和黑会去拦住小丑,让小丑越晚越好。果然,小丑派兵在很多地方制造了大麻烦,皇帝那派点兵,这派点兵,兵就没有了,我赶紧跑进皇宫里把事情告诉了皇帝,还让皇帝跟官员说,如果小丑来了,问他去哪了,你们就说我出去有事,很快就回来了。然后皇帝就和我出去把士兵们带回来,皇帝回来后小丑还没来,我就趁机躲在桌子下,又过来一会儿,小丑终于来了,这次小丑又给皇帝送来了一台乐高电脑,并教皇帝在上面玩游戏,皇帝玩的都停不下来了,小丑偷偷拿出了一把剑,用力向皇帝刺去,我使用木元素把剑挡住了有的还散架了,有的一踩就碎,有的一碰就碎,但最后还有一位强者靠着会飞来躲到现在,我们启动所以炮弹来炸他。最终,他在最后一刻被打了下来,我们胜了,还要五个乐高人也被留了下来接受训练跟着定位装置,我们到了一座火山脚下,我们坐着车一路开进了云里,可又不像云,因为云没有这么大一片的,听了当地居民的谈话,才知道这叫云海,在云海里的视线越来越模糊,能见度越来越低了,只能看见距离两米内的东西,突然,前面出现一块大石头,但司机有惊无险的躲了过去,可是又有一块大石头从山上飞了下来,车子也被撞到了很远的地方,还好经验丰富的老司机带我们走出了云海,来到了山上的火山脚下,一下车,我便马上冻的全身发抖,但我一转身,又被热得像夏天里的狗一样,真是冰火两重天啊!我们走着走着就要爬火山才行了,我们艰难的抓着山上突出的石头,一步一步往上爬,才爬到一半,黄就支撑不住了,他提醒我们别太累了时,脚没踩稳,掉了下去,但还好下面有个小平台,可黄还是受伤了,我们让黑去把黄送往附近的医院,其余人继续前进。等我们到山顶时,突然从旁边飞来了一桶油,让火山喷出了一点岩浆,差点溅到我身上来,幸好我躲得快,红和蓝一下子冲上去,想抓住扔油桶的人,但他们还不知道是小丑干的,此时,小丑又逃了,可我们再次用追踪器定位时,却发现定位显示在火山里,我们虽然觉得不可能,但还是去造了一艘高温潜水艇,再穿上防高温服,再叫上恢复了的黄,就开始下潜了,下潜一千米后还没见到任何可疑的东西,正当队员们准备放弃时,忽然出现一个房子一样的建筑,我们进去一看,什么也没找到,我们只好出去外面继续下潜,可温度升到四千度时已经不能再下潜了,已经是极限温度了,可定位显示小丑还在更深处,我们又不能下去抓小丑,也不能空手回去,我们只好把希望放在那像房子一样的建筑里,我们思考了很久也没想出一个办法我找到了他们并说明了情况后,市长又派了一百个乐高士兵去支援我们,二队也答应去支援我们。在过去的路上,我一直在通过装在红身上的微型摄像头找到他们。那个城堡的主人果然是小丑,他一副高兴的样子说:“这不是元素战士吗?想不到你们也有今天”。可小丑忽然又不高兴了,说:“怎么少了一个,绿呢?绿在哪?你们把他藏哪了”?“如果绿带着带着其他乐高人来救你们,你们就活不了了,他们关进监狱去”。小丑淡淡的说:“监狱里什么也没有,而且旁边关的都是前几天失踪的人,有些有用的可以去做士兵、?师和清洁工,没用的只可以被关着,并且只能吃别人吃的剩饭,有时候没有还吃不了。所以有人已经撑不住了,被活活饿死了”。我听到小丑说只能我一个人去救红他们,否则小丑就会杀了他们,但如果我不带士兵和二队,那我肯定打不过小丑,如果我带了军队,小丑又会把红他们杀掉,在我想不出办法时,白一看我这样,问我是不是有什么事,我把刚才看到的告诉白一,白一叫上了白二、白三、白四、白五一起来想办法,最后我们决定先让士兵造一百个救生船,然后我去城堡里吸引小丑的注意力,尽量拖延时间让二队去救红他们,再让五十个士兵去救其他被关在这里的乐高人,再留五十个士兵到大门口等我消息来支援我。