噶千语录-Gar Quote 44《业力使然，非得和恶友一起生活，怎么办?||Who is Bad Friend?》

噶千语录44

佛子行三十七頌

第五偈

交近彼而三毒增
且令闻思修退转能使慈悲灭尽者
远恶友为佛子行

或许有人会想，恶友就是那些仇恨我们的恶劣小人，但情况未必如此。




从别解脱道的观点而言，恶友是妨碍我们修行的人；要是我们不修行，贪嗔痴三毒就会增长。 亲爱的朋友可能就是妨碍你修行的人，而一个尽找麻烦的人或许是在帮你修行。

进一步而言，有个尽找麻烦却相信因果的朋友，胜过一位精明干练却不相信因果的施惠者。无论如何，修行尚未稳固的初学者，很可能会受到这种友伴负面的影响；就像是，可能会开始抽烟喝酒，或者开始否定业力。由于负面的影响，导致了恶业的增长，因此避开这样的友伴是比较好的。
至于菩萨，由于菩萨懂得修持忍辱与慈爱，因此无人需要弃舍。找麻烦的那些人是忍辱的助缘，而亲爱的人是慈爱的助伴。






如果能保持稳固的耐心和爱心，就没有必要远离找麻烦人。菩萨不会受到负面的影响；而且，与惹是生非的人做伴，还可能将之转变成一个更好的人。然而，尽管我们是初学者，但是到头来，我们可能处在一个无法弃舍的关系中。然而我们的修行还不稳定，应该远离那些防碍我们修行的恶友才对；可是业力使然，人们相遇，然后就无可避免地非得一起生活。这该怎么办？

这时，我们必须提起觉知，应当舍弃的不是友伴，而是烦恼。真正要舍弃的恶友是「我执」，要是不舍弃「我执」这个恶友，我们会总是遇到障难。 

「远恶友」的意思并不是抛弃令我们厌烦的朋友。如果你心想:「我们老是争吵，还不如分开算了。」这样的想法是错误的。而且，如果这么做的话，你会一次又一次遇到合不来的朋友。

我们是持守菩萨戒的人，我们发过誓要对「每一个人」长养出爱，慈悲与菩提心；因此，我们不能把「每一个人」说成是「除了他以外的每一个人」。 转译自Drikung Dharma Surya Center所结集之 Quotes From The Precious One”No. 44众生怙主噶千仁波切之「瑰宝语录」
藏英翻譯: Ina Bieler
英中翻译: 正德
中译审校: 惃秋策拉

Quotes From The Precious One 

Gar Quote No. 44 _Who is Bad Friend?

The 37 Bodhisattva PracticesSeries, Verse 5

"When evil companions are associated with, the three poisons increase, the activities of listening, pondering and meditation decline, and love and compassion are extinguished. Abandoning evil companions is the Bodhisattvas' practice."

One may think that evil companions are those mean people who hate us. But this is not necessarily the case. From the perspective of the Pratimoksha path, an evil companion is someone who prevents us from practicing the Dharma. If we do not practice, the three poisons, desire, hatred and ignorance increase. A loving friend may be someone preventing your from practice, and a trouble maker may help you to practice. Further more, it is better to have a troublesome friend who believes in karma, than a skillful benefactor who does not believe in karma. 

However, a beginning practitioner, whose practice is not yet stable, might be influenced in a negative way by such a companion, for instance, they might begin drinking and smoking, or deny karma. As such negative influence leads to the increase of negative karma, it is better to avoid such companions. A bodhisattva practices patience and love, thus there is no one to be abandoned.

Those who are troublesome are benefactors of patience, and those who are loving are benefactors of love. If one is able to sustain stability in patience and love, there is no need to abandon troublesome people.

A bodhisattva will not be influenced negatively, and by keeping the troublesome person company, the latter may even change and become a better person. Even if we are a beginning practitioner, we might end up in a relationship that we cannot abandon, eventhough our practice is not yet stable. Due to karmic forces, people meet and are bound to live together. 

So what can we do? We have to generate awareness and abandon rather the afflictive emotions than the companion. The true evil companion to be abandoned is self-grasping. If we do not abandon this evil companion, we will always encounter obstacles. Abandoning evil companions does not mean to abandon our friends who are annoying, thinking, "we always fight, we better break up." This would be a mistake and by doing that we will meet unharmonious friends again and again. We are holders of the bodhisattva vows. We promised to cultivate love, compassion, and bodhicitta for everyone, so we cannot say “everyone except him.”

Still, we must not accept wrong views. Whatever someone with wrong views, desire, anger, or sectarianism says, you should not listen to it. In brief, we have to purify our mind; if we follow thoughts of desire and aversion, our love, kindness and compassion vanish.

Quotes From The Precious One

English traslation by Ina Dhragye

Compilation in 2013 by Drikung Dharma Surya Center

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