Cynthia：Tantric Love 谭崔式的爱

Tantric Love 

谭崔式的爱

英文原创 | 【澳】Cynthia  翻译 | Vala 

 （已获得Cynthia授权）

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记得很多年前，当我还是一个年轻的女人，一个朋友给了我一本书叫“谭崔-只有一个天空”。这是精神导师奥修写的，我一直在看整晚都没睡。他对谭崔精神生活的重现和对真理的认知唤醒了我。

I remember many years ago when I was a young woman, a friend gave me a book called ‘Tantra – Only One Sky’. It was by spiritual teacher Osho, and I stayed awake reading it all night. I was awakened by the recognition of truth in his evocation of the tantric spiritual life.

几十年后的上个月，我在塞浦路斯带领Livinglove的进阶工作坊，其中一个晚上的主题是性。我谈论谭崔。我通常不会用谭崔来形容Livinglove工作坊，因为现在这个词有太多的标签。然而，我对谭崔的体验与在我的工作坊中发生的爱的开放有着深刻的联系，深入到男性本质和女性本质、极性和具体的、充满活力的亲密。我想和你们分享一些关于谭崔的想法，以及它如何应用于性、爱和生活。

Last month, and decades later, I am leading an Advanced Living Love workshop in Cyprus, and one of the evenings is based around sexuality. I talk about Tantra. I don’t often describe my Living Love work as ‘tantra’ as there are so many associations with that label now. However my experiences of Tantra are profoundly connected to the opening to love that occurs in my workshops, deepening into masculine and feminine essence, polarity and embodied, energetic intimacy. I want to share a few ideas with you on Tantra and how it applies to sexuality, love and life.

波峰与波谷 | Peaks and Valleys

传统的性行为主要是前戏和性唤起，目的是双方通过性高潮达到释放。对女人来说，这通常是阴蒂高潮，而对男人来说，这是射精。这会带你踏上一段快乐的旅程。一个好的爱人会学会如何通过让对方开心也点燃自己。

然而，这种性体验的弧线在达到顶峰后会下降，尤其是对于男性来说，射精后需要一段时间才能再次唤起。

Conventional sexuality is mostly about foreplay and arousal, with the goal of both people achieving release through orgasm. For the woman this is usually clitoral orgasm(s) and for the man it is ejaculation. This can take you on a great journey of pleasure. And a good lover learns how to pleasure the other in the way that turns them on.

However, the arc of that sexual experience is building up to a peak and then there is a drop, especially for the man, who after ejaculating can take a while to become aroused again.

缓慢形成的波动 | A slowly building wave

在谭崔中，我们的目标是将做爱体验为将唤起的高峰和高峰之间的低谷，作为一种缓慢形成的波动。在高潮前，尤其是男性高潮前，延缓并放慢速度，然后进入山谷通过身体去扩散性能量，并专注于与他人的连结。

In Tantra the aim is to experience love making as both the peaks of arousal and the valleys in between, as a slowly building wave. Pulling back and slowing down before the climax of orgasm, especially the male orgasm, and dropping into the valley to diffuse the sexual energy through the body and concentrate on connection with the other.

在经历了建造山峰乐趣的兴奋之后，山谷看起来是平淡的，但如果你带着临在和爱在山谷中流连，那么它就会给你带来微妙的感觉和深刻的结合作为回报。如果我们能在不关闭自己的情况下拥抱山谷，那么它就会变得丰富多彩。然后，性的能量就会重新开始构建，最终移动到一系列的高峰和低谷，每一次都变得更高。每一次高峰都变得越来越强，拥有更多强烈的快乐和爱。

The valley can seem flat after the excitement of building pleasure of the peak, but if you linger in the valley with presence and love then it has its own rewards of subtle sensation and deep union. The valley is rich and varied if we can embrace it without switching off. Then the sexual energy starts to build again, moving eventually to a series of peaks and valleys, getting higher each time. And each time the peak is getting stronger and holding more intense pleasure and love.

