每天起床的正确姿势：先给自己打气
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当我们每天醒来时，提醒自己新的一天已经到来。过去的已经消失了，我们可以翻开新的一页，重新开始。
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老桑与阿伦·艾弗森
今天早上醒来时，你对自己说的第一句话是什么？如果你和我们很多人一样，答案也许就是下面的一句话里：
哇，我刚做了一个奇怪的梦。这是怎么了呢？天哪，我忘了那个问题!我有麻烦了…事情不太顺利，我希望自己能呆在床上。
当你读到这些句子的时候，或许能会心一笑，因为你知道，是的，你确实会时不时地对自己说这些话！我们都曾有消极的自言自语。无论是被闹钟jolt（惊醒），还是碰巧自然醒了，很多时候当我们处于昏昏沉沉的状态时，这种消极的自言自语似乎更加强烈。
不过，你早上对自己说的话会为一整天定下基调。如果你可以说一些积极的事情，就能为美好的一天做好准备。如果你说了一些消极的话，一天可能会是个错误的开始。如果想让自己在生活中更上一层楼，一个可靠的方法就是对自己说正确的话……从你醒来的那一刻开始。
A key to a life of victory
通往胜利的钥匙
上周五，我观看了乔尔和维多利亚·欧斯汀（Joel and Victoria Osteen）在费城富国银行中心举办的“希望之夜”（Night of Hope）演出。你可能在电视上看到过这个拥有20000多个座位的体育场，那里也是费城76人队的主场。
事实上，我最后一次来是在2月5日看的76人队对阵洛杉矶快船队的中国之夜“喜迎猴年”比赛，当时由腾讯在中国直播。
76人中国之夜“喜迎猴年”比赛
乔尔·欧斯汀是一位牧师和励志演说家。他在中国不太出名，但在其他地方有着大批忠实的追随者。他在德克萨斯州休斯敦的莱克伍德教堂(Lakewood Church)担任牧师，这是一座巨型教堂，如今坐落在NBA休斯敦火箭队(Houston Rockets) 2003年退役前的主场。2002年，姚明在那里完成了他的第一个赛季。而乔尔是火箭队的忠实球迷。
Joel Osteen
乔尔·欧斯汀在台上演讲
正如你现在所了解到的，我听过很多励志演说家的演讲也读了很多优秀的文学作品。我相信从他们中汲取深刻的洞察力是一种有益的做法，它能让你在需要的时候调用它并应用它。本文并不是为任何一位演讲者做广告，因为我对他们的内容和商业实践有自己独立的判断。
《希望之夜》带给我的主要收获之一是乔尔关于如何开始每一天的建议。如果你醒来时发现自己在说消极的事情，请承认这一点，甚至对自己说:“我在想消极的事情。”通过留心并意识到自己在想什么，从而能正确地看待这些想法。
自言自语是一个功能强大的交流方式：它可以让你变强大也可以击败你。
”一旦你停止了消极的自言自语，你就可以重新集中注意力，把你的思想引向积极的方向。对自己说出以下的三句话可以让你的一天都充满活力:
你有没有想过对自己说“早上好”？虽然这是一句我们经常对别人重复的trite（老一套）问候语，但当你把“good”和“morning”放在一起时，实际上是在向某人表达你的良好祝愿。言语自有其作用。如果你有能力祝福别人，那么你也可以祝福自己。
乔尔建议我们一觉醒来就对自己说:“今天会是个好日子。”这种积极的想法使你与周围积极的力量保持一致。即使在内心深处，你并不真的认为自己是认真的，但无论如何，还是要说出来，因为你必须在真正实现之前想象自己会有美好的一天。
通过有意识地引导自己当天的第一段想法来unleash（释放）你的想象力。由此扩展开来，你可以说服自己去实现梦想，但也可以说服自己放弃梦想。成功人士常说，你必须先看到自己内心的梦想，然后才能让它们真正实现。你可以通过探索每一天的正确打开方式来激活这个过程。
迪基·福克斯
在1996年的电影《甜心先生》中，汤姆·克鲁斯饰演一位体育经纪人，他在混乱的职业足球世界里创办了自己的管理公司。在其中的一个场景里，他的导师迪基·福克斯(Dicky Fox)说:“我喜欢早上起床。拍拍手说:‘这将是伟大的一天!’”真的是这样，试试吧。你可能会觉得好笑，但玩得开心也无妨嘛!