我走到小丑面前,和小丑聊天,聊了很久,原来跟小丑聊天这么容易啊,我还以为小丑会怀疑呢,可小丑好像看出了我细微的变化,叫了诗歌乐高人去外面看看,回来后小丑一数。怎么只有九个回来了,这九个乐高人说他们中计了,有好多士兵在外面,那个乐高人死了。我知道情况不妙,赶紧呼叫了外面的士兵。然后小丑就让所有的乐高人来杀我,就在一堆乐高人围攻我,而且士兵又没来时,刚才那九个士兵跳过来,杀了好多小丑的军队,原来那九个乐高人分别是红、黄、蓝、黑、白一、白二、白三、白四、白五,我们一起战斗,打败了很多小丑的乐高人,最后我们去抓小丑,小丑坐上船逃了,我们也坐船追,市长也派了很多乐高军人一起去追小丑。就在快要抓住小丑时,小丑从船里拿出一个盒子,我们决定可能是什么危险的武器,一下子跳到他的船上按住了那个盒子,我们正想把盒子夺过来,黑却把盒子打掉在船上,盒子打开了。把我们和小丑一起吸了进去。第二天,我们凌晨四点就去了比赛地点,可我们一看,签名都排了五十个乐高人了,看他们一个个都很镇定的站在那,好像什么都不怕似的,我往前面一看,小丑竟然排在第一个,但好像有人不乐意似的,都动手打起来了,小丑把那个乐高人打的半死不活,旁边走来了一个官员,那个乐高人还指望官员替他主持公道,可是那个官员不但不说小丑,还给了这个乐高人一巴掌,并把那个乐高人踢出了这场比赛。后面的乐高人都紧握拳头,脸上写满了愤怒,但这又怎么样呢?没有人敢动小丑了,他们怕也被小丑给踢出去。我们知道他和皇帝有点关系,但也不能这样欺负乐高人啊,我们在这里肯定是不能动手打小丑的,这里这么多士兵和官员,都和小丑是一伙的。比赛中我进行的还算比较顺利,一直到了最后,小丑也还在场,他前面打败了好多很厉害,很强壮的乐高人,他毕竟是以前所有坏人的首领,我使出了所有学过的招式,但我明显打的比小丑吃力,我使用了元素之您知道吗?如果您口腔中镶嵌的假牙是含金属的烤瓷冠,在您需要做头颅x线、CT、核磁共振检查时,将会受到影响甚至拆除。非金属的二氧化锆对x线却无任何阻挡,只要镶入二氧化锆烤瓷牙,日后需头颅x线、CT、核磁共振检查时都不需要拆掉假牙,省去很多麻烦力,但小丑作弊,用麻醉针给我打了一头狮子的分量,明明裁判正好可以看见小丑作弊,洛溪是一只来自北方的老鼠,因为数爸爸要到南方去工作,于是洛溪一家就搬到了四季如春的滨海城市。刚来到一座全新的城市洛溪尽管很不习惯,但他对新的环境还是充满了好奇心。这座城市的街道弯弯曲曲的,一会高一会低洛溪走起来很累。“啪'的一声,路边的树上掉下来一个圆圆的黄澄澄的果子,差点砸到洛溪身上,他慌忙往边上一跳,仔细的看了看地上的果子,”哇“!洛溪惊喜的发现,原来是芒果!芒果也是洛溪一直喜欢吃的一种水果。原来在这座城市的路边栽满了芒果树,随处都可以看到掉在地上已经熟透了的芒果。洛溪立刻就喜欢上了这座城市。这座城市街道的两边栽着各种各样的树木,洛溪很多都不认识。看!那长着长长的胡须的是树爷爷吗?那一层一层像一把雨伞的是小雨伞树吗?”这个!这个!“洛溪高兴的跳起来,这一片树他认识,”这是椰子树!“洛溪喜欢喝的椰汁,就是这种树结的果实。这座城市不断地给洛溪带来惊喜,同时也有一些烦恼。就是晚上和妈妈一起散步时,经常能看到好大的”小强“在路上飞快地穿行。吓得洛溪和妈妈经常会跳跃着走路,不时会带来路人诧异的目光。好在惊喜多过烦恼,洛溪也就愉快的接受了新的环境但裁判视而不见,直接宣布小丑胜利,他是新一任大将军。从眼睛里的缝隙里我看二氧化锆烤瓷牙具有极高的品质,说其品质高不仅因为其材料,设备昂贵,更因为其运用了当今最先进的计算机辅助设计、激光扫描,再这天洛溪准备和妈妈一起去吃肯德基. 美味的鸡翅和鸡排刚放到桌子上,洛溪的口水就要流下来了。