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放下对目标的追求 | Let go of goal-seeking

拥抱这种做爱的方式就是放弃追求目标、表现压力和把事情做好。为了更大的意图去相信空虚和充实。它确实需要男性掌握射精技巧，如果女性在高潮后失去大量能量，也需要掌握技巧。如果没有，她可以建设多个高潮的波浪。

To embrace this way of making love is to let go of goal-seeking, of performance pressure, of getting it right. For the bigger intention of trusting the emptiness as well as the fulness. It does require ejaculation mastery from the man, and possibly from the woman too if she loses a lot of energy after orgasm. If not, she can have multiple orgasms as the waves build.

射精控制是一个完全不同的主题，许多性学教师会涵盖此。然而，山峰和山谷的方法途径使它变得容易得多，因为在山谷中，男人可以放慢脚步，呼吸，放松，并专注于他的爱人。

这需要时间。(有时享受其他更快的性连结方式也很棒。)

你不需要同伴来练习，这可以是你自己的经验。

Ejaculation control is a whole other subject, which is covered by many teachers on sexuality. However, the peaks and valleys approach makes it a lot easier, as in the valleys the man can slow down, breathe, relax, and focus on his beloved.

It takes time. (It is also great to sometimes enjoy other quicker ways of sexual connection.)

You don’t need a partner to practice this, it can be your own experience.

谭崔是关于生命和生活的，它反映在我们的性行为中。那么，在生活中，我们是否总是在追求巅峰时的刺激，追求目标带给我们的肾上腺素激增，渴望突然进入睡眠或虚无状态时的释放呢?学习如何在山谷“存在”是实现人生目标的基础，在那里我们可以成为直觉、觉知和爱。它是我们倾听的地方，是我们静止的地方，是我们跳舞的地方，是我们拥抱未知、未见的神秘的地方。

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Tantra is about life, which is mirrored in our sexuality. So, in life are we always seeking the thrill of the peaks, the adrenaline rush of the goal, craving the release of the sudden drop into sleep or nothingness? Learning how to ‘be’ in the valley is fundamental to a fulfilling life where we can be intuitive, aware and loving. It is where we listen and where we are still, where we dance and where we embrace the unknown, the unseen mystery.

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她用性接收；他用心接收 | She is receptive sexually; he is receptive in the heart

谭崔的意思是“编织”，编织所有的一切，编织对立的男性和女性，积极和消极，光明和黑暗。不是拒绝，而是有意识地拥抱一切。这是一条包容性的灵性道路，而不是一条放弃的道路，尽管需要纪律。拥有觉知和心灵，能够毫无畏惧地投入到存在的事物中去，这是一种非常强大的实践。在痛苦中呼吸，用爱改变它。整合他人的观点，而不需要坚持自己的正义。这需要勇气和实践——跌跌撞撞，感觉探索，经历，放手，继续前进。

Tantra means ‘weaving’, the weaving of all that is, the weaving of the opposites of Masculine and Feminine, positive and negative, light and dark. Not rejecting but embracing everything with awareness. It is an inclusive path of spirituality, not a renunciative path, although requiring discipline. To have the awareness and the heart to be able to dive into what exists without recoil is a very strong practice. To breathe in suffering and transform it with love. To integrate the others viewpoints without needing to assert our own righteously. This takes courage and practice – stumbling, feeling exploring, experiencing, letting go and moving on.

在谭崔性中，男性的本质在生殖器中带正电，女性的本质在心脏中带正电。这到底意味着什么?这意味着他的性能量会更外向，她的心能量和祝福的力量会更外向。她用性接收;他用心接收。她能让他更深入内心，他能唤醒她深层的性欲。

In tantric sexuality the masculine essence is positively charged in the genitals and the feminine is positively charged in the heart centre. What does this actually mean? It means that he will be more outward moving in his sexual energy, she will be more outward moving in her heart energy, her blessing force. She is receptive sexually; he is receptive in the heart. She can bring him more into the heart, and he can awaken her deep sexuality.

当这发生时，在两个爱人之间有一个能量循环流动，以两个身体的形式创造了一个爱的结合。

一个简单的例子是，如果她的乳头受到刺激，这将增加她的性器官的能量。当他的生殖器受到刺激时，他的心脏会更容易打开。

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When this happens there is a circuit of energy flowing between the two lovers that creates a union of One Love in the two-bodied form.

A simple example is if her nipples are stimulated this will increase her sexual energy in her genitals. When he is stimulated in his genitals his heart will open more easily.