拥有感恩的态度是成功的基础。当你感激自己所拥有的事物，你将继续收获更多。如果你老是想着还没有的东西，就永远不会得到满足。这样的心态会让你的人生不断进步。对所拥有的心存感激，同时又努力去获得更多，这两者之间并不冲突。事实上，两者都是必要的。
乔尔·欧斯汀认为应该找到一些值得感激的事情。如果你没有胳膊和腿，要感激你有自己的心脏。他说:“不要去想什么是错的，但要为正确的事情感谢上主。”无论你是否相信上主，感恩都是幸福生活的重要品质，也是未来成功的基石。
你也可以增添一些幽默感。有时候，当我和正在经历艰难时刻的朋友们聊天时，我们会说:“活着的任何一天都是美好的一天。”当然，另一种选择是，我们不再活着。至少，无论你在面对什么，你都应该享受生活。仅这一点就值得庆祝。
李奥纳多·迪卡普里奥
在泰坦尼克号上，莱昂纳多·迪卡普里奥扮演的杰克·道森，爱上了富家小姐罗丝·道森·卡尔弗特。当罗丝的家人第一次询问他的价值观时，他回答说:“我觉得生命是一份礼物，不想浪费它……你要学会接受生活，当它来临时……让每一天都有所值。”他认为生命是一个礼物，而感恩使他让每一天都值得留恋。
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我们都喜欢新的开始与新的起点。就像我们在电脑出问题时重启电脑一样，每天早晨都是一个重新启动的机会。我们不需要等到中国新年，我们的生日，第一个月，或其他一些重要的日子才愿意重新开始。其实每天都可以重新开始，不管那天是不是一个momentous（重要的）时刻。
乔尔说:“让每一天都成为一个新的开始。不要让昨天的事妨害了今天。”昨天已成为历史，而你的历史不代表你的命运。明天怎样还是一个谜，所以我们只能在今天做到最好，为更好的未来做准备。
在我最近的意大利之旅中，我乘火车从罗马到那不勒斯。一群带着又大又重的行李的美国游客也上了火车。然而车上没有多少空间来放置这些行李，这减慢了他们上车的速度，其中一个抱怨道:“我们要把这些大袋子放在哪里?”而我想问他们:“你们为什么一开始带这么多东西?”
我不想判断他们的情况，因为他们可能在长途旅行中，或者因为健康原因不得不携带医疗设备。就我个人而言，我一直为旅行时行李过多而感到内疚。但这也是对生活的隐喻。当我们“背负太多包袱”时，我们让过去经历的负担cripple（阻碍）了自己的进步，影响了自己的性格。
当我们每天醒来时，可以提醒自己新的一天已经到来。过去的已经消失了，我们可以翻开新的一页，重新开始。如果过去有人伤害了你，我们不需要让那个人今天继续伤害我们。当过去的创伤和失败的负面声音浮现在脑海中时，我们可以进行“删除”，然后再“重启”以继续前进。
忘记过去伤害你的，但永远不要忘记它带给自己的教训。
”《希望之夜》现场乐队
我的朋友，积极的想法为富有成效的一天奠定了基础。当你醒来后感到焦虑时，审视一下正在发生的事情，用诸如“今天会是美好的一天”、“我感激生活的一切”和“今天是新的一天”之类的话语来取代消极的自我对话。不久之后，你就能够享受更美好的生活，进入更高的层次。
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Three things to tell yourself when you wake up
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When you woke up this morning, what was the first thing you said to yourself? If you're like many of us, it may have been one of these things:
I'm tired.Ugh, I don't know how I'm going to get through this day.Wow, I just had a weird dream. What's wrong with my mind?
OMG, I forgot about that problem! I'm in trouble...Things just aren't going right, and I wish I could just stay in bed.
Perhaps you’re snickering as you read these lines, as you know that, yes, you indeed say these things to yourself from time to time! We all engage in negative self-talk. Very often this negative self-talk seems more intense when we’re in state of grogginess, regardless of whether we’re jolted awake by the alarm clock or if we happen to wake up naturally.