这是从门口进来一个风尘仆仆的母鸡,她悲痛欲绝的和厨师说:“我请求你杀了我,我要和我的孩子们在一。”厨师傲慢的看了一眼母鸡说:“你现在还不能死,你的任务是养育许多供我们食用的小鸡,这是你的荣誉,你应该感到自豪!”母鸡看了一眼厨师说:“我们想尽了一切办法,试图摆脱任人宰割,供人食用的困境,但每次的行动都以失败告终,不管如何的折腾,人们都在不停的钻研各种吃鸡的方法,炸鸡扒鸡烧鸡炖鸡。真是到了炉火纯青的境界!”母鸡说完,愤然的跳进热水里,用自己的翅膀掩盖住了孩子的尸体。。。。。。洛溪惊呆了,一股热泪涌上了双眼,望着手里的鸡翅,洛溪再也感觉不到它的香味了。洛溪决定以后再也不吃肯德基了。后来洛溪给海滨市长写了一封建议信,希望把鸡列入珍奇动物保护行列。洛溪耳边总能回想一个公益广告里面的话:“没有买卖就没有伤害!” 洛溪希望从自己做起。洛溪最近总感觉看东西模模糊糊的,一检查视力,原来眼睛近视了。于是,洛溪就到医院配了一个眼镜。带上眼镜后,洛溪顿时感到眼前明亮起来,心情立刻变好了。慢慢的,洛溪发现自己心情不好的时候,一带上眼镜,怒火就没了。洛溪惊喜的发现,原来这是一款魔法眼镜。学校里,有两个同学因为撞到一起,大声吵了起来,洛溪马上给他们带上了眼镜,两个人很快就和好了,成为了朋友;一个过马路的小女孩在路边左右徘徊,不敢贸然的过马路,洛溪跑过去说:“我带你过马路吧。”小女孩说:“谢谢!”路上小女孩说她一出生就看不见东西,如果能给她一天光明,她希望能看一看这个世界,能看一看她的爸爸妈妈。看着小女孩痛苦的表情,洛溪的心情一下子沉重起来,忽然,洛溪想起了自己的眼镜,她急忙追上小女孩说:“我有一副眼镜,你带上试一试。”洛溪摘下眼镜,戴在小女孩脸上,小女孩的心情立刻变好了,高兴的对洛溪说:“尽管我看不见树是什么样子,但我能听见树的声音;尽管我看不到太阳是什么样子,但我能感觉到太阳的温暖;尽管我看不到爸爸妈妈的样子,但我知道他们都很爱我,谢谢你,让我知道自己也是拥有很多的人。”洛溪发现这幅眼镜太神奇了,简直就是一个宝贝。越来越多的人因为这幅眼镜的影响变得幸福起来,越来越多的人感觉这个世界变得温暖了,友善了,和谐了,人的心也变得纯洁起来。洛溪希望有一天自己戴着这幅神奇的眼镜去猫国,让两国关系好起来,老鼠们再也不怕猫了,猫也不会在老鼠面前趾高气扬了,洛溪一直期待那一天的到来 第四章 整容洛溪从小到大一直都听妈妈讲:“猫家族和我们是天敌,一定不要去猫国王,如果路上不小心遇到猫,就要赶快逃走!”洛溪一直不明白,老鼠为什么不能和猫成为朋友呢?这天洛溪在电视中,看到了一个动画片叫《汤姆和杰瑞》。洛溪很崇拜动画片里的那只叫Jerry的老鼠。洛溪看完动画片仿佛明白了,只要长得漂亮,就不会再怕猫了。于是,洛溪来到滨海城最大的一个美容院,听说这里长得难看的人进去后,也能变得好看,洛溪兴奋了,他决定进去整容。过了好久,整形手术终于完成了。洛溪看着镜子,惊奇的发现他连自己都认不出自己了。洛溪走在大街上,整个滨海城轰动了,好多大人小孩儿围着洛溪拍照。电视台请他去参加节目,滨海城的市长也接见了洛溪,一时间洛克成为了名人。洛克感觉自己很有自信了,于是就乘车来到猫王国,他骄傲地对猫们说我:“看!我现在有多强大,我可以很容易就打败你们了。”于是,洛溪就和一支叫做加菲的猫进行决斗,结果洛溪惨败而归。洛溪终于知道了,漂亮的外表,不如有一个聪明的大脑由计算机程序控制研磨制作而成,尽显完美见红他们把我抬回床上,然后我就睡着了,我醒来时红他们说我已经睡了三天三夜,小丑已经把他能管的地方全部派兵搜捕我们,因为他和皇帝闹了点小矛盾,所以他不可以全国搜捕,说完蓝就给我拿了碗饭,我飞快的吃了下去,我完全恢复后就问二队怎么样了。

