人世间，爱欲中，独生独死独轮回

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从轮回的角度来说，所有的关系都要被解构！今生你是我的妻子，你下一世不一定是。你死，我死，大家不能在同一个时间死，就算在同一个时间死，他们都会进入不同中阴的轨道，不同生命的轨道，不同生命的轮回。佛法叫作独生独死独轮回。

——普明蓮華威权事业金刚上师

爱 别 离 苦

（双语经典）

我们流转于世间，贪著于自己所认同的人，而对其它人则具有敌意。为了家人、追随者、同伴、朋友与爱人，我们都愿意承担各种痛苦。但亲友、眷属都无法恒久住世，我们迟早必定要离开他们。亲友死亡，或远离家乡，或被仇敌等其它危险胁迫，他们所经历的痛苦影响了我们，比我们自己受苦还要深刻。特别是为人父母，经常担忧小孩是否着凉、饥渴，甚至忧虑他们是否会生病或死亡。事实上，父母疼爱自己的小孩，甚至宁愿牺牲性命，也不愿他们受苦，因此受到极大的痛苦煎熬。

Weho live in this world of samsara all feel attachment for those with whom we identify and hostility toward others. For the sake of our families, followers, compatriots, friends and lovers, we are prepared to undergo all sorts of suffering. None of those with whom we have ties of kin or friendship can live for ever, and sooner or later we are bound to be separated from them. They die, or they drift off to other countries, or they are threatened by enemies and other dangers – and the suffering they undergo affects us more deeply than our own. Parents, especially, care very much for their children to the point that they would rather die themselves than let them suffer, and for their sake suffer a great deal of anguish. 

然而，虽然我们惧怕与相爱的亲友分离，因此受了这么多的苦，但是我们应该仔细地想一想，我们与亲爱的人是否真的如想象中一般亲？

譬如，双亲对我们宣称亲子之爱，但他们爱的方法是误导的，而且其结果是终究有害的。他们努力给我们财富、田产，促使我们结婚，只是让轮回更加束缚我们。他们教导我们各种知识，如何去征服对手、照顾朋友，如何致富以及各种其它的恶行，这些都只会导致我们更加不可避免地沉沦在恶道中。

But although we suffer so much from this dread of being separated from the friends and relatives we love, we should think about it carefully. Can we be so sure that our dear ones are as dear as we think?

For instance, our parents claim to love us as their children, but their way of loving us is misguided and has an effect that is ultimately harmful. By trying to give us wealth and property and get us married, they are tightening samsara’s hold on us. They teach us everything we need to know about how to get the better of our adversaries, how to take care of our friends, how to get rich, and all the other harmful courses of action that will just make sure that we stay inescapably trapped in the lower realms. 

至于我们的子女，开始时他们吸吮我们身体内的精华，长大时从我们口中夺走食物，最后从我们手中攫取财产。我们所给的爱，他们以叛逆来回报。

As for our children, both boys and girls, in the beginning they suck the essence out of our bodies, in the middle they take food out of our mouths, and in the end they take wealth out of our hands. In return for our love they rebel against us.

我们将毕生所有赚取的财富都给了儿女们，完全不计较这是经历过多少痛苦、批评与恶行才得来的，但他们却一点也不感激。即使送给他们满满的中国银子，他们的感激还比不上我们送一把茶叶给一般人所得到的感谢。他们永远觉得父亲所拥有的，理所当然地会成为他们的财产。

To our sons and daughters we give all the wealth that we have earned throughout our lives, without counting the cost and regardless of all the negative activities, suffering and criticism we have had to go through – but they are still not in the least bit grateful. Even if we present them with a full measure of Chinese silver, they are less grateful that any normal person would be if we had given them a pinch of tea-leaves. They just think that whatever belongs to their father automatically belongs to them.

至于我们的亲戚、朋友们，当我们富裕快乐、事事如意时，他们就待我们如天人般，尽力帮助我们，送一大堆不需要的东西。一旦我们沦落衰败，处境艰难，虽然对他们完全无害，我们也会被他们视如仇敌，即使是善意也会被恶意中伤。

As for all our other relatives and friends, they treat us like gods – as long as we are prosperous and happy and everything is going splendidly. They do whatever they can to help us, and giv us all kinds of things of which we have no need. But should we fall on hard times, although we have done them no harm at all, they treat us like enemies and return with malice any kindness we show them.

所有这一切说明了在轮回中子女、亲戚、朋友们，毫无任何实义。

*摘录自《普贤上师言教》

Excerpted from The Words of My Perfect Teacher

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