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把连结放在首位 | Placing connection above all else

传统的谭崔大师使用性能量来启迪开悟。这根本不是浪漫的爱情。它是关于精神成长的。现在我看到，有时候那些探索谭崔性的人过分关注技术和循环呼吸，计算他们的高潮等等。做爱就是在爱人之间创造爱，把连结置于一切之上。

那天可能没有高潮，这有关系吗? 如果你们都与心和性有关，那就不是。那么，没有任何高潮也可以真正保持极性的活力，并激活性化学反应再次相遇。

这可以帮助一对夫妇发现什么是有效的，成为一个做爱的“团队”，互相支持，找到满足，快乐，增加爱和临在。对你们之间正在发生的事情保持开放的态度，而不是智力上或心理上的交流，而是直接开放身体和心灵的反馈。这是山谷体验的一部分。

Traditionally Tantra adepts used sexual energy for enlightenment. It isn’t about romantic love at all. It is about spiritual growth. Now I see that sometimes people who are exploring tantric sexuality get overly focused on techniques and circulating breaths, counting their orgasms and so on. Making love is about creating love between lovers, placing connection above all else. There may be no orgasms that day, and does it matter? Not if you are both connected with heart and sex. Then no orgasm can actually keep the polarity alive and activate sexual chemistry to meet again. It is for the couple to find out what works, to be a love-making ‘team’ supporting each other to find fulfilment, pleasure and increasing love and presence. Being open about what’s going on for you, between you, without it being an intellectual or psychological session, but direct open body and heart feedback. In the valley this is part of the experience.

我们能咆哮和抓吗？| Can we roar and claw

拥抱一切中，谭崔探索了从光明到黑暗的整个能量范围。这表现在性方面，但不仅仅是性方面。当能量升起并停留在开放的心中时，我们能咆哮和抓吗?如果不保护我们的开放性，我们能变得超级脆弱和温柔吗?在谭崔的爱和生活中，戏剧可以在一瞬间从“祝福”变成“野兽”。

谭崔的爱，活着的爱也意味着与摆在桌子上的东西一起工作，也包括老化的身体，残疾，恐惧，偏好，性扭曲，封闭，过去的创伤，怀疑和所有其他人性的面向。在自己与他人之间。

有时候，一切都在一起，最终我们学会了在紧张的时候放松下来。这为接下来的时刻和可能性打开了大门。

In the embrace of all that is, tantra explores a whole range of energies from light to dark. This is not only done sexually, but it does express there. Can we roar and claw when that energy arises and stay in the open heart? Can we be super vulnerable and tender without protecting our openness? In tantric love and life the play can go from ‘blessings to beast’ in a heartbeat.

Tantric Love, Living Love also means working with what’s on the table and that will include ageing bodies, disabilities, fears, preferences, sexual kinks, closures, past traumas, doubt and all other aspects of humanity. In oneself and the other.

Sometimes it all comes together and eventually we learn to relax when it doesn’t. This opens the door for the next moment and possibility.

挑战与困难的融合其实超级性感。能够掌握和流动这一切，拥有幽默，关心和善良，凶猛，这是对谭崔的掌握，通过生活编织爱和觉知。这比机械技术和更好的性高潮更性感。对之相对，你会在密宗爱中扩展性和快乐，因为它的转化让限制消融。

在惊奇中——如果我们活在真正的惊奇中，在那一刻，吸气，呼气，带着孩子般成熟的好奇心去探索，去拥抱，去爱，去做爱，去生活，就像我们注定要做的那样。

Integration of challenges and difficulties is actually super sexy. To be able to hold and flow with it all, to have humour, to be caring and kind, to be fierce, this is a mastery of tantra and the weaving of love and awareness through the fabric of life. This is much sexier than mechanical techniques and better orgasms. Paradoxically though you will have expanded sexuality and pleasure in tantric love because it transforms and the restrictions melt away.

In wonder – what if we lived with true wonder, in the moment, breathing in, breathing out, with a child-like yet mature curiosity to explore and embrace and love and fuck and live like we are made to do.

这就是密宗之爱。

带着爱和感激，

辛西娅

This is Tantric Love.

With love and appreciation,

Cynthia

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