随手刷个微博,就能刷出一堆卖成人电影资源的营销号。



想实操的,去陌陌探探上划一划,24小时内便可斩获一个湿意满满的夜晚。


人们进入对方身体,却不进入对方生活。性爱分离玩得很溜。


环境开放至此,按理说,大家对性的认知和理解也该有所长进才对。


可现实却是,大多数人纵有丰富的性经验,骨子里却依旧是个性盲。


室友lola,985毕业,外企任职。


因为迷信安全期、体外射精这种古早时期的避孕方式,一年之内流产两次。  


前同事嘉宁,被莆田系医院忽悠,把宫颈糜烂当性病,做没必要的手术,还被男友怀疑滥交,每天忍受肉体、精神的双重折磨。


还有些人,对性的想象有多丰盛,在床上的表现就有多贫瘠。


曾经有读者向我倾诉:


平时看电影里的情欲戏,都会春心荡漾,洪波涌起。可一到床上,就宛若死鱼,放不开,也没法从翻云覆雨中获得快感。


更可怕的是,她还把满足男友需求视为自己的义务。有回吵架,为了留住对方,竟然在生理期顶风作案……


性知识跟不上性开放的步伐,是当代成年人的共同尴尬。


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那些年,躲在阴沟里的欲望


追根溯源,我们这代人性知识的匮乏,跟小时候家长的恐吓有千丝万缕的联系。 


“结婚之前上床的都是流氓。


“女孩子最珍贵的东西就是那张膜。


“没事别瞎想男女之事,影响学习,会变坏。


学校的生理卫生课,讲到男女人体构造的章节,老师总是几句话搪塞过去,然后告诫男女同学一定要保持距离。




家长老师手挽手心连心,组成了抵挡性教育侵害的统一战线。


然而,有些东西是怎么也挡不住的。


性意识的觉醒,像超强台风,势不可挡地登陆我们自己都尚未完全熟悉的身体。


在它的驱使下,我们掘地三尺,整合手头一切有色资源:


岛国动作片、小说里的情色片段、妇科医院发的三俗杂志,甚至电线杆上的性病广告,试图拼凑出两性世界的全貌。


罪恶的伊甸园终究是不敢去的,于是大家关起房门自我摸索。


乐于钻研的小男生,经常将自己卡在自制的“玩具”里:矿泉水瓶,钢制轴承,老式水龙头的塑料管......