Yet what you say to yourself in the morning sets the tone for your whole day. If you say positive things, you’re setting yourself up for a good day. If you say negative things, you could be starting your day on the wrong foot. One sure way to catapult yourself to the next level in life is to say the right things to yourself…from the very second you wake up.
A key to a life of victory
Last Friday, I attended Joel and Victoria Osteen’s Night of Hope at the Philadelphia Wells Fargo Center. You may have seen this 20,000+ seat arena before on television, as the Philadelphia 76ers play home games there. In fact, I was last there on February 5 to watch the 76ers play the LA Clippers for the Chinese New Year Celebration Game, broadcast live in China by Tencent.
76ers Chinese New Year Game
Joel Osteen is a pastor and motivational speaker. He is not very well known in China, but he has a large and loyal following elsewhere. He pastors Lakewood Church in Houston, Texas, a megachurch now located in the arena where the NBA’s Houston Rockets played until 2003. Yao Ming played his first season there in 2002. Joel is a dedicated Rockets fan.
Joel Osteen
As you know by now, I listen to a lot of motivational speakers and read a lot of success literature. I believe it is a healthy practice to acquire a wellspring of insight, which enables you to call it up and apply it when you need it. This article is not an endorsement of any speaker, as I make my own independent judgment of their content and business practices.
Joel and Victoria
One of my main takeaways from the Night of Hope was Joel’s advice on how to start each day. If you find yourself saying negative things when you wake up, acknowledge that and even say it to yourself: “I am thinking negative thoughts.” By being mindful and aware of what you’re thinking, you put them in perspective.
Self-talk is a powerful form of communication: it can empower you or defeat you.
”Once you stop the negative self-talk in its tracks, you can refocus and move your thoughts in a positive direction. Here are three things you can say to energize your day:
Have you ever thought of saying “Good Morning” to yourself? Even though it is a trite greeting we often absent-mindedly repeat to others, when you add “good” and “morning” together, you are actually sending someone your well wishes. Words have power. If you have the power to wish others well, then it goes without saying that you can wish yourself well, too.
Joel suggested that just as soon as we wake up we say, “This is going to be a good day.” This positive thinking puts you in alignment with the positive forces around you. Even if deep down you don’t really think you mean it, say it anyway, as you have to conceive having a good day before it actually comes about.
You unleash the power of vision by intentionally directing your first thoughts of the day. On a larger scale, you can talk yourself into your dreams, but you can talk yourself out of them as well. Successful people often say that you have to see your dreams on the inside before you see them come true on the outside. You activate the process by starting each day right.
Dicky Fox
In the 1996 movie Jerry Maguire, Tom Cruise plays a sports agent who starts his own management firm in the rough-and-tumble world of professional football. In one scene, his mentor Dicky Fox said, “I love getting up in the mornings. I clap my hands and say, ‘This is going to be a great day!’” Seriously, try it. You may laugh, but it’s fine to have some fun with this!
Having an attitude of gratitude is a foundation for success. When you are grateful for what you have, you will always have more. If you dwell on what you don’t have, you will never have enough. This mindset then sets you up for a lifetime of increase. There is no conflict in being thankful for what you have while also striving to achieve more. In fact, both are necessary.
Joel Osteen said that you should find something to be grateful for. If you don’t have an arm and a leg, be grateful that you have your heart. He said, “don’t think about what’s wrong, but thank God for what’s right.” Regardless of whether you have faith in a supreme being, gratitude is a crucial trait for a happy life and a building block for future success.
You can add some humor to it as well. Sometimes when I’m talking with friends who are going through a tough time, we’ll say, “Any day above ground is a good day.” The alternative, of course, is that we are no longer alive. At the very least, no matter what you’re dealing with, you have life. That alone is worth celebrating.
Life is a gift
In The Titanic, Leonardo DiCaprio plays Jack Dawson, a ruffian who fell in love with the wealthy Rose Dawson Calvert. When her family first quizzes him on his values, he replies, “I figure life’s a gift and I don’t intend on wasting it…You learn to take life as it comes at you…to make each day count.” He saw life as a gift, and gratitude caused him to make it count.