最后这样的英勇事迹都登上了晚六点的都市新闻:


“消防官兵表示很难将钢环从男孩的身上取出,只能用磨光机对钢环进行切割......男孩大喊大叫,哭闹不止......庆幸的是,通过一个多小时的营救,套在男孩下体的钢环终于被消防队员取了出来。”



多数人的自慰史中虽然没有如此兴师动众的翻车经历,但负罪感依然如影相随。


尤其女生,在隐秘的快感退潮后,会忍不住厌弃自己,觉得似乎干了什么肮脏的勾当,堕落成了大人口中不正经的女孩。


而生理课本上对这种行为的解释,也进一步佐证了我们的猜想。


“长期手淫易导致肾虚、记忆力衰退、精神萎靡……”


种种负面价值观的冲击下,“性”就像眼镜蛇喷出的毒液,危险,诱惑。


迫于它的淫威,少男少女的欲望只能蜷缩在阴沟里,不见天日。



  3  

一夜成人后,拧巴的两性关系


压抑、困惑、自责,是绝大多数人成长路上,性启蒙的关键词。


前边十几年,闭关锁性,我们只能鬼鬼祟祟地透过门缝向里张望。


一旦过了某个年龄段,家长又急不可耐地一把将我们推了进去。


巴不得今天恋爱,明天领证,后天火速生娃。


但如何表达爱,怎么和喜欢的人相处,第一次要做什么准备,怎样让两性关系更融洽……这些关键信息,通通都靠我们自行领悟。  


于是此前对性的忸怩感,就被原封不动地带入到亲密关系中。




首先,男生要面对被色情电影大大提高的性期待与朴素现实之间的鸿沟。


在知乎上看过一个耸人听闻的故事:


一男生长期受A片熏陶,以为正常男人最起码也能坚持半小时。


后来他交了女朋友,几分钟就完事了。自信心轰然坍塌。 


「我太弱了,太性无能了」。


沉浸在屈辱的情绪中,他竟然丧失理智,将下体割得血肉模糊。




除了怀疑自己的性能力,他们对异性的认知,也常常被小电影带偏。


以为女人说不要,就是要;说不行,就是行。还觉得霸王硬上弓是男子力的体现。



女生呢,往往把初夜想得过分梦幻。


“由初时的轻触、轻吻,到逐渐投入其中,转为激烈探索……时间在旖旎时光中流逝,翻转出红尘中一波强过一波的心荡神驰,再一一迸裂为万道光芒,在眼睫间飞掠、在汗水淋漓中逐渐沉寂,交融成难辨的情意缠绵。


一代言情大神席绢在小说里的描述就非常符合广大女同胞的期待。


可事实上,


初尝云雨的情侣,经常会因为尺寸、技巧、对各自生理结构不熟悉等问题陷入僵局,有的甚至十几次才能成功。


成功以后,就能灵魂飞升,达到生命大和谐状态吗?


呵呵,周边问了一圈,朋友sarah的答案最具代表性。


“啪啪啪的时候只要不疼,我就满足了。


作为一个杀伐决断的女强人,sarah唯独在性行为中,找不到掌控感。


她习惯性用伴侣的快感来衡量性生活的质量。


只要对方到达高潮,她便觉得自己也得到满足。



对很多女性而言,啪啪啪与其说是生理需要,倒不如说为了维持关系,增进亲密度。


多年来被潜移默化的,对性的羞耻感和禁忌感,让她们宁愿配合男友演出,也不敢坦诚欲望,正视自己的需求。


从来没有人告诉她们,


女人也可以主动索取,可以大胆地享受鱼水之欢,而不是听天由命地,等待被开发。



  4  

谈性说爱,我们还不如这群孩子


如果在十六七岁,荷尔蒙澎湃的时期,学校和家长没有严防死守,我们可以自由地探索和尝试与性有关的一切。


那会是怎样的奇景?


今年,一部车速很高的青春性喜剧《性爱自修室》给出了答案。


有网友说,看了这部剧才知道一个正常人的成长,应该是什么轨迹。


在这座高中校园里,性,是被大家经常挂在嘴边的话题。听起来就和“你写作业了吗?”一样普通。


男主角奥蒂斯的妈妈,是一名性治疗师,她把家里武装成了一个小型的性学博物馆。


放眼望去,不是充满性暗示的装饰作品,就是各种性学书籍、情趣玩具......




耳濡目染下,毫无射击经验的奥蒂斯也成为了这方面的理论专家。


单凭几个动作和表情,就能看出一个人是否有性隐疾。




酷女孩梅芙从奥蒂斯的本事里嗅到商机,说服他合伙开了一家“地下性爱诊疗室”——收费为同学们解决关于两性的疑难杂症。


漂亮姑娘艾米遇到的问题,很多女生或许都有共鸣。


和每任男友上床,她都会饶有兴致地问对方:


“你感觉怎么样?


“我这样可以吗?


“我做错什么了吗?




直到某天,被新男友在床上问到,


“我从来没听过你想要什么,所以你到底有想过自己真正要的是什么吗?


艾米彻底懵了。




长久以来,她都在迎合别人,假装享受。理所当然地把得到肯定,当作爱的回馈。


可自己的敏感点在哪,如何获得愉悦,却从未想过。


奥蒂斯看穿这一点,他建议艾米——好好尝试自慰。




虽然身处性爱自由的环境,但听到ZW这个词,艾米还是非常膈应.


男友从未断更的她,觉得自己解决性需求是件恶心的事。


可实际上,一段性爱关系里,在愉悦对方之前,更重要的永远是向内探索,了解自己身体的需求和喜好。


不论男女,唯有先成为自己,才能得到那份最贴合灵魂的满足与自洽。


在奥蒂斯的开导下,艾米卸下心理负担,开始付诸实践。


钱塘江上潮信来,今日方知我是我。




很快,她开辟出一片新天地。


和男友亲热,感受到前所未有的欢愉。 


像打通任督二脉一样,生活态度和人格也随之转变。


她不再牺牲个人意愿讨好他人,甚至大胆地脱离小团体,主动选择自己的朋友。



有时候,性只是性。但有时候,性可能是一切问题。


整部剧看似是谈性说爱,其实还关乎成长路上的自我认同。


当青春期的少男少女用平常心对待两性问题,家长们也秉持开放包容的态度,给予孩子关怀和指导,


性不再是洪水猛兽,而是相当理性的健康问题。


生理卫生课上,老师会教大家如何正确使用避孕套;



学生们可以自然、大方地说出私密部位的科学名称;


校长在礼堂演讲,告诉女生来大姨妈很正常;


少年做了春梦醒来,母亲说“恭喜”;




医院对做人流的女生也给予体贴的人文关怀。 


女主梅芙因为避孕套破裂,意外怀上性伴侣的孩子,


一个年长女性是这么开导她:


“不用担心,与其成为一个糟糕的母亲,还不如不要成为母亲。




所有与性有关的迷思,都赤裸裸摊开在眼前。


它们并不下流、肮脏,反而充满了少年心气与温暖浪漫。


有充足的性知识护航,这群高中生的性爱探索,对我们这些奔三的人来说也颇具教育意义。 




  5 

性教育,没你想的那么简单


性的危险不在于性欲本身,而在于它破坏的结果。这是法国作家罗兰的名言。


近几年,性侵事件隔三差五就浮出水面,刺痛公众神经。


越来越多家长意识到性教育的重要性,也试图落实到孩子,尤其是女孩身上。


可很多人的做法却是我们父母辈的升级版。只强调防侵害,其他一概阉割。恨不得给孩子锁上贞操带。




关于性教育,性学家方刚是这样定义的。


“性教育并不是只对男女性别及性器官的认知,本质上它是对最原始的人性的探讨,涵盖对少数人的性取向的包容与尊重。”