We all love new beginnings and fresh starts. Just as we reboot our computers when something goes awry, each morning is a chance to reboot and begin anew. We need not wait for Chinese New Year, our birthday, the first of the month, or some other important date to begin again. We can start over each and every day, regardless of whether it's a momentous occasion.
Joel said, “Let every day be a new beginning. Don’t let yesterday poison today.” Yesterday is history, and your history is not your destiny. Tomorrow is a mystery, so we can only do our best today to prepare for a better future.
On my recent trip to Italy, I took the train from Rome to Naples. A group of American tourists with lots of bulky, heavy luggage was also getting on the train. There wasn’t much room to place these bags, slowing down their entry, and one of them complained, “Where are we going to put all these big bags?” I wanted to ask them, “Why did you carry so much to begin with?”
I don’t want to judge their circumstances, as perhaps they were on a long journey or had to carry medical equipment for health conditions. And I, for one, have been guilty for overpacking for trips. But this is also a metaphor for life. When we “carry too much baggage,” we allow the weight of our past experiences to cripple our progress and influence our current disposition.
When we wake up each day, we can remind ourselves that today is a new day. That past has passed, and we can turn the page and make a fresh start. If somebody hurt you in the past, we don’t need to let that person continue to hurt us today. When the negative voices of past trauma and failure come to mind, we can say “delete” and then “reboot” to move forward.
Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you.
”Lakewood Church Band
My friend, positive thoughts set the foundation for a productive day. When you wake up and feel anxious, take stock in what is happening and replace the negative self-talk with declarations like, “Today is going to be a good day,” “I am grateful for this life,” and “Today is a new day.” Before long, you’ll have better days, moving you forward to much higher levels.
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1.Jolt \ ˈjōlt \
a)含义：v. 使觉醒；使震惊
b)例句：
i.Very often this negative self-talk seems more intense when we’re in state of grogginess, regardless of whether we’re jolted awake by the alarm clock or if we happen to wake up naturally.
很多时候，当我们处于昏昏沉沉的状态时，这种消极的自言自语似乎更加强烈，不管我们是被闹钟惊醒，还是碰巧自然醒了。
ii.His remark jolted her into action.
他的话使她猛然醒悟而行动起来。
c)近义词：shock, stun, surprise
2.Trite \ ˈtrīt \
a)含义：adj. 陈腐的；平庸的
b)例句：
i.Even though it is a trite greeting we often absent-mindedly repeat to others, when you add “good” and “morning” together, you are actually sending someone your well wishes.
虽然这是一句我们经常对别人重复的老一套问候语，但当你把“good”和“morning”放在一起时，你实际上是在向某人表达你的良好祝愿。
ii.The simple concepts he had been taught now sounded trite and naive.
他曾经被教导的简单观念如今听起来陈腐而幼稚。
c)近义词：banal, cliché, hackney
3.Unleash \ ˌən-ˈlēsh \
a)含义：v. 发泄；释放
b)例句：
i.You unleash the power of vision by intentionally directing your first thoughts of the day.
通过有意识地引导自己当天的第一段想法来释放你的想象力。
ii.The combination promises to unleash the true potential of the team.
这三者的结合一定能够释放团队的真正潜力。
c)近义词：loose, release, unlock
4.Momentous \ mō-ˈmen-təs \
a)含义：adj. 重要的；重大的
b)例句：
i.We can start over each and every day, regardless of whether it's a momentous occasion.
其实每天都可以重新开始，不管那天是不是一个重要的时刻。
ii.For many, your wedding day is one of the biggest, most momentous days of your life.
对于许多人来说，你的婚礼当天是最大的，你的人生最重大的日子之一。
c)近义词：consequential, eventful, significant
5.Cripple \ ˈkri-pəl \
a)含义：v. 削弱；严重毁坏
b)例句：
i.When we “carry too much baggage,” we allow the weight of our past experiences to cripple our progress and influence our current disposition.
当我们“背负太多包袱”时，我们让过去经历的负担阻碍了自己的进步，影响了自己的性格。
ii.The pilot tried to land his crippled plane.
飞行员试图驾驶损坏严重的飞机着陆。
c)近义词：disable, incapacitate, maim
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