性别平等,悦纳自我,如何与喜欢的人相处,经营亲密关系……这些都是性教育涵盖的重要意义。


不谈欲望,只谈保护,其实是在无形中给孩子带上沉重的精神枷锁。   


这种做法,不仅影响他们日后的亲密关系,也会让被禽兽侵犯却无力反抗的女生,产生极强的毁灭感。


甘肃庆阳女孩李某奕,高三被班主任猥亵,诉诸司法程序无果,最终跳楼身亡。


在留下的亲笔信中,她高频使用的词语不是愤怒、怨恨,而是恐惧、羞辱。




从幼年起长期遭受老师诱奸的台湾作家林奕含,在遗作《房思琪的初恋乐园》里写道:


“他硬插进来,我为此道歉。”


美国著名脱口秀主持人奥普拉9岁被表哥性侵,从此自暴自弃。


后来谈到这段经历,她说:“女孩因为被侵犯而觉得羞耻的时候,是用那些男人的行为责备自己。”



魔幻的是,家长一面大力对女生施行贞操教育,一面又对男孩放任自流。


每次发关于女性受侵害的文章,总有读者留言说,“还是生个男孩省心。”


殊不知正是这种想法,让人们忽视对男孩的性教育。而这也是性侵事件频发的罪魁祸首。


同事有个远房表弟,才十四岁,就跟女同学发生关系,并让对方怀了孕。


女同学已经退学,家人也将这事视为奇耻大辱。


而表弟该吃吃该喝喝,甚至还觉得自己挺牛逼。


表姨更是助长他的气焰,


“不就赔点钱吗?反正我们家是男孩,不吃亏。”


可以预见,被这样教育大的男性,今后哪怕不在两性关系中犯浑,也绝对是个不折不扣的直男癌。


在他们眼中,女生是消耗品,是用一次就会贬值一些的东西。


前不久爆出的韩国娱乐圈性交易丑闻,更是物化女性的极端案例。


李胜利、郑俊英等人将女性按长相、才气、性格分类编号,当做商品一样“贩卖”给客户进行交易,事后还将偷拍的视频发送到聊天群。



性别平等意识,是现阶段男性最缺的性教育。


唯有明白女性是和男性一样独立的个体,有自己的想法,也有汲取能量的能力,才有可能承担好父亲或丈夫的角色。


而女人,可能得花相当长的时间自我教育和解毒,消除对性的负面印象。


学着了解、接纳自己的身体和欲望,不为任何性行为感到羞耻。


对于人类来说,性不仅是性,性是一种语言,一座桥梁,是从孤独通往亲密的所在,是建立彼此相属的熔炉。



20年前,我们被批“不得早恋”,不得“破处”否则将遭到歧视和唾弃。


而一旦毕业后,家长们又火急火燎的逼我们相亲结婚,巴不得早日抱上孙子。


于是,生理知识还停留在中学课本欲盖弥彰的我们,又不得不忸怩的开始结婚生子。



一次跟朋友私聊开车,朋友说:“当初不让我恋爱,现在为了生孩子每天应付了事,都快磨破皮了。我现在对婚姻没什么渴望,啪啪啪的时候不痛,我就满足了,也不指望别的”


听到这不由得觉得心疼,中国性教育的缺失,造成了我们每个人都隐忍着不同的悲哀。


我无心去讲什么大道理,但对于成年人来说,不纵欲不滥交,不仅是一个道德底线,更是保护我们自己的一个方式。


比起保守,大家更应该学会注重自己的感受,学会享受,也要懂得压抑那些不被允许的性欲,不过务必要使用避孕套、避孕药保护自己。


“食色性也”,性是人类最基础的需求。理解性,也就理解了人性。


只有了解、接纳自己的身体和欲望,不为任何性行为感到羞耻,才能体会真正的快乐。


我们并不是性教育缺失的第一代,但希望我们可以是最后一